Can female/male coworkers have an innocent drink?

[samantha39]

My boyfriend who is 37 works as a teacher. Can he have a drink once every two months or so with a female coworker without it being anything suspicious? They went once in June for an hour and I knew where he was (around the corner of his townhome), who he was with, and I was at his place watching TV. He brought her in to introduce me to her. Now that school has started again, I am worried that he will be doing this regularly. Not that he has indicating this, but he told me that having a drink with her or with any coworker after work once in a while, with my full knowledge of where he is, who he is with, and how long he will be gone is not anything to worry about. Am I being excessively jealous here? I went as far as to tell him that if a man and woman (regardless if they work together) are having a drink alone, it is a date. He told me I was crazy because a date means there is romantic intent and not an innocent after work drink once every blue moon. Am I being crazy?

[Anonymous]

I don't think you're being crazy. Even if it's innocent now, feelings have a way of developing over time. I can understand a drink every once in a while WITH other colleagues in tow, but if it's just your boyfriend and her alone, that's a bit suspicious to me. The next time he asks, tell him you want to join them. If it's innocent, he shouldn't have a problem with you accompanying them. If he puts up a fuss, more than likely, he wants some alone/quality time with her. Good Luck.

[decor]

If he was honest about this, then let it go until proven otherwise. You have to have some trust in a relationship. Now, if he gives you solid evidence that he is really enjoying her, then make a decision if you want to stay with him.

[Anonymous]

By being open with you regarding his whereabouts, etc., he's attempting to hide in full sight. I don't think you're being crazy at all. Trust your gut!

[InAmberClad117]

Just a little. =) If he's willing to be completely honest about it you should trust him. =) I know the workings of teachers (Many people in my family are teachers) and they do like to get together and chat about school and students and life in general. It's just a part of their job and life. =)

Trust him, things will be fine.

[AltTech]

It isn't a date without romantic intentions. With that said, they most certainly can develop over a few casual meet ups.

I do that from time to time, but if I had a girlfriend, I would stop doing it if it made her uncomfortable.

[samantha39]

You sound more considerate that my boyfriend. He told me I should just get over it since he is being completely honest with me.

[wolfgang]

if he has given you all the information and being honest ...then it is no worries...i think you are thinking a lot ...chill relax

peace

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