Why do some women believe that us men will hate their postpartum body?

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I'm curious. Okay, I personally don't find other women's postpartum bodies attractive, but that's other women. When it's my wife, she's the mother of my kids, it makes me more attracted to her, not less. Yet my wife watched a video of some purple haired idiot stating that i will find her less attractive after she gives birth. She suddenly was insecure, and when confronted, she admitted that the video suggested I would find her less attractive and that I'd cheat or leave. I asked her to show me the video in question. After watching I told her how full of shit the video was, and all one needs to do is read the comments, and sure enough, dozens of men were saying the same as I was, and dozens of women were saying that their husbands couldn't keep their hands off of them..

So why make shitty, plainly false videos like that suggesting that a woman's husband won't be attracted any more once she gives birth?

This video explains it as well

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=c-7JphpviSM

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Some men do unfortunately and the beauty standards say the exact things that happen to your body while pregnant and after having kids is unattractive. You yourself say that you don’t find other womens postpartum bodies attractive so it doesn’t feel believable that you would find your partners body attractive when she looks just like the other women - who you don’t find attractive. It’s also reality that a lot of women end up single/divorced or whatever after having kids and if they’re going to date they will have to show their postpartum bodies to new men, not the father of their kids, and many feel insecure doing so. It’s even a thing that men love to do, online and among each other, - shame women as ”used”, ugly and past their prime when they are pregnant/had kids ranting about how they’re fat, their pussy is loose, oh she had multiple kids her pussy got to be a clown car, their boobs are saggy, stretchmarks whatever. It’s always made very clear that it is the body that looks like a slim perky 18-year old girls body is what’s beautiful. A grown womans body isn’t, especially not if it went through the process of growing and birthing a new life. It’s kinda funny isn’t it. A perfect youthful untouched looking body is put on a pedestal with the motivation that well it’s just biology, it looks fertile, while the body that has proven to be fertile and given birth to children isn’t seen as attractive, but shamed and declared unattractive. Even if they’re the same age. Even if the woman with kids in question is young.

midnightmoon05 · Accepted Answer

Don’t know about others…

I was told by ex hubby how I wasn’t skinny like a skeleton 😂 after our second kid… he also told me I had postpartum and I needed bigger boobs… well… he also divorced me. What can I say… he was very immature…

maybe that woman made that video.
we both have lived in and kids in good place… he apologized for making fun of me… kinda finally grew up. Kinda.
some people were not raised with respect.
I forgive him…

Us women? Lots of hormone shifts throughout our time… so be kind.

i didn’t have mood swings till early 40s for 2 years.

I didn’t have cramps … etc… so everyone is diff.

i am 5ft. Was 100 pounds. After second kid. 120 pounds. Last all that and maintained 110… so I am not fat. But not bone skinny… nor do I want to.

yiu are good to your wife. She is lucky to have you.!

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

Most women are self-conscious about the way they look. After giving birth, until and unless they can get rid of the extra weight and get back to their begfore-pregnancy body, they feel damaged and unattractive. We guys, as her partner, need to let her know she is loved, especially during postpartum times.

BeenThereLovedIt · Accepted Answer

Some women do fall apart physically after childbirth. To pretend reality is different for the sake of being nice and propping up their ego just makes the pretender a liar.

Women always say they want a man who is honest. Guess that makes them liars too.

Abbycado · Answer

She is looking for reassurance and lands on that. That is the issue. There is crap all over the internet. Once you go searching, you can't unsee things. She should have taken your word for it.

thatgirl2000 · Answer

Have you talked to her about it and reassured her you find her attractive still? Postpartum can be such a honorable time just have patience with her.

Tamera952 · Answer

Well, I guess cause it’s a thing. You may like it more, but a lot don’t unfortunately. Their bodies change vastly from giving birth—need I detail how? It seems superficial but it’s a thing.

WindAtMyBack · Answer

It didn't bother me at all. Plus, after a "time out" she looked pretty damn good.

Dargil · Answer

Because self perceived perfection validates women and serves basis for judging everyone. Their postpartum bodies cause them to judge themselves and blame their husbands.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

She's your wife and mother of your kids. You're SUPPOSED to love her postpartum body.

DrPepper12 · Answer

I don't know. A WALL of non stop blaring sirens of terror from a sick society that teaches as dogma that childbirth/aging is somehow unnatural & a hex? Maybe. Just a guess.

Flower7 · Answer

Because some men say that they don’t like it…that the stomach doesn’t look as good and even that the vagina feels “looser”.

loveyouoak · Answer

Because men always prefer perfect bodies. After a woman gives birth her body changes and her husband may lose interest.

Anonymous · Answer

If that were true, mothers would never have more than one child. I wish there were more smart and honest women like Brett Cooper.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

What's a postpardem body

Anonymous · Answer

Probably because of low self-confidence.

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