My dad doesn't like when I say I'm mixed even though I am?

[Anonymous]

So my dad is white (French) and my mom is black (Cape Verdian). I have fair skin and was born in France however, I identify as French Cape Verdian because that's who I am and don't have the intention of hiding my ethinicity from anyone even though a lot of people can't tell I'm half black. My dad says I should not be saying I'm French Cape Verdian because I don't have any document saying I'm Cape Verdian as I was born in France and that really hurt my feelings. He said I'm not Cape Verdian I am French with Cape Verdian blood and I said "well, why can't I be Cape Verdian with French blood then?" It really hurts me that he sees me as white and not mixed if he wanted to have white french kids then he should've married a white french lady instead. I don't agree with the way he thinks. My ethinicity is not based upon a document I am as french as I am cape verdian I'm 50/50 I just happened to be born in France and hold a French passport why can't he understand that? I feel like white people especially in Europe are just so ignorant when it comes to this matter.

[Effably]

Isn't he acknowledging your genetics while insisting on your nationality? If he is, he is entirely correct.

Its not like he will deny where your mother is from and your nationality is not your ethnicity. I think you two are miscommunicating.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Do a DNA test & I’m sure your father would love the results as well.

[Asker]

He would be shocked once he realizes I'm more black thank white hahahahaha.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

As for being shocked I think you would be more shocked at what the results actually show & what you think could be the opposite.

[Asker]

Could be but my dad is 100% white and my mom is 100% black. I don't understand why he wants me and my siblings to identify as white so bad when we're not white kids

[Static_In_The_Attic]

DNA doesn’t lie & there is no such thing as 100%. If you don’t understand have a heart to heart with your father & ask him.

[Spongebobssocks]

If it upset your dad then tell him to see a therapist. Its not your problem. You are telling the truth, there is nothing wrong with being mixed

[Asker]

I don't see nothing wrong either because that's who I am and that's my identity.

[Spongebobssocks]

Yeah then there you go!:)

[Spongebobssocks]

thank you for MHO! Best of luck!

[Anonymous]

BECAUSE YOU WERE BORN IN FRANCE.

It’s not complicated.

[In_Trance]

So what are you asking here?

[Asker]

Do I have the right to be upset about this?

[In_Trance]

sure, but why would you? What does it matter?

[Asker]

It matters to me because that's my identity

[In_Trance]

Identity is subjective. If it matters to you, that's all that matters.
I would advise you don't lead in with this as a conversation starter. You can avoid this by saying "I identify as"
That will be loud and clear to people

[Asker]

You're right. Even though I do not agree with the way he thinks I also don't want to start an argument

[In_Trance]

best of luck to you