You have women who drive nice expensive cars that they get off a credit card with no limit which they earned by having good credit. They do hair. They do nails, lashes and pretty much have their own business. They’re not clocking in for a 9-5 everyday. They have their own place and they take great care of their child or kids because they can provide financially. While you, on the other hand, don’t drive, you have a regular job. You take Ubers, Lyfts and public transportation. You’re still looking for a place to stay with a six month old son while still staying with your parents. You help with bills, rent, food etc. You can buy all things you need and your baby but you want to be able to pay your own rent and bills but can’t afford to right now. You can provide for your child. You’re smart and intelligent. You have a beautiful, giving and kind soul but you just can’t catch up with the have it altogether/high maintenance women. You don’t always have your hair and nails done and look up to part like they do. You’re just regular and by passed and looked over.
How can you compete or keep up or catch up with high maintenance women who have their life together?
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If I would be like you described, I wouldn't date a woman like that - she wouldn't even look at me.
However, I come from an industrial family and am active in politics, I'm married and my wife too comes from an industrial family; look after my children and family, so in my case I would only frequent a woman who can keep up with me and not slow me down.
😆😆😆 the fact that this is what you are worried about is why you fail.
You actually have point but like most people, I won’t be that person to pretend to be so different and out of touch with todays society, so I will admit and say I am influenced by what I see on social media and from what I see on there, it just makes me feel like I’m behind when the reality of it is they could be lying, over exaggerating or not telling the full truth. They’re only allowing others to see what they want to portray or what they want others to see but it’s still hard to not feel left out.
Nope. You totally missed my point. It's the fact that you feel you need to compete. You've got a 6month old son (wonder how that happened😆😆😆). And you're still worried about keeping up with the joneses.
Not worried. I’m just trying to figure out how they figured out how to get their lives together while having a child or kids. I have a six month old because I had sex with my sons father who I was with for three years. The total and honest truth, which I’m not shamed of, is his dad and I weren’t good for each other. The relationship started off toxic and abusive. I rushed into things with him, fell in love but not with the guy I thought I fell in love with. He showed me who he was plenty of times. I just refused to accept it. He has hit/abused me plenty of times even when I was pregnant. I left each time just to go back and forgive him. It’s been a few months since I decided to leave him alone for good and just be a parent to our son. Everything I do now is for my son. Trying to get back in school, working overtime, making sure he’s cared for and loved. Attempting to afford to live on my own with my son. My priorities aren’t messed up but more so mentally, I’m so focused on worried about how everyone else has everything their child needs from their own place/own business but me, I’m taking care of him from my parents home. My focus is on my son rather than trying to keep up but I want to keep up for the sake of providing for him because I feel like if I can do everything they seem to be doing through what I see them do on social media, then I can be the best mother I can be.