How can I help him get over me?

[Betwyn]

I broke up with my ex about 3 months ago, and started dating a new guy about a month ago. My ex lives in another town, and I want to stay friends with him, he was really there for me when I really needed someone. But he keeps posting on Facebook about me.. posts hearts on my wall.. Continually posts "our song" and one of our friends has asked me if I'll give him another chance..

I don't want to lose him as a friend, but he needs to get over me.. help?

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When we met, I was one month past almost ending it all. I saw no value in life or people, or in myself. He showed me that I did, indeed, have value. He helped me get through a dark time. I will forever be grateful, but as I got to feeling better about myself, and life in general, I grew apart.. I want to keep him as a friend because of the impact he had on me..


and no, I didn't love him. I told him upfront that I didn't believe in love. I will admit, I am rethinking that now however...

[Anonymous]

Kind of sounds like my situation. My ex dumped me about 10 weeks ago, hasn't talked to me since and has moved on/dated/slept with other people. I am still to this day completely devastated from losing her, and even more so from her actions post break-up. I didn't even get the decency of a sit down in person break up either, and then to be ignored following. It's the most horrible thing ever and I don't think she quite realizes (or if she even cares) what this has done to me. I was so good to her, but of course I have my flaws.. he is clearly crushed. This stuff isn't easy on us at all. He's the dumpee too, not the dumper. Can't force him to get over you, it has to run it's course. But it's only fair he gets an explanation from you so it doesn't turn into my situation. Now, my love is turning to resentment and hatred with every day that passes and not hearing from her.

[Anonymous]

Why would you still want to be friends with your ex? Its not fair or respectful to your future relationship or partner. You may have had some great times and expierences with that person. But you need to close the book and stop hanging on. Take it for what it was...

Your actions are dragging him out emotionally.

[MrAlpha]

You shouldn't. If you want to keep him as a friend, you clearly value him and still have feelings for him. You need to do the right thing and go back to your ex. You clearly broke up him for selfish reasons (distance maybe?) and didn't take the time to really think about your choice.

[enginer]

We have a saying in China that is, make a clean break, as short-term pain long pain, meaning that rather than let their pain in a long time to solve than once, to save trouble later

[longrodvonhugendong]

That's nice and all, but the US needs to stop outsourcing for everything. Got any American sayings?

[longrodvonhugendong]

BTW that wasn't supposed to be racist like the Chinese suck or anything. I was making a joke because the US outsources so much to other countries including China. Joke Option 2 involved borrowing Chinese proverbs like we borrow Chinese money.

[Anonymous]

He was there for you when you needed him. Sounds like you used him for what you needed and never loved him since you were able to move on fast. You should delete him from Facebook so he gets over you as fast as possible, you are nothing good for him.

[Betwyn]

When we met, I was one month past almost ending it all. I saw no value in life or people, or in myself. He showed me that I did, indeed, have value. He helped me get through a dark time. I will forever be grateful, but as I got to feeling better about myself, and life in general, I grew apart.. I want to keep him as a friend because of the impact he had on me..

and no, I didn't love him. I told him upfront that I didn't believe in love. I will admit, I am rethinking that now however...