Do you believe EVERYONE deserves to live without body shaming?

[Kingofkings1992]

Yes

No

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+1 y

For you people who answered no, do you mind explaining why you think being an asshole for no reason is okay?

[Angxl3120]

Body shaming is pretty alright in a good way, I was body shamed my most teenage years and it actually motivated me to lose weight, I lost over 20 kgs, and I actually feel the difference.

I also feel that I wouldn't have lost that much weight if I wasn't body shamed, I would still be fat.

Everything has limits, body shaming is ofcourse bad thing, but if it helps someone to be healthier, then its also not a bad thing right?

Initially body positivity was about people with disabilities or disorders, and we definitely shouldn't body shame them and should support them. Or about someone's height, or something which cannot be fixed no matter how hard they try.

Then the unhealthy people who are not in a good shape started taking advantage of it and made body positivity about encouraging someone to stay fat and be positive with fatness. Which is hella wrong. There are so many diseases which affects overweight people.

I dont understand how some huge brands hire oversized models, to spread body positivity. What are they teaching the youth, to be unhealthy or be happy if your fat?

I dont have any problem someone being fat around me, but is it alright telling the young generations, being overweight is okay, being unhealthy is okay?

[LazerBean]

Definitely not. Body positivity should be reserved only for people with deformities and medical conditions that they had no part in creating and cannot control.

I'm not saying go out and pester all fat people you come across because they're fat. But a lot of times, the fatties are some of the most obnoxious and projecting people out there. I literally watched a 5 ft tall girl (who was competing with a 6'4 man for largest living mass in the building) "joke" another teen girl (with a great figure) into what almost became an eating disorder because she kept calling her a "fatty" because of what she was eating.

[DarkLegacy]

Quite right

[Kingofkings1992]

I’m leaning towards disagreeing with you on this one lazerbean

[LazerBean]

Feel free

[Anonymous]

I mean should people more positive and caring of other people's feelings? Of course! But people should have thicker skin as well. The reality is you never going to reach a point in life where there aren't judgmental, mean people. And it's less a problem that they say mean 💩, than that other people believe them. So when you ask if people deserve to live without body shaming I say "No". Because that's like saying you should live with disease and an immune system. If you didn't get sick your immunity would be weak. Likewise if you didn't occasionally run into an over opinionated a**hole you wouldn't know how to deal with said a**hole.

If I could change one thing in this world it would be that more people show the love and compassion that's in their heart. I've been shamed before, who hasn't? But I have many people who love and care about me. I shrug off people who shame me because I know they don't even know me, ergo their opinion about me is kind of worthless. Some people in this world don't have somebody or enough people who accept them. And as a result they erroneously take this a**hole's comment to heart. So this is the true problem. The world needs more love.

[RebelinSteel]

Yes in an ideal world it should be the case, unfortunately it’s something that starts at kindergarten or a really young age and just keeps going. Kids are nasty evil things, and will pick on things that are different, skin colour, height, weight, hair colour, etc. It then continues throughout school and nothing is really done to prevent it at any stage. Remember it’s not just being overweight where body shaming comes in, height, hair, skin colour, boobs (too big too small), not enough muscles, not having hair on your chest, etc, if someone can use it to attack another person they will use it.

[JacobJordan]

Nope. Shame is a good thing. Being morbidly obese is not something to celebrate. Struggling to get out of bed or being winded climbing 10 stairs is not a good thing. Many many bad things that people are trying to go "oh but it is so good" and yet it isn't. Fat people typically smell awful, they take up too much space they expect special treatment. They can control being fat I can't control being tall. If it is out of ones control I do not think it is right to shame someone but if you as a person have total control of the thing you are being shamed for then you can also change it so the shaming stops.

[Sirenboobzilla]

It literally costs me nothing to keep my thoughts to myself when it comes to people's bodies. I've been body shamed for being skinny, tall, boobs being too big for my frame, small bootie... Hell, I was shamed once for being a skinny girl with no thigh gap... Like, what? If I get shamed for my figure, I can only imagine what curvier folk receive. I don't like the feeling, so I don't do it to others.

[Apple1996]

Yes there is no reason to shame other people's body. If you don't like looking at it then look away. It's not that difficult. Care about your own body and stop worrying about others

[JacobJordan]

Have you ever been sat next to shamoo on a plane? What about a bus? Or any public place where seating is assigned? Somethings definitely should be shamed.

[Apple1996]

@JacobJordan it's no big deal if a bigger person sits next to me. I'm extremely tiny so there is plenty of room

[JacobJordan]

Well you gotta realize that airplane seats aren't exactly large so while you may be tiny there are morbidly obese people that take up 2 or even 3 seats. Meaning they wouldn't be next to you so much as sitting on you

[Kingofkings1992]

@JacobJordan some people are big naturally.(not fat) Should they be ashamed?

[JacobJordan]

People that are big don't typically get shamed mate. It is people that are morbidly obese that get shamed.

