My roommate is constantly fighting with her boyfriend... What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Okay -- a few notes:

- My roommate is clinically bipolar, and therefore really emotionally unstable

- Even though she's taking medication, I feel like she's just an overly serious, critical person

- She's constantly fighting with her boyfriend about the stupidest things, because she overanalyzes and is kind of needy

- I guess it's not really her fault, but at the same time, I can totally see how difficult this must be for her boyfriend

- She's not happy with him, but she relies so heavily on him for emotional support that I don't know what she'd do without him

- It's also kind of annoying for me, because our walls are really thin and I have to listen to this all the time

- I have no good advice to give, because I really can't relate

So basically... I can't fix the situation. I don't know how to help her, and I also know that it's selfish, but it's stressing me out!

[Anonymous]

Tell her that their fighting is stressing you out. DON'T get involved in their fighting, otherwise you'll be sucked into the crazy drama. Just tell her you need some quiet time. Set aside some times of day where neither of you are allowed to yell or play loud music or whatever. It's not selfish ... not any more selfish than being a loud pain in the ass when other people live in the house. Stay out of the fighting and fix what is important to making your own life better.

[Black_Swan_12]

Maybe she needs some sort of counselling. I don't think anyone else other than a pro would be able to help her. In the mean time, maybe you should tell avoid her to tone it down and explain that its negatively impacting you.

[Anonymous]

just let it be:)

[Asker]

But it affects me too... Things can't stay like this.