Do you think I should do it?

[DizzyDesii]

Some shit came up and my ride can’t take me to the airport which is almost 2 hours away due to car issues. My tummy is tossing and turning just thinking about the fact that the car rental place want $800+ for a rental OR I could pay $400 there and back ($200 per day) for an uber OR i could ask my dad OR i could offer to fix the person’s car. I really dont wanna ask my dad y'all lmao. That man is annoying and I was an asshole to him all year. I don’t want to have to crawl to ask that man. Lmao i know its what i deserve but ughhh 😩 I’m bout to puke yo… This man has been waiting for the day i need him. I don’t wanna need him lmao. I also wanted to have a certain amount for my trip next month and not have to cut into that, especially since i already have to pay bout $1000 for a new phone. This year has been a financial failure and I don’t need to go back into my savings. This suckssss #FeelFreeToList

$800 for the rental ($300 deposit the separate days so $600 plus $100 a day for the rental)

Uber with some stranger for 2 hours both days for $400 and hope I don’t get kidnapped

Ask my dad… who i have dodged all year and he only pops up when he wants something, but now its me having to ask

Pay who knows how fckin much to fix my original ride’s car

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Plus my flight is at 6am meaning i have to be taken around 3a or 4am. And i dont return until fckin midnight. Ugh this is a lot to have to ask someone

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In the middle of asking my dad, he warned that he was driving through a deadzone. Lmao the phone cut out…. i dont think its meant for me to ask y'all 😂 I dont wanna call back

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So my dads taking me and he doesn't want any gas money or anything 🤷‍♀️

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo man that does suck, I feel your frustration. A few thoughts:

- I know you don't want to, but biting the bullet and just asking your dad may end up being the cheaper/easiest option in the long run to save money and stress.

- Could you Uber to a nearby airport then fly from there? Might cut some costs vs the full 2hr drive Uber each way.

- As a last resort, what if you offered to repair the car yourself or help out around the house in exchange for the ride? Gotta swallow pride sometimes ya feel me

- If all else fails, maybe look into renting a car one way instead of round trip to cut the rental costs? Drop it at the airport then get picked up.

Ultimately do what you gotta do to ball on a budget and get to your trip luv. Don't stress too heavy, it'll work out somehow. Hit up dad as a last option if others don't roll, then you balled on your terms still ya heard

[DizzyDesii]

The nearest airport to me said $778 just fly to that one 🤣 that is one way costs for the rental ($400 each way if rental), $200 each way if uber. My dads taking me tho. I dont drive

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, $778 one way for a car rental is absolutely nuts! No wonder you didn't wanna go that route. Props to you for calling your dad even though you didn't wanna cave, that couldn't have been an easy call. But it seems like it's gonna work out and he's gonna take you, so sometimes you just gotta do what you gotta do, ya know? Glad it's all coming together now so you can make your flight. I'm sure your dad's happy you swallowed your pride and asked too, even if it was annoying to have to. Just do your best not to give him too much shit on the drive there haha. Anyway, hope your trip is sick! Thanks for updating me, it all worked out in the end.

[zeitgeist057]

I voted "fix your original ride's car". Reason #1, this person is being there for you, it's good to be there for them. One idea would be to ask them how much it is to fix their car, and if it's more than $300, ask if they would be down to have you pay for half (or some portion of it). I would say take this option up to $500 if you want to build goodwill and show your friend some appreciation.

I commented on some other answers, but I'll list a few alternatives as well:

Public transport: I have found this could cost from $10-$60 for a 2 hour trip. Check for airport shuttles in your area (may be a private company).

Craigslist: People cringe at CL, but it's just regular people and I've used CL many times to find good deals. You would still use caution and trust your gut, but they have a "Rideshare" section. Cost = free - $100

[zeitgeist057]

@DizzyDesii so what did it end up costing you and what option did you choose?

[DizzyDesii]

Oh sorry i ended up updating on another post. I asked my dad and i dont think he’ll charge me but im okay if he does since im not that close with him.

[zeitgeist057]

oh wow you still haven't left yet! You really plan in advance :) I thought your flight would have happened already.