[Apple1996]

@JacobJordan I've literally been shamed for being "fat" while pregnant. People will shame for slight chub or being naturally bigger

[Apple1996]

@JacobJordan I don't care If someone is obese either. They could have health issues or have bad depression and mental issues. Shaming them isn't gonna help those things

[Kingofkings1992]

@JacobJordan yes, apple is correct. Even if a person is obese, no deserves to be treated with disrespectful scornful abuse because of their body. Many things can cause a person to be obese, such as genetics, medication, not having healthy sleeping habits, etc. It doesn’t always come down to eating like a pig, and not being active enough.

[JacobJordan]

I have been called fat as well because i can put away more food than someone my size should. If i ever got fat i would be ashamed. My wife likewise refuses to let herself get fat if she puts on a little weight she exerciaes immediately to lose it. She like you has given birth so has more justification to have a little pudge and yet she refuses to have it because in her words "i'm not lazy i have weighed the same amount most of my life and i will maintain that weight until i can longer physically prevent it" i have no issue with a bit of pudge, even chubby, nor do i care if someone is morbidly obese UNTIL they start doing things that negatively effect others. Things like saying "being fat is beautiful" or "as i am fat i deserve an extra seat without having to pay" or "because i am fat i should get extra money for food" or larger portions etc. Being morbidly obese is not healthy or good and i will let them be as long as they do not push those lies on others

[JacobJordan]

There is always a choice. I am underweight because of my genetics. Does that mean i get a free pass for being am unhealthy level underweight? No of course not i have a duty and an obligation to myself to increase my weight to at least a healthy range. And again for the 3rd time i will only say something when it begins to negatively effect others until then live your life however you want.

[turnpost]

We should empathize and help each other in the journey of our goals. Body shaming as a tactic may help others but I don't think that is healthy.

I don't think its healthy to be in delusion as well. I would prefer pushing the idea of "its none of your business and err on the side assistance and empathy" but negligence is what makes one isolated individual think the party agrees with those with the loudest mean voice who become the only voice they ever hear.

So we should be active in promoting good habits.

[AaronKrieger]

No, but it's a complex thing. Not everyone reacts to it in the same way nor is it always done in the same way or amount. It is very much a situational type of thing.

I believe it is something people should be exposed to like many things in life, so you have a tolerance for it and do not get blindsided as an adult experiencing it. By the same token, that exposure should not be done in extreme or by someone who is a significant role in your life like your parents.

[MemeSupreme]

body shaming is terrible. maybe some dudes get motivated by it but not everyone does

only people who should get body shamed are peeps who do it to others so they get a taste of their own medicine

[JacobJordan]

Have heard all the body shaming has absolutely no effect on me. I have been called fat (because I can eat far more than someone that looks like me should be able to) been called skinny, twig, bean pole etc (I am slim not for lack of trying though I just don't gain weight. Have weighed the same since I was 17) been called a nerd, dumb, weird, freak, psycho, know-it-all, Sherlock, blah blah blah. I learned a long long time ago that 1 not everyone is going to like me. 2 they will likely say anything they want true or not. And 3 I don't have to care.

[Nikki1989]

Of course, but assholes are not going away any time soon.

[Kingofkings1992]

I don’t get what anyone gains from body shaming. They’re supposed to be variety among us

[Kingofkings1992]

There’s * lol

[JacobJordan]

Variety is fine. Morbid obesity is not. Normally I do not actually care if someone is morbidly obese. The only time I step in to bs like that is when it begins to effect others negatively. Like when a fat person says that being fat is beautiful, healthy, good. Or when a promiscuous person (man or woman) says it is good, healthy etc. It isn't and while they are free to make their own choice however stupid or shitty it maybe as a father and a good man I have a responsibility to stand up to that type of bs and tell them that it is not fine, good, healthy etc young people are impressionable and it would be tragic if they made the same shitty mistakes as others because they were convinced to do it. Misery loves company. And it is typically the most miserable they preach the loudest about making objectively bad decisions regarding one's body

[LadyKitty]

Yes. If someone has weight issues, shaming them will not do anything.

[sawno]

No, body shaming has its use. If she is genuinely unhealthy to a dangerous degree people should point it out especially when she missteps or claims its a healthy beautiful body.

[sawno]

And to clarify, I'm not saying you should like SHAME shame them. But we all know how sensitive society is these days, you can be polite about it but pointing it out these days is already considered shaming. Another case where it can be needed is if someone has an extreme attitude, is offensive to others and needs to be knocked down a peg.

[strateguy632]

if that would limit free speech then people DESERVE free speech instead. we all heard stuff in preschool, but as adults time to stop being a whiny cry baby and reach first grade.

[Anonymous]

Nope. I do not. You cannot convince me on any body positivity while weighing at 300+
I dont give a crap about the ‘it’s my body my choice’ bs, being fat as the years progress doesn’t mount to anything more than body pains and suffering.

[SeymourBill420]

Well, one philosophy that I do have is that if ass cheeks have more dimples than your face cheeks. Then you should definitely shame upon that.

[DarkLegacy]

No greedy fat people need to be shamed to get them to lose weight. But part from that then no body shaming.

[gorydetails]

Nope. Body shaming works. We have an obesity epidemic in this country.

[Kingofkings1992]

Debatable. This wasn’t strictly referring to obesity. What does a thin person gain from shaming an obese person, aside from making them feel better about their own flaws?

[gorydetails]

It motivates the fatty to lose weight.

[Anonymous]

If it's something they can't control than yes