Parents still baby their adult 20 year old adult children. Why?

[Alwayreckles93]

Yesterday one of my estranged aunt called me to complain about why did I insulted her 22 year old baby. She's in her early 60s so I try to be as respectful as possible. My aunt has told my cousin she is a super star special and how she is only going to do great things. She still in college taking her basics can't decide yet what to major she wants all because she was telling me how she wants a career where she can be popular she wants people to know who she is and wants everyone to like her. I told her not everyone is going to like you she will have to work with people at jobs she will not agree with people taht depending politics or religion. Popularity does not matter in adult world. That is just how life is. I was just surprise herself as ab adult she went on calling her mom. Myself growing up my mom would tell me going to the park isn't a right its a privilege. If I dare disrespecteda teacher or a babysitter the belt woul be waiting for me. My aunt went all Karen mode on me by telling me how dare I disrespected her little princess that I should be praising and throwing flowers at her daughter. Now a days adults children get baby to much.

[virtue2332]

I would disagree popularity does matter in the adult world just the things that they are popular for change. If her mom is always getting involved in her matters than she wouldn't probably know what she wants because mommy doesn't let her make her own decisions. At some point as parents we have to let them take risks just like we did when they started to walk or ride a bike we can't control all the variables life is going to throw at them. We can't control people or what they do at best we can listen and try to understand and offer advice to help guide them.

[Mr-take-yo-girl]

Many people are still living at home with their parents because the economy is so bad. Nobody can afford to live anywhere. Inflation is too high. You don’t know about this because you got privileges

[butterly248]

This is very true!

[Mr-take-yo-girl]

Are you one of them?

[butterly248]

My parents live in a different country and I don't speak to them. I live with my boyfriend and his family. Even with his full-time wage and my part-time wage, we can't afford anything.

[Mr-take-yo-girl]

Can I ask what you guys make

[butterly248]

Most likely £20,000 a year. We have debts to pay, bills, food etc. Also we aren't good with money and live outside of a city 😂

[butterly248]

And our credit rating is too bad rn. Can maybe afford a room for around £800 p/m

[Alwayreckles93]

Privileged wow perhaps I knew better to not just waste money in my younger years. You younger people perfer to buy starbucks every single day insead of making yourbown lunch and coffee at home. Inflation thats just excuse.

[butterly248]

No we don't actually do that. I just have a bunch of student debts to pay @alwaysreckles93

[butterly248]

But why should we pay £800 for a room with other people. I would prefer to save up for our own flat

[butterly248]

I'm also on a zero hour contract and the £20,000 is an estimate before taxes

[butterly248]

But, I shouldn't be explaining. You have no idea how hard it is for us. We may be lucky to own a house by the time we are 50!

[Alwayreckles93]

@butterly248 Not your fault parents should had teach you kids budgeting and savings. People now a days just waste money and live in luxury while living in debt. While my friends were out partying drinking I was working People were telling me I was missing out in life the truth is I looked back and realized now honestly I didn't miss out on anything. My own a paid off home a pay off truck all because I knew better as a 21 year old to not waste money. People blame the inflation well inflation or not at the storentheirs always cheaper chices but people always want the expensive stuff. Yeah in order for me to be financially successful I mist on weddings , brithday parties funerals family gatherings now I dont regret it. Their is a price to pay in order to be successful we can't have it all.

[butterly248]

@Alwaysreckles93 I apologise for lashing out on you, and yeah, I understand what you mean. I grew up in a single parent household.

My mother worked full time with 3 kids, and money was tight. We were never taught this in school, and I think it should have been part of the system.

I know why I'm in debt due to my students' loans and excessive spending a few years ago. I don't go out anymore, buy any clothes etc.

[elizamichale1]

One of the reasons is tht those adults also depend on their parents...

[butterly248]

Can't afford a place in this economy 😂