Is it ever acceptable to use derogatory dehumanizing terms when referring to a person?

[Anonymous]

Regardless of gender.

I ask this because something came across my feed recently where this woman refers to men she is not interested in as "Creatures" Saying "These creatures"

To be honest, any woman, hell any person who refers to someone like that is unworthy of respect and unworthy of attention.

What do you think? Ladies would you ever use that kind of terminology to refer to men who approach you?

As usual, please watch the video before commenting.

[Anonymous]

She's both right and wrong (the second woman commenting) no human should refer to another human as a creature. The first woman shows narcissistic tendencies for sure.

The second woman is wrong when she says that if men know you aren't interested they loae interest in you immediately. People can be obsessive, it happens a lot. No doesn't mean no to some people. She is also wrong about it's never a big deal to just say you're not interested because men will just accept that and walk away. Not always. Countless stories about men lashing out due to rejection. Men have become violent before due to rejection.

Now does that mean nobody should approach people to ask them out? Obviously not but there should be respect both ways. You should be able to ask someone out and not be called a creature but also take rejection and not be mad about it as well. In a perfect world that's how it would work.

The problem is there can be narcissism on both sides. The first woman in the video is narcissistic but the guy being rejected could also be narcissistic as well.

If everybody just had mutual respect then a lot of these matters wouldn't exist. Also making tiktok videos makes the narcissism worse. Social media changes people.

[LazerBean]

Sure, there are plenty of times when it's acceptable. Its not acceptable to call a person something like that just because one isn't interested in them, though. But I'm completely fine with degrading and dehumanizing mass murderers, pedophiles, rapists, etc...

[Asker]

No disagreement here.. It just bothers the shit out of me that someone would call a man a "creature" simply for showing interest.

[LazerBean]

Yeah that's pretty petty. My guess is that it's really her projecting how she feels about the fact that the men she wants don't want her back.

[Asker]

Very true. It definitely seems like projection.

[ImHere22]

No, I don’t believe in the whole “do as I say, not as I do” code that some toxic people live by. Doesn’t matter what background you have, where you’re from, what your life is like- if a person is out there spreading hate but expecting to receive superior treatment regardless of their actions, then no, that person is not only insane and f*cked up, but they’re no better than whomever they’re dragging through the mud.

I say this because there is a whole lot of unnecessary and unfocused hatred in the world, and mentalities like that are why we’re constantly in the midst of war, conflict, and violence. Rates of domestic violence and police brutality and violence, especially against people of color continue to rise, governments are increasingly allowing xenophobic laws to harm refugees and people deemed ‘dangerous’ to the society of norm, and misinformation and hate is now a cornerstone in certain major news outlets.

[Asker]

Agreed. its sad.

[msc545]

It is acceptable socially for women to say anything and everything to men, but certainly NOT aceptable for men to do the same.

[Asker]

dont you just love double standards like that?

[msc545]

I hate them, but nothing to be done about it, sadly.

[exitseven]

She has had it easy all her life and has never been on the receiving end of bullying

[jennifer_bloom]

It’s not a debasing dismissive word, it’s an anthropomorphic dramatization of their extroverted personality attributes, celebrating their personality, rather than blacklisting it.

[likeodds]

I personally feel, it is so bad a s a human being. I respect all the women, whether she is in to any business. We need to treat the women with dignity.

[Asker]

You literally missed the point of the question. She's dehumanizing men by calling them creatures... Someone who speaks like that is unworthy of respect. It's as bad as some of the things Hitler said about the jews.

[sage2021]

No I wouldn't do that

[shortster]

I think not.

[Anonymous]

Agreed