[DizzyDesii]

I often plan my trips years in advance 😂 This one was only planned about 3 months in advance but we’re going this month

[exitseven]

In what state does it cost 800 bucks to rent a car? Did you look into getting an Uber?

[DizzyDesii]

Its all the damn deposits the rental place added. Its ridiculous. And the car was only needed for a day 😭 Friday and again Monday. Look at the poll about uber

[exitseven]

I rented a car for the day last year. I think it was 150 bucks. I gave them my credit card. It was Enterprise

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i talked to enterprise and these hoes told me a $300 deposit which I've nev er heard that much for a deposit. Then she said $100 for the rental. This other place budget said the same

[BoopBoopBeep]

If you use a debit card there's a deposit. I use credit cards all the time and there's no deposit.

[DizzyDesii]

@BoopBoopBeep yea i would be using debit but she told me that price before i even said which card

[BoopBoopBeep]

I rented cars 22 times in 2023 and never paid a deposit. Are you under 25?

[DizzyDesii]

@BoopBoopBeep im 28 and i wouldn't have been the driver

[BoopBoopBeep]

Oh well what about the driver? they under 25? i guess if iyou do go that route, at least you get the deposit back, but on a CC it's not like it's actually locking any real money up

[Paul_in_Indy]

You get the deposit back when you return the car.

[DizzyDesii]

@BoopBoopBeep yea you get the deposit back and no theyre older

[BoopBoopBeep]

I don't understand why there's a deposit at all, but... F it... that's the cheapest option overall.

[DizzyDesii]

even tho you get the deposit back, i wanted that extra money for the trip, not to have it on hold for 72+ hours

[zeitgeist057]

You get deposits back, though, so I wouldn't count that as the cost of a rental. If I deposit $1000, pay $100/day, and have the car for three days, the cost is $300. Usually you just give a credit card for the deposit, they make sure it has enough, but they don't even charge it.

Another option is craigslist rideshares. Many people will give a ride for the company and conversation, but if you were to offer a tank of gas ($75-$125), that would almost definitely get you a ride (assuming you have a week or more to find a ride). Of course you have to be careful but having a couple friends you are in contact with via text is probably enough.

[zeitgeist057]

also, I would check with public transportation as well. I just paid $55 to send my girlfriend on a 2 hour drive to LAX. We were originally going to go together for 3 days, but I got sick. The bus service is called "airbus" and is a dedicated service that takes people to the airport 4 times a day from our community and surrounding areas.

I also once got public transit on the $1-$2 busses that took me over 2 hours and 3 counties to get to an airport. My total cost was less than $10.

[HawkPerception]

Hate to say it, but I think you should just suck up to your dad. Although you may not have the best relationship with him, he's clearly still there for you enough to give you a drop to the airport. Think of it as a job. You just have to deal with his shit for a few hours at mostz then be on your way and not have to cut into your budget for your trip next month. Once you're at the airport, you'll feel extreme relief you didn't have to spend all that money and actually happy you relied on him. Try not to let your pride impair your judgment 😂

[DizzyDesii]

I dont even know if he’ll take me. He broke that promise once and then surprisingly made up for it another time. But he pissed me off so bad during that 2 hour drive that i wanted to jump out in the middle of traffic.

[HawkPerception]

Family has a way of getting under your skin like that. Trust me I get it, but all the benefits of dealing with it outweigh the negatives. But by all means, spend the $400 on the Uber there and back if you really can't deal with it 😂

[DizzyDesii]

More so than the price, im worried about being in an uber with a stranger at 3am and again at midnight

[HawkPerception]

I think you'll be fine 😂 I'm pretty sure most Uber drivers aren't out to kidnap you or rape you 😂😂😂 Most are just hardworking individuals. There's a small chance of danger with anything you do. Even if I was an attractive girl, I'd choose to do the Uber if I really didn't want my dad to take me. Just keep a knife in your pocket in case. Safety is always good, but I promise you nothing will happen. Dude might ogle ya at most.

Once you get to the airport, just put the knife in your check-in luggage.

