It's all about cultural expectations. Dancing is not considered a masculine thing in America or necessarily a rite of passage of being an American man. Men who dance face stereotypes and also face societal pressures and insecurities. American men aren't that comfortable with their bodies in terms of movement as the culture doesn't place a large emphasis or support network around it. Because men don't get that kind of practice in or use it much in this culture because of what their peers will think, when the beat comes on, they do things half-way. They are overly concerned with what the other guys in the room will think if they dance well. Odd that they are thinking about male reaction and not the females, who will be incredibly impressed and turned on by a man that moves well, but that's the general nonsensical pattern of thought prevalent in American males. Think of any man that danced well - Michael Jackson, Derek Hough - the gay rumors just never go away. It's immature, really. Many cultures celebrate dancing and the male form, such as Spanish cultures, where even the youngest of boys feel a cultural freedom to move and express their bodies without shyness or insecurity. Straight men are overly hung up on what others think of them and are fearful of being labeled as gay so most stray from anything that will lead to a mix-up. Women tend to be more comfortable with their bodies, communication, and self-expression and are encouraged by society to be that way, so they see no threat. In Europe, guy friends hold hands walking down the street and carry male bags that resemble purses, they also kiss on the cheek. It's no big deal and totally normal. American men would throw a fit if they saw this. It's sad that our culture is so inherently homophobic and truly against male expression. Gay men obviously have nothing to hide from as if they are in a gay club they are in safe zone, so they just express themselves and don't think twice. Dancing is beautiful in men and women, I wish our culture didn't have such a nonsensical approach to stereotypical "male" behavior. It's purely cultural.
thats so not true...
my brother is gay and he is the worst dancer I've ever seen lol
but gay guys aren't tryin to impress they just wanna have fun
straight guys are tryin to hunt down a booty call at a club...
so they don't really dance they just stand there and look cool why the girl does her thing on him...
i personally love a straight guy that can dance because I'm a dancer
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they actually put effort into it lol. all my gay guy friends are so graceful and I am so jealous lol, in a good way. I wish I could dance as well as them and they're just more outgoing in terms of dancing. they practise more. evenmore than I do in a lot of cases
A lot of my answer is in accordance with Binary Illusion's great answer below, to the extent that it's clear that homosexuals have clearly had to be very comfortable with themselves in this society in order to be an openly gay person, and relaxation and self-acceptance are huge when it comes to dance skills.
However, I have to object to the "all-or-nothing" characterization of the question. Not all gay guys are great dancers. In fact, I know a fair amount who are actually pretty terrible dancers. And I know plenty of straight guys who are great dancers. I think there may be a correlation between a person's level of acceptance by society and their self-comfort, and also a correlation between a person's self-comfort and their dance skills (to an extent), but I don't think that there is any particular reason why it would be linked to sexuality specifically, and definitely not to an entire group of people based solely on their shared sexuality.
Usually gay, or bisexual people are more open. They are less restricted, and strict about what they do. They are open to 'taboos' that straight people would never think about.
I think gay guys tend to be more metro sexual as well. They are more feminine, so they are take better care of themselves. I'm not sure why they dance better. It may be because they care what others think. They take pride in themselves.
As for dancing together.
Straight guys are afraid to be considered gay, or slightly gay. It's the worst thing in the world in their minds.
Women are more open, and they don't think about anything sexual with another women. They're just dancing it shouldn't be anything sexual. But men are always thinking about sex.
Just what I think.
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Us "breeders" have the same abilities as the gay guys it's just that most straight guys have a mental block when dancing because they won't do anything that looks flamboyant or uncool; gay guys don't care. I've been to a gay club too and they weren't doing anything spectacular on the dance floor that I couldn't do, except some of them were wearing shorty shorts and no shirt 0.o
I think the get more into the scheme of things that some straight men do, and aren't afraid to try new things. But straight girls are more keen to dancing together with each other as you implied, but straight guys worry about how it will make them look.
Gay guys practice a lot more. Gay guys dance not only in clubs, but in their apartments and homes in their free time. Anybody gets better at something with more practice. Sign yourself and your girlfriend up for dance classes, and you can make it into a series of dates.
I to hang out at gay clubs it's more fun there and also I have a lot of gay friends and yes most of the gay guys do dance better they practice more and get into it more then women they have to be the center of attention that makes them unique .
in the mind of a lot of straight guys, dancing is "gay".
And is only appropriate when courting a female.
Thus, straight men usually only know how to grind on a woman and nothing else.
They're not afraid to shake it. Straight guys are generally more interested in just grinding on girls than showing off their dance moves. Also, in a way gays want to be women. They're feminine. I once went to a gay club and they were critiqueing and staring at me as if we were in sometype of compitition. They are very catty sometimes...I think they were just jealous lol. but yes, some gays even dance better than girls-cause they wanna shake what their momma gave 'em
Maybe it is because gay guys are like girls you see dancing on the Television, they copy them, so it is just like practicing.
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