I joined this sorority that wasn't my first choice but that grew on me after a while. In the beginning everything was amazing and so much fun. After we all became sisters things changed. There were huge divisions in our pledge class and everyone now is in different groups. I hate groups and cliques and I can't believe I'm still going through that in college. On top of everything I am the only African American in my sorority. It didn't matter to me at first because I'm not the type to put race as an issue or to dwell on things like that. I have felt ostracized a lot of times by the girls and although I have a few friends in my pc most of my friends were seniors who graduated and I feel left on my own now that they are gone. There are some nice girls but most are really stuck up japs and I have felt really bad being a part of my sorority and I talked to the president and she did nothing about the whole situation even when I came to her and told her about how I was feeling and what I felt needed to be addressed and they were even rude to my friend when I brought her to a party and she hates my sorority now.
I have felt torn because I was just starting to make friends on campus as I was a transfer and I thought joining a sorority would be good for me but it's been hell. I feel like the kinder I am to people the ruder they are to me. It started off with me not really knowing if people liked me for me or because I was funny and now it's turned onto full on I feel like they only see me as entertainment honestly. I've always felt more mature than my age and a lot of the girls are not and act really childish and are often rude to me. It hurts even more when people are being rude to you publicly and your the only one who looks different you know. I worked so hard and have gone through so much to be in the sorority and my mom is a single mother and she is paying for it but I'm not sure whether I should leave or not.
I want to give it more time and maybe branch out and find other things on campus to be a part of but as of right now I feel like since that's the only thing I've been a part of it's hard to leave and the friends that I have in my sorority don't feel like real friends and they beg me to stay. They are never there for me when I need them and they latch on to the girls that are bitchy to me and to them. I have been drinking so much at parties because I hate how I'm treated and I often feel left alone and ostracized and the parties are usually just beer and techno music which I'm not really that into (more into house, hip hop, pop, r&b and soca) and I hate the taste of beer. After getting alcohol poisoning I realized that isn't who I want to be and I'm happiest when I'm having fun outside of my sorority.
Should I leave? What should I do to change the way I'm being treated if I stay? Any suggestions or people who went through similar things?
I have felt torn because I was just starting to make friends on campus as I was a transfer and I thought joining a sorority would be good for me but it's been hell. I feel like the kinder I am to people the ruder they are to me. It started off with me not really knowing if people liked me for me or because I was funny and now it's turned onto full on I feel like they only see me as entertainment honestly. I've always felt more mature than my age and a lot of the girls are not and act really childish and are often rude to me. It hurts even more when people are being rude to you publicly and your the only one who looks different you know. I worked so hard and have gone through so much to be in the sorority and my mom is a single mother and she is paying for it but I'm not sure whether I should leave or not.
I want to give it more time and maybe branch out and find other things on campus to be a part of but as of right now I feel like since that's the only thing I've been a part of it's hard to leave and the friends that I have in my sorority don't feel like real friends and they beg me to stay. They are never there for me when I need them and they latch on to the girls that are bitchy to me and to them. I have been drinking so much at parties because I hate how I'm treated and I often feel left alone and ostracized and the parties are usually just beer and techno music which I'm not really that into (more into house, hip hop, pop, r&b and soca) and I hate the taste of beer. After getting alcohol poisoning I realized that isn't who I want to be and I'm happiest when I'm having fun outside of my sorority.
Should I leave? What should I do to change the way I'm being treated if I stay? Any suggestions or people who went through similar things?
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I have friends outside my sorority but they are all part of different things and I feel like I want my own thing to be a part of as well. I'm also in a sorority that is "good" on campus meaning they have status so to leave the I don't know how to put it the "cool" crowd as people see them is difficult to me it's like mean girls not that bad but sort of you know.
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