How can I stop liking women and learn to be happy alone?

[Anonymous]

I keeping hearing that I have to be patient and the "right woman will come around or I'll find her" but I'm over 30 and exhausted. . I need to accept that I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life and move on . I'll stop talking to women for a few months, and then like a sucker, I'm at it again .

I've pursued every kind of woman out there and pursued them in all places too . I've done all I could to get a woman you name it I've done it. So how do I force myself to stop liking women so I can move on with the rest of my life? I'm tired of hearing "Don't give up she's out there" I'm not getting any younger and I feel like I'm wasting time not getting on with my life.

My friends usually try to invite me to their house for get togethers, but I decline because I can't stand to be around them or no one else being lovey dub with their girls so if we hang out, its at my house, or a bar.

Some guys will be able to get girls like birds can get worms and some guys won't be able to not matter what they do . Women don't really have that problem. They're the choosers so they never have to worry about what to say if they're being too much of this or that, etc all they have to do is wait for a guy to talk to them. Even the unattractive girls in high school that guys would never talk to years later they look the same but they even managed to find someone Unattractive girls still usually can get a date and/or married . If a woman wants to be alone it is 100% her choice but its never like that for a guy.

I've known plenty of guys who can't get get a girl to save their life, but I've never met or heard of a woman like that. I even know this girl who's a lesbian, dresses like a little boy and still gets hit on and approached by guys. I've been trying to stop liking women but its been hard so how can I stop?

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+1 y

I do plenty of things . And no one on here must've read what I said I TRIED EVERYTHING UNDER THE SUN TO LAND A WOMAN. Some of us are destined to be alone no matter what we do to change.

[meowcatwoman]

Stop focusing on finding a woman. Before you can do that, you must focus on becoming your best self. Start a new hobby, learn an instrument (or get better at an instrument you currently play), read more intellectual books, go for a run, go out with friends more, try a new adventure...there is so much you can do! How can you expect a woman to want you if you don't love yourself first?

Once you become a more lively and interesting person (and your confidence with grow too, and this is vital in most cases to win a woman's heart), then you will more likely be appealing to the opposite sex and even being called a catch. Doesn't matter how attractive or unattractive you are (if it does to the girl and they don't want you because of it, they AREN'T worth it), the right girl will love you for who you are.

Good luck! If you want anymore help, just let me know in the comment box and I'll send you my email address :D

[Sparrow24]

:-)

+1

[UberTroll]

You're just switching to another camp that's just as bad. The key isn't to accept that you're gonna be alone for the rest of your life because you truly never know! The key is to be happy with your life regardless of your romantic situation. Don't worry so much about being with someone or not being with someone and just live your life and take each day is it comes.

[Anonymous]

I agree with meowcatwoman - don't make finding a woman your goal in life. Just live your life as you want to live it. Do the things you enjoy, go to places you'd enjoy, make friends, etc. Along the way, IF you meet someone you could see yourself with, ask her out a ego from there. But that should be a bonus and a pit stop, not the entire goal.

[Opinion Owner]

*and go from there (not, a ego from there)

[meowcatwoman]

Thanks :)

[evette]

I think it just not the right time work on yourself find a hobby of interest when your not thinking of women one will come along just for you.

[ARNWOO]

SOON AS U GET AANSWER LET ME KNOW GOING through THE SAME THING.. ONLY I WILL BE 50 IN 2YEARS... I NEVER HAD MUCH LUCK WITH WOMEN INPAST AND NOW AT A COSTANT BATTLE... WITH MYSELF... TRYING TO MAKE PACE WITH IT... EVERYBODY THAT doesn't HAVE THIS PROBLEM IN SOME WAY OR ANOTHER... USUALLY ARE THE ONES THAT HAVE ALL THE ANSWERS... CONFIDENCES IS GOOD IN ANY THING U DOING... BUT WHAT THEY FAIL TO TELL U IS... THAT ITS WHO THE CONFIDENCE IS COMING FROM... IMPELS WHETER R NOT U CAN GET THE PHONE NUMBER... ANYBODY CAN CONTEST WHAT IM SAYING ALL THEY WANT BUT 2 THINGS

1 BEING A HAIRFSTYLIST I HEAR WOMEN TALK

2 THEY DONT KNOW THE SEVERITY OF WHT THATCAN DO TO U MENTALLY
SOME OF NUS JUST HAVE TO ACCEPT BEING ALONE

[martyfellow]

So you're purusing enlightenment, in a 'buddhist way? This takes a lot of concentration and discipline.

It would be easier to swear off just US women, and only puruse women from a different culture. Say, French women, Chinese women, Latin American women.

All are far different from what you've seen homegrown. Even if you wind up striking out, you'd have fun.

These women are much more discriminating in their selection of men. They don't all belong to the rich guys...

[Asker]

Thanks man. I'll keep that in mind if I slip up again

[martyfellow]

The fact is, we're pretty much cursed with power cows and/or bimbos in the current US scene.

I married a Venezuelan

[martyfellow]

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[martyfellow]

Thx for the BA, and good luck!

[dfasdfkha]

You'd do a lot better not following this piece of stupid advice. But you know, if you wanna continue to fail at life in this department, like you obviously have, then by all means, follow this piece of misogynistic crap advice.

[Anonymous]

i actually disagree with you on women having more options or it is easier for women thing cause my experience says the opposite and I don't want to argue about this..

but as for your case you can give up and stop thinking you are a hunter! when we men consider ourselves hunters, this is actually genetic. at first, it was not what women demanded. my advice is learn to kill that image! the image that every man is a hunter! you are not a hunter anymore! forget about taking control or leadership on someone else. don't ever feel being alone is a torture. but the most important thing, don't try to get what other guys can get. so you can live in your freedoms. now save most of your money, buy p*rn stuff and video games. go to work as always. end off.

[ARNWOO]

LOL DAS FAIR

[Anonymous]

You tried everything? Even the mail order bride didn't work out? You clearly haven't tried everything. Try to put more work into becoming the kind of man a woman would want to date. That effort will distract you from dating since you won't have much time for women while you are improving yourself. Once you have finished your transformation you will be more confident and a better catch.

[evette]

you can't stop liking women unless you are gay. But you can like them from a distance without getting intimate with them. Just remind yourself that you just want to be alone.

[xzinax2]

pro tip link there,you are now-happy.

[05Jueey]

I'm sorry :( send me a message if ud like to talk at all

[Anonymous]

I think some guys just decide to be gay. Guys are easier to screw than females.

[Anonymous]

Get a whole bunch of dogs...like a male version of the cat lady

[1diamond]

I much prefer my cat! Lol.

[candi25]

just keep your head up. things will fall into place for you. you have tried a lot but keep putting yourself out there and something will happen. :)

[Anonymous]

I agree that women do the choosing

[kangaru]

Love comes when it is least expected.

[Seek81]

confidence is key..

[kambo_trick3y]

No, I do not accept YOUR answer because you have no power of knowledge over me nami.

[Anonymous]

Just find some hobbies

[Anonymous]

Get a dog.

[Anonymous]

Confidence is alot