Introducing 3 trending/viral annoying social media and dating phenomena that are occurring right now: (I didn't make these up. I read an article about them.)Stashing: Stashing is when someone dates someone, and seems happy enough to spend time with them one-on-one, but they never introduce them to their friends or family. More often than not, their social media profiles don't show any evidence that they exist. Ex: "It's been 2 months and I haven't met a single one of his/her friends yet. I think he's/she's stashing me!"Remember ol' ClippyPaperclipping: Paperclipping is when a person pops up, now and then, for no particular reason, but on their own schedule, you never know when; there's an inherent flakiness to the person, as they come and go as they please. Someone has you on the backburner. They'll reach out - not in an attempt to see you, or move things forward, - but to restoke the flame and make sure you're still an option. "Truth is, I'm flaky, damaged, and I like the attention, I'm not particularly interested in you, but I don't want you to forget I exist." The name originates from 'Clippy', the Microsoft Office animated paperclip character.Breadcrumbing: Breadcrumbing is the act of dropping enticing little digital "breadcrumbs" (texts, whatsapps, comments, stories, etc. on social media posts) in order to make sure that the breadcrumber remains on the radar of the breadcrumbee. Sort of like, "Heeeere, kitty, kitty, kitty... I have something for you..."
So, which one (s) are you most likely to do?
I'm a stasher.
I'm a paperclipper.
I'm a breadcrumber.
I do all 3.
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Are you a 'stasher', a 'paperclipper' or a 'breadcrumber'?
I'm not sure if I can fit into one. Maybe a breadcrumber? I recently got on a dating app thinking, Cool, we can chat and get to know each other a little and it will be less pressure because of Covid. Nope. I said hi and was immediately asked what I was doing later tonight, with no other conversation. (I should point out that this person has "Seeking a relationship" on their bio, not "DTF".) I was suddenly overwhelmed with, holy crap, maybe I'm not ready for this like I thought... So I've had small bits of surface layer conversation but not much. I'm not trying to be a paperclip or a breadcrumber...
Geez, I'm glad I'm not the only person who doesn't fall into a category, I was feeling awkward and more single than ever when initially reading this message! I'm slightly more relaxed now! lol
I'm definitely a stasher. My last "boyfriend" I dated for about 6 months and my parents didn't even know he existed lol. But I'm in a new relationship and this time it's different. My parents know about him but they haven't met him yet. I've met my current boyfriend's parents. Things are going great this time around!
I guess I am a stasher because I want to keep the relationship private in the beginning, if it doesn't work out, I see no reason to involve friends and family. Besides it can go months between the time I actually meet family, so there isn't that many opportunities. So if you haven't meet my friends and family yet, I either don't trust the relationship yet or there hasn't been a good opportunity to introduce you.
It's easy if you haven't reached girlfriend status your clearly the first and otherwise it's most likely the last. And if your a girlfriend you should be able to ask questions like that. It's not like my relationship with parents are secret. So there is really no reason to make assumptions.
2 months is not a long time. Why should they meet my family? Good luck getting a post on social media. I hardly use that garbage anymore. To be fair, they would probably meet some of my friends in that time.
My ex is a certified paperclipper. Glad there is finally a word for it after 4 years.
Is there anything wrong with breadcrumbing? I think if it works, it works.
I'm none because I get clingy and push people away.
But I would rather be stashed, it might be a sign that she doesn't want other people to ruin the relationship, as long as I am not being stashed to keep her options open.
Your comment reminds me of a poll I did recently. See the pink 82% on regret? I think they more often do share details of their relationships with others, and this poll shows they regret it. Maybe after some bad experiences, they will change to becoming a stasher to keep the integrity of the relationship intact, uninfluenced. Men are, by nature, more independent, quite often. But as a woman, it is difficult to know whether that's the main reason they don't suggest introductions to others, or it's embarrassment or something. With me, I'm a one-on-one person though, so I prefer spending time with just the guy (or whomever, a girl friend.)
That's true. I don't think anyone really cares what my relationship is like. I guess men might be considered dominant in the relationship so it's seen as their responsibility to make sure it works for them but women are considered to need guidance.
Or maybe it is the false perception men are not abused and the fact men are safer from extreme violence and pregnancy.
I think it's built into the cultures that girls often seek advice about their relationships - it's not protection, it's about interpreting the guy and what everything means and how she should act in it. Guys are not as open to receiving, would you say? They have more of a 'I'll figure it out myself' philosophy about relationships. I think part of it is the independent thinking, but also females by nature analyze and dissect relationships. Men are more apt to do that with things, or where there is a practical or political application. They find that amount of minutia on relationship analysis tedious.
I'm neither because when I'm interested in someone I put all My time and effort into that one person and everyone else can just go fuck themselves. I'm sorry but some people might consider Me rigid but that's how I was brought up to be with one person and only one person.
I am definitely a stashed. I have something called Reactive attachment disorder (RAD) so I already know that I am probably going to end the relationship if it gets too serious. Therefore, I never introduce anyone to my friends or family.
Who comes up with these stupid names for things... like what the actual fuck...
My generation did drugs and we still came out with better names that paperclipper or breadcrumber, it's just lazy suppose the world gone the same way as music lazy and unoriginal
I don't mind the breadcrumber/crumbee but yeah, agree on the other two.
I think about the music thing too. So much is derivative. On one hand, you can't stop lovers/enthusiasts from gobbling up past artists/art, and then it's only natural to be influenced by them. And then you've got the business side of entertainment, which is so formula-driven. They want the best chance of R. O. I. so they want to stick to what's already been proven/popular. (A decade of superhero movies, for one.) But is the real problem a lack of original talent, original thought? Young people always think they are on the pulse, the bleeding edge of 'what's hot' but many/most don't know history yet. I am a huge lover of film and music - alternative music is my main favourite. By its very definition, it does not fit into any other genre category. While I am against 'Misc.' labels, boxes, and drawers at home, I love people and art and concepts that don't fit a mould, that defy categorization.
Uh, I don't think they have rubber hoses at the office supply store. I'd better make a trip to the hardware store. Would that be acceptable to you? You said hose, not chain, right? Well why don't I go ahead and also pick up some duct tape... and plumber's tape, while I'm there. You just never know, do you...
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