[DizzyDesii]

Thank you

[HawkPerception]

Gotchu 😉

[HawkPerception]

Call back foo 😂 Don't get all "Serendipity" on me

[DizzyDesii]

😂😂

[HawkPerception]

Ha told ya it was the best option

[RavVid]

I wouldn't ask a favor from anyone who is likely to milk it later full stop.

Don't know how much time you have to make arrangements but I think fixing the other person's car might be problematic if a part has to be got in or they are booked up. A friend needed a quick car repair recently but the garage was fully booked into the new year.

If it is tomorrow I'd pick Uber. If there was longer I'd make a list of my more impoverished friends and offer $100. But they might not be reliable.

Worth considering cabs/taxis. You can ask for a quote and negotiate for a fare like that with cabs whereas you can't negotiate with Uber though there is rideshare.

Good luck.

[DizzyDesii]

Its mid January. And all my close friends live out of state now. Too far away. I wouldn't trust taxi fair especially since i live in the countryside away from those. Uber is $200 there and $200 back

[RavVid]

Tough sit. Hey! Any cheap hotels/motels by the airport? Might be cheaper to pay for accommodation close by than for a 2 hr fare. I like to bounce ideas cause bad ones can generate better ones.

[Screenwriter]

This is a vacation, isn't it? Just suck it up and pick your pocketbook. You won't be obligated to anyone.

Be nicer to your dad if you can. Remember, he won't be around forever, and unless he's so awful that you HAVE to avoid him because he's a drug addict or alcoholic or physically abusive, help him when you can, and when you can't, say "No. I can't." But tell him you love him.

You can always refill your savings. It'll take time, but it's doable. Choose the least expensive option: Uber. It's half the cost of renting a car, and for the most part, that rental will sit in the airport lot eating up more money in a paid parking place. That doesn't make sense. Good luck and have a good time.

[zeitgeist057]

airports often have car rental agencies there. If you use one of those, you can drop the car off at the airport and stop paying for it during your trip.

[Screenwriter]

@zeitgeist057 IF that costs LESS than using an Uber or Lyft or Taxi, then do it.

[zeitgeist057]

I agree, I also think she added in the (refundable) deposit into her rental total.
My only thought was it would be nice to pay a little extra to fix her friend's car.
If Uber was $400, and fixing my friend's car was $500, I would go for fixing my friend's car. They are doing me a favor and I see that extra $100 as a well placed investment. Whereas the $400 to Uber is just gone forever.

[Screenwriter]

@zeitgeist057 Great Christmas birthday gift to a friend. Means your friend will love to take you places because of your help!!!

[jennifer_bloom]

Maybe post an ad online saying you will pay one of your friends $150 for a ride and see if anybody responds. There were two girls at my church that went to the girls bible study to look for babysitters when they needed a trustworthy female they knew personally for help.

[DizzyDesii]

All my friends live in other states now

[mandyfire98]

This is a tough situation. It's either ask your dad or cut into your trip money or new phone money.

Depends on how bad of a relationship I had with my dad. If it was bad then I'd cut into my trip money or phone money and just either try making it up later or try to budget the trip when I did go.

[DizzyDesii]

I went the unwanted route

[mandyfire98]

I'm sorry you have to deal with this.

[DizzyDesii]

he's not a bad person. Just not someone i ever tried to be around. I’ve distanced myself from him and many others since i was like 5. I just hate asking people for help if they’re not someone i care to be around

[mandyfire98]

I completely understand

[hahahmm]

Uber.. but, I would aim to get to the airport 3 hours early or something, so if the first Uber driver doesn't show up you still have time to get a second one. I agree with the guy who told you to suck it up and ask your dad till I saw you wrote that he let you down before. Can't risk asking him for a long trip in the middle of the night. He doesn't sound dependable.

[SimplyPut]

You can get a phone for free and get your service for free so I don't know about $1,000 for a phone that doesn't quite compute to me. And where the hell is a car rental that much unless it's just been jacked up that much since covid because I haven't rented one in like 5 years but it was a mere fraction of what you're saying

[appleadayisgood]

if i maybe honest i would asked your dad.

1 reason you won't have to worry about getting kidnapped.

