How can you compete or keep up or catch up with high maintenance women who have their life together?

[Anonymous]

You have women who drive nice expensive cars that they get off a credit card with no limit which they earned by having good credit. They do hair. They do nails, lashes and pretty much have their own business. They’re not clocking in for a 9-5 everyday. They have their own place and they take great care of their child or kids because they can provide financially. While you, on the other hand, don’t drive, you have a regular job. You take Ubers, Lyfts and public transportation. You’re still looking for a place to stay with a six month old son while still staying with your parents. You help with bills, rent, food etc. You can buy all things you need and your baby but you want to be able to pay your own rent and bills but can’t afford to right now. You can provide for your child. You’re smart and intelligent. You have a beautiful, giving and kind soul but you just can’t catch up with the have it altogether/high maintenance women. You don’t always have your hair and nails done and look up to part like they do. You’re just regular and by passed and looked over.

[ClaircognizantEmpath]

hey you!! you turn that shit right around... you by far are the woman id look at and have utter respect... you would catch my attention, my compassion, fuck those nails, hair, cars its all superficial and is pale in significance to your attitude, drive and damn right power... house... have you thought about another single mom to rent a house with? makes sense to me... take a moment to appreciate your self your state of mind and achievements... you just need a way to get your own place... maybe even three or four moms to rent a large house together... or pack up your stuff and take your butt and your offspring on an adventure, travel to Europe find a community living experience... where a few hours a week helping out gives you a home and food... a free life to live with your child... free not to have to spend most of your waking hours earning money to just about survive... you could community live and be happier, healthier and most of your time is yours to be present for your child instead of exhausted by the ideals of society... I've known a lot of kids whove come from wealth, and there is no real family connection... one summer my ds was 8 dd was 5 i took on catering at a campsite... moved in march in a caravan in a field of mud, as the mom stomped both to the block of concrete showers... freezing fricking cold... all got showered.. trudged back.. they had bunk beds one end, us in a double the other... for a whole season... during i broke up with their dad... so got a house nearby... to stay in but our presence was mostly still at the campsite... my end point is... both of them have the campsite year as one of their best memories, they were the kids whos mum owned the cafe!! the freedom.. the natural outdoor life.. their parents spilt up in the middle of that year? but thats as far as can be from their fond recall... I've always found that fascinating... the best year of their childhood, apparently... you just need to find your tribe honey bee xx

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

If I would be like you described, I wouldn't date a woman like that - she wouldn't even look at me.

However, I come from an industrial family and am active in politics, I'm married and my wife too comes from an industrial family; look after my children and family, so in my case I would only frequent a woman who can keep up with me and not slow me down.

[Anonymous]

😆😆😆 the fact that this is what you are worried about is why you fail.

[Asker]

You actually have point but like most people, I won’t be that person to pretend to be so different and out of touch with todays society, so I will admit and say I am influenced by what I see on social media and from what I see on there, it just makes me feel like I’m behind when the reality of it is they could be lying, over exaggerating or not telling the full truth. They’re only allowing others to see what they want to portray or what they want others to see but it’s still hard to not feel left out.

[Opinion Owner]

Nope. You totally missed my point. It's the fact that you feel you need to compete. You've got a 6month old son (wonder how that happened😆😆😆). And you're still worried about keeping up with the joneses.

[Asker]

Not worried. I’m just trying to figure out how they figured out how to get their lives together while having a child or kids. I have a six month old because I had sex with my sons father who I was with for three years. The total and honest truth, which I’m not shamed of, is his dad and I weren’t good for each other. The relationship started off toxic and abusive. I rushed into things with him, fell in love but not with the guy I thought I fell in love with. He showed me who he was plenty of times. I just refused to accept it. He has hit/abused me plenty of times even when I was pregnant. I left each time just to go back and forgive him. It’s been a few months since I decided to leave him alone for good and just be a parent to our son. Everything I do now is for my son. Trying to get back in school, working overtime, making sure he’s cared for and loved. Attempting to afford to live on my own with my son. My priorities aren’t messed up but more so mentally, I’m so focused on worried about how everyone else has everything their child needs from their own place/own business but me, I’m taking care of him from my parents home. My focus is on my son rather than trying to keep up but I want to keep up for the sake of providing for him because I feel like if I can do everything they seem to be doing through what I see them do on social media, then I can be the best mother I can be.