Can a girl ask a boy to be her valentine?

Question

I really really really really really like this boy but his part of the seniors and I'm a junior , is it safe for me to ask him to be my valentine?

cheddar · Accepted Answer

Can a girl ask a boy to be her valentine? It's a common question that arises every February - can a girl ask a boy to be her valentine? There are a few schools of thought on this matter. Some people believe that it's totally fine for a girl to ask a boy to be her valentine. After all, it's 2022 and we're all about equality, right? Wrong.  There are still plenty of people who believe that it's totally inappropriate for a girl to ask a boy to be her valentine. They believe that it's the boy's job to do the asking and that the girl should just sit back and wait. So, who's right? Well, there's no definitive answer, but we can try to figure it out. Let's start by looking at the arguments for why a girl can ask a boy to be her valentine.  First of all, it's 2022 and like we said, we're all about equality.  If a boy can ask a girl to be his valentine, then a girl can ask a boy to be hers. Simple as that. Secondly, it takes the pressure off of the boy.  He may be too shy to ask you himself, but if you ask him, then he doesn't have to worry about rejection. And finally, it just makes sense.  If you like someone and want to be their valentine, then why not just ask them? Now, let's look at the arguments for why a girl shouldn't ask a boy to be her valentine. First of all, it's considered to be very forward and aggressive. In the past, it was always the boy's job to ask the girl because it was seen as a way of showing respect.  Secondly, it can be seen as desperate.  If you're constantly asking people to be your valentine and they're always saying no, then you're going to look pretty desperate. And finally, it's just not how things are done. There's a certain way that things are supposed to be done and asking someone to be your valentine just isn't part of that. So, there you have it. Can a girl ask a boy to be her valentine?  There's no definitive answer, but hopefully, this has given you something to think about.

snowangle · Accepted Answer

It's 100% okay and encouraged for a girl to ask a boy out (sure beats sitting around waiting for him to maybe do it), but that doesn't mean it's "safe." Most anything in life worth having involves a little risk. He still might say no, but you should still be glad you took control and asked.

aicarg · Accepted Answer

If you truly like him and care for him to take notice, it's going to bother and crush you more if you let the opportunity go. There's no rule that a girl isn't able to ask a guy out. Lots of guys nowadays find it rather refreshing for a girl to make the first move 🙂

Bliss-taylor · Accepted Answer

Yes, asking is better than letting opportunity pass you by. Technically you can tell him you like him at any time but during Valentine's Day is sweet. There will always be a chance someone will turn you down but it's just as possible that someone won't. Take chances!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

YES any girl can ask! but dont be nervous its ok! i mean even if he says no, at least you know right? its going to be ok if he says no! i promise... am i scaring u XD sorry

anton_dmitri · Accepted Answer

One questions for all the girls... Why do y'all wait for guys to take the 1st step huh? I mean why the guy should always ask 1st... Me for example, I was kinda shy in school n I missed out going out with great girls coz I didn't have the guts to go n speak up... I was otherwise quite popular being in the football team n quite good at studies n all but used to turn into a nervous wreck when it came to girls...

d4rki · Accepted Answer

This is the cutest thing that could happen. I don't get that gender restricted stuff anyways. The female gender has ematipated long time ago. I love when girls approach us too.

Unfortunately it wouldn't happen to me yet :(

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Yes, but are you prepared if his answer is "no?"

cookie_monster007 · Answer

What is the wrong in that. Boys are struggling all their life to just ask her out on the valentines day. We know the struggle of confessing a love and we appreciate the most if a girl does that to me. It is completly safe to ask him for a valentine day out. at least he will get happy and if he says yes he will shower you with all the goodness in life. Because as i said, boys know the struggle

sonnypie · Answer

You go girl! Its like most here say. We love it! It shows confidence etc. But also as people say, don't ask if you haven't considered rejection and is prepared to handle it. Its like they say in prison "if you can't handle the time, then don't do the crime". Think of it like a social contract.
Disclaimer: have not been in prison, but worked there one summer x) because mother is a warden and norwegian prisons is pretty harmless x)

Picturethisclev · Answer

Life is to short to worry about insignificant things, if it's what you want do it! If you're scared of rejection don't be, it's a risk you take in life. Worst thing that could happen is he'll he says no, and he's gone next year anyways. Win win

Solo12 · Answer

Love is love, no matter what grade. But there is a problem. When he graduates into college you won't. And you will not see him ever again unless you go to the same college as him when you graduate as a senior.

Paztelcat · Answer

I don't think you should if you aren't prepared for rejection. I think if a guy likes a girl he would go for her, is this the only way to get yourself noticed? If yes, then maybe go for it. but if you get rejected, it happens to everyone.

ASpecialNoOne · Answer

Of course! I just wouldn't do it because it'd might make me look humiliating if my crush ends up shutting me down because we're "friends" lol. Just be prepared for his answer though! Good luck girlie 😉

ooderman · Answer

Yea of course. Guys like feeling desired just as much as women so by asking him you are showing a doubtless interest.

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davidrslopes · Answer

This a joke? Women rally for equal rights, so I don't understand why is it public convention that men should allways be the ones that makes romantic gestures and moves. Doesn't makes sense nowadays.

RedRobin · Answer

Yes! Guys love that. It takes the pressure off them and they'll have more respect for you afterwards for having the conference to do it

thatrdmguy · Answer

I just want to say please do if people can't read your mind they may be distracted by a lot in life and may just not even notice your feelings I have done that and I felt and still do feel really bad about it as this was a person who I really liked

Logorithim · Answer

It's definitely OK. Glad to see a girl take the initiative.

Anonymous · Answer

the odds of a girl getting rejected are so unbelievably low that it seems like the girl asking or the guy getting asked have to be crazy for a straight or bi single guy to reject her at least for one date especially on valentines day. i mean as much as i hate valentines day, nobody wants to be alone for it. its likely he wants someone too so just do it.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

A girl can ask a boy anything she wants & if she really likes someone she shouldn’t be afraid to tell him.

Maddiisnotintresting · Answer

yes it's actually really good to do that, it shows him you're interested and a lot of guys think it's super cute when a girl does

primroseweasley · Answer

Go for it! I've asked two guys to be my Valentine in the past before. I might ask the guy I have a history with to be my Valentine again.

kisses_peaches88 · Answer

If it's something you will think about constantly, regret, and obsess over, then DO IT.

thenewgirlll · Answer

Yes, you can do the first move too but hope that he isn't a dick because some people don't understand that.

Anonymous · Answer

Ofcourse. No one said that Valentine's day is for guys to make all the effort.

NineBreaker · Answer

If you can handle potential rejection well, I see go for it! Nothing wrong with that.

Cato_ · Answer

Obviously. We're also entrusted to vote nowadays, I'm sure asking a guy out won't be frowned upon

vivmatt · Answer

Every boyfriend and valentine I've had is because I asked the guy ;)

Daltron · Answer

I say she's or guts, I like courage and determination in a girl

MigzyCaPWN · Answer

I would have loved this at that age. I can only hope for the boy that he is smart enough how brave you are and is willing to to commit to you

vvk18 · Answer