2 reason ever if you have to give him money you will prob still not have to pay a lot

as per the Pay who knows how fckin much to fix my original ride’s car
if say it was only $300 would be a deal

no one knows plus who knows how long it would take to fix.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea ugh

[appleadayisgood]

@DizzyDesii its none of my buiz to me that seems like the best thing

[SunnyRS]

Honestly speaking wifey according to me calling your dad would be the best option but I know you don't want to do that and it's the end of year you should end it happy.
So the second best option is going with the rental.
Or what if you call your guy with his vehicle. Is that possible?

[DizzyDesii]

he's coming from work from a different direction so he can't

[SunnyRS]

Then I deszil I suggest going for the rental.
Cause I live too far from you and even if I lived near I would not suggest going with me, cause you don't know me

[DizzyDesii]

I dont know the uber driver either lol but ima have to trust a 2 hour drive with them lol

[SunnyRS]

Well at least most of them need to be professionals to keep their jobs, so it is more secure than with a stranger.
Although I get your point it is still not completely safe.

[lilyanony1]

I would say pay for and uber. Unfortunately this is what happens when you're an adult shit happens and we gotta make sacrafices...
It sucks but money comes and goes.
But if you make the decision fast you'll be on your way to getting it back...

[electromagnetic]

Just tough it out and get that Uber. That’s literally been me since driving is not an option and I cannot always guarantee my partner will be available.

[DizzyDesii]

See I've taken uber but never hours before

[RoseySarah]

I'd ad ise the top 2! If you can't trust your dad it's not worth risking it!

Honestly the rental is probably the best!

Ubers can be late or canceled!

[RoseySarah]

Good luck and here is a huge so stressful

[DizzyDesii]

Damn i forgot about ubers being late ugh

[RoseySarah]

Which did you go with?

[DizzyDesii]

Just asked my dad and he said yes

[RoseySarah]

Great glad it worked out

[Joshydavid25]

Well, it looks like you made a decision.. At least it's much cheaper than spending hundreds of dollars to get to the airport.. You'll appreciate it if the trip is great..

[DizzyDesii]

i guessss

[Joshydavid25]

You'll know soon enough.. 😂😂

[Joshydavid25]

Damn, you still ain't went? 😂.. But that's good..

[DizzyDesii]

I was planning ahead. I wasn't tryna do last minute backup transport

[Joshydavid25]

That's good actually.. I shouldn't be surprised, you always seemed pretty organized and like you thought ahead..

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i started planning this in like October. We bought our ticks and stuff November. And just been chilling. Im a little nervous tho cause we might… do it lol

[Joshydavid25]

Didn't you guys meet already? Around Christmas? Or you were you being metaphorical?

[DizzyDesii]

Yea but we didn't have sex yet. Thats what i meant by “do it”

[Joshydavid25]

Aw yeah I know that that's what you meant.. Haha..

[LiamJHayden]

Outside the box, are there U-Hauls near you and the airport? I knew a guy who rented one of their vans because it ended up being cheaper, even with mileage, than renting a car from any of the local operators.

[DizzyDesii]

Funny you mentioned it! I was literally otp with them trying to get their pickup truck (which was a much better price) but then my dad called back

[love_conquers_lust]

Public transportation possible?

Cheaper to borrow from Dad if he has nothing better to do anyway. Otherwise pay for it.

You never know when you might not get another year to be an asshole to him.

[PeachyPie93]

I would just go to your dad. I use my dad all the time for money and stuff LOL

[DizzyDesii]

Lol you feel good about that?

[PeachyPie93]

I don't feel bad about it lol

[Shark_61695]

Check the busses, most airports have a bus service to them and then you only need a taxi to the closest stop to you.

[Shark_61695]

Just seen the times... even an airport hotel should be cheaper than any of the options you mentioned.

[DizzyDesii]

Ewww staying at a hotel 😭

[Crankor]

I had something similar happen to me a month ago. Ride bailed a few days before an hour plus drive. Fortunately I found a ride the day before. I would have had to dish out some money for sure otherwise

[nawtee_me]

You know I could talk to your dad about socked feet, boxers and a few other things so the two of you would have something to talk about on the drive…. lol

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao hush

[DJB72]

Ask your dad. It's what a parent is supposed to be there for.

[DizzyDesii]

I did…

[DJB72]

Safe travels 😀

[loveslongnails]

You have NO other friends whom you could pay less to do you this favor? Really?

[DizzyDesii]

All my friends moved to other states after college. We see eachother some months but next month ain't one

[loveslongnails]

What about taking a bus to the airport? That's gotta be cheaper.

[DizzyDesii]

Will one be goin at 3am and at midnight?

[loveslongnails]

I don't know where you are coming from. I presume you're trying to get to DTW airport?

[DizzyDesii]

No Im in MS

[loveslongnails]

ohhh... and you're trying to get to which airport, Jackson? message me please, I'm a travel agent.

[DizzyDesii]

Gulfport this time. My dads gonna take me

[Staximus]

I saw car rentals for $8 a day in Priceline, you're slippin

[DizzyDesii]

I hardly use online stuff. I was looking in person

[CuriousMufuxka]

I chose B. and hope you get kidnapped. But only before buying a 1000 dollar phone! It's for your own good ;)

[Jerre]

I’d go with a Uber. I have found they are always on time and very safe.

[DizzyDesii]

Thats good. I like uber too but for 2 hours?

[Jerre]

Cheaper than a taxi and wouldn’t have to bother your dad

[Jerre]

I’m glad it worked out

[kingmaker21]

Where you live? If you're near by me then I can drop you to the airport. Lol

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao the new version of “uber with a stranger” aye

[kingmaker21]

Lol no i don't charge 😂

[Anonymous]

i'd just ask my dad regardless. free ride, you don't have the money

[Anonymous]

Don't call your dad. If you've been rude to him all year why bother him now? This is why you shouldn't burn bridges

[DizzyDesii]

he's worse than me so i dont regret burning that bridge. he's a user. May as well play his game

[Static_In_The_Attic]

What about a bus or train?

[DizzyDesii]

I wish i wouldve thought of that before askin. Fck

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Take a bus or train to or as close to the airport as possible & from there take a taxi or Uber to the airport. If it were within my power to drive you I would but on the other hand I would probably drive you nuts.

[DizzyDesii]

Its too late because I've had to ask him now

[ShadezMcgee]

Just ask your dad and save money

[DizzyDesii]

I did…

[ShadezMcgee]

Again, my response is merely that. A response. Not an attack. You asked the question, Desi

[DizzyDesii]

I’m 100-% confused. Since last week you keep Responding this way. I have always enjoyed your advice so I don't know why you keep thinking i feel attacked. My replies shouldn't be coming off as more than a similar response to what i give to others. Im a bubbly person and my responses to you have always been that or filled with sadness bur never anger nor feeling like a victim. Maybe i should start sending you gifs and emojis so you understand the tone in which I am typing in

[ShadezMcgee]

Not alone. This is why I prefer face to face with people since it is easier to get a feel for their responses over writing.

I said what I said because your response came across as curt and annoyed per my initial response to your question. "I did..." I took as a short and annoyed response.

[DizzyDesii]

It was more of like a sigh and yea a bit annoyed with myself for having to ask him

[ShadezMcgee]

Tracking

[molonski2]

God , they are ALL such shit options !

[DizzyDesii]

I knowwwww my stomach hurts lol. I dont wanna ask my dads parents either although they live next to the airport… because i like never visit them. Lol the one time im regretting burning bridges with people

[slatyb]

Rent a car, drive to the airport, drop it off.

[slatyb]

Also you don't need a $1000 phone. Get a used phone for $200 since you clearly can't afford a $1000 phone.

[DizzyDesii]

I dont drive. And i can afford the phone, i just didn't want to go into my savings for extra transport

[douride2]

Bite the bullet & take an Uber or a taxi.

[DizzyDesii]

I went with my dad

[douride2]

Good ole dad came through eh?

[Confusedashell123]

Can you find a public transport route?

[strateguy632]

.3rd

[Jamie05rhs]

It'll be fine. :)