Some tips for the fellas for Valentines Day (if some guy wants to do a guy version for this, go ahead)
1. STOP USING PICKUP LINES (or try to use fancy stuff)
Base of a relationship is friendship. Would you approach a friend with “hey you fine i’ll drink you loke wine”? No, you wouldn’t.
Most girls are not going to think you are amazing because of pickup lines. For one, we know you didn’t come up with that. We are going to think you are crazy and that you don’t know how to talk to people normally.
A normal tap on the shoulder with a simple, “Hi, my name is —. How are you doing?” and a normal conversation would be far better than any fancy pickup line. It ok to show that you are nervous, because it shows that you are not a player.
2. Stop showering us with compliments all at once
A guy who just calls a random girl a “goddess” “hot” “sexy” or ones that stare at your body and salivates are disgusting and immediately raises a red flag as a predator.
3. DO NOT BE AFRAID OF BEING FRIENDS
Get to know her friends. Have some common interests. I (and most girls) hate random strangers hitting on us.
One of my exes actually approached me by getting to know my friend group. We went on group outing together so that i was somewhat comfortable with him.
THE KEY to not getting stuck in the friendzone is to be friends with her for about a month to month and a half only.
4. Listen to her
I’ve had men try to pressure me into things. Respect her wishes. If she wants to go home early, let her. I’ve had men demand dates because they spent time talking to me(?) as a joke. This wasn’t funny. Needless to say I cutoff contact with him. Girls don’t owe you a date or anything else.
Girls feel a lot of pressure too. I’ve had too many creeps who freaked me out. So have many other girls.
Unfortunately, in our society, creepy men and normal men lookalike. As there is no way tell them apart, our past trauma will affect how we interact with men even though you may be a gentleman. So if a girl is cautious and wants to take it slow and only go to coffee during the daytime and not dinner, please respect that. Because not doing so is one of the fastest ways to end the “relationship.”
I hope this helped.