Are mixed-gender dorm rooms a good idea?

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With the push for gender equality and acceptance within the last decade, more and more colleges have have been offering mixed-gender dorm rooms.

About two dozen schools — like Brown University, University of Pennsylvania, Oberlin College, Clark University, and the California Institute of Technology allow the gender-blind room arrangements. They say this creates a gender neutral environment and is a further step towards equality.

Many people are against the idea rather than for it, saying that it would be uncomfortable, and would create unnecessary sexual tension... Others are for it, and like these colleges are claiming, are saying that it's a push towards equality.

Would you be comfortable rooming with a person of the opposite sex? Why or why not?

jp612612 · Accepted Answer

No, this is a horrible idea. College years are a very, very unique time in life in that you have these kids who are at their peak mating ages who then put themselves in some pretty extreme sexual situations. In college, how many times did you hear about a party hook up between two individuals where the guy dumped the girl immediately afterwards and the girl then tells her friends that she was raped but doesn't want to press charges? But then upon hearing about this, her friends who were at the party quietly tell her other friends that that's not what happened at all.

At the time, I'd hear these stories and I wouldn't know who to believe and in a lot of the situations, I still don't know. But to me, the bigger thing is this -- just a couple years after college, all of those situations never seemed to happen again. The problem isn't that there's a permissive rape culture in this country, it's that 17-22 year olds are given adult status but are actually fucking morons. And you don't realize this until a couple years after college when you find that all of the stupid shit that happened in college doesn't happen in real life and additionally, no one gives a rat's ass about all the stupid shit you worried about in college. So no, I don't think we should help stupid kids make the bad decisions that they're going to make anyway.

Djaaaay · Accepted Answer

This social gender -equality measure was adopted from the right to per measure argued from feminist. The colleges are trying to lean and support the admended measure. Or better put , force and shove it in your face , while you pay them huge tuitions just to be accomadated at thier facility. Interestingly enough, try studying confidently with this always bothering someone or subjecting them into situations while trying to attend and graduate college curriculum at the same time. I remember attending college at two facility's. I've never seen so many stupid ass things in my life at college and all the distractions along with it. Off campus is the only way. Just saying

SarahsSummer · Accepted Answer

I would imagine it definitely creates sexual tensions. Hard to say if that is ultimately a bad or good thing but I'd probably rather have my own or share with another girl/girls.

Blonde401 · Accepted Answer

I lived in a flat which was mixed in student halls. Had my own room but lived with guys and girls and it was fine so I don't see why not.

Elarra · Accepted Answer

Dorm halls? Yes. Dorm rooms? No.

Mustachekitteh · Answer

No because of the idiots that tend to abuse that type of thing.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Where I went to college, some of the dorms had co-ed floors. The shared bathrooms were co-ed also. But rooms? No way... Too much awkwardness regarding getting dressed and numerous other issues. Sexual tension to the MAX at that age. // In my dorm, there were some rooms that eventually became co-ed with a couple that was dating, however those involved still kept their regular room with the same sex room mate on the side. It was kept kind of hush-hush. // The co-ed floors worked out well in my opinion. Room I wouldn't even think of it... LOL

Dtegesd123 · Answer

Well in real life, men and women live in the same buildings. You know apartments and they don't go around fucking each other all day. I think its good training for their future lives and possibly be very educational for both genders in terms of understanding the other gender

capturemyheartnow · Answer

Yes , they are a good idea. But some good rules should be framed. People should be mature of age. And they should be admitted there of their own free will. Certain areas like toilets , bathrooms , wash rooms and bedrooms should be for the same gender. Halls and other areas can be common.

Anonymous · Answer

I liked my dorm. Guys and girls weren't in the same rooms but were right next door on the same floor same hall and everything. So like I wasn't separated from girls but also if someone was extremely uncomfortable living with the opposite sex things were bearable.

Cosytoasty · Answer

Of course its a good thing. More sex! (seriously though, it helps you learn to live with different people and usually not let the place become a freakin tip)

Carley99 · Answer

No because what if the guy tries to rape the girl what would happen it's just not safe and college is one of the most common places that rape occurs and I don't trust anyone that easily.

Shawn58 · Answer

I don't think it would be a no sex some for sure they would end up having sex lol

Anonymous · Answer

Personally, I'm very uncomfortable around men because of some of my past experience and I know there are people of both sexes uncomfortable around either sex so I would have to say there should be a choice.

Anonymous · Answer

I think in theory it's a good idea. But really I wouln't want a female roommate. To be fair I can't stand having a male roommate either, but with a girl everything would be even more awkward and also girls spend forever in the bathroom :P I think girls are harder to live with generally

Blitzkrieger · Answer

We have been doing this in our mixed scouts movement since forever. Never had a problem.

YaBaba · Answer

I don't think I feel comfy with that I hope the students aren't forced to comply with the rule; as in they should be able to pick otherwise.

ChromAzonyx108 · Answer

Perhaps they want to promote population growth?  There's are pros and cons to it. I agree with @Cosytoasty that it can help you learn to live with different people.

SovereignessofVamps · Answer

Sexual tension? but... people fuck in colleges all the time anyway.

IceCubedude · Answer

no wtf, i dont want any girl i know to use a bathroom with guys

Redstang88 · Answer

Ellara nailed it. Shared dorms - hell yeah, sounds fun. Shared rooms - no thanks.

Jayjax211233 · Answer

I can't really answer being a adult who never had a real life past 10th grade but if I had to say something about it it's a good way to also see how much control those roommates actually have

SeraBarton · Answer

I think it'd be a good thing for couples so they can go to the same college and stay together.

Deathraider · Answer

Their an educational experience of the other gender. Also if you don't like it, then don't go to the dorms.

beez1717 · Answer

It's a good idea as long as you don't have the guys and the girls rooming together.

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