At first it’s been little amount of money such as 20$ 30 or 50$ now those past weeks one time she asked 200 than right after that 45 for gas as she said than literally a few days past she is in need of 350 bc she got to send it to her brother in a different country he is currently in need anways I didn’t mind at first lending money bc it was occasionally now days it’s been often what should I do? Keep lending her or nicely stop it see I guess I’m a people pleaser like I will do it to be nice I mean I am nice but I don’t want to hurt people feelings but I don't know what would y’all do
Yo, that's a tough situation. On one hand you wanna help your coworker/friend, but constantly lending money isn't really sustainable. A few things I would think about:
- Set clear boundaries. Let her know you can't keep loaning money so often without getting paid back. Say something like "I'm happy to help out sometimes, but it's getting to be too much lately."
- Ask her to pay you back on a schedule. Like if she owes $350, agree on a payment plan to get it back over a few paychecks so it's not hanging over your head.
- Suggest other options like asking for an advance at work or applying for a credit card if she's in a bind long term.
- Watch out for excuses. If she keeps coming up with reasons she can't pay you back yet, that's a red flag she may not intend to at all.
- Don't feel bad saying no sometimes. You gotta take care of your own finances too. It's okay to tell her you can't loan more right now.
- As a last resort, consider the money you already loaned a loss if she completely stops paying. Don't keep throwing good money after bad.
I'd have a straight talk with her, be understanding but also stick up for yourself. Good friends don't take advantage of each other, you know? Hope it works out!
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No, you shouldn't lend her money. You should never have started. Tell her that you are sorry but you cannot lend her any more money. I hope you didn't need the money you "lent" her.
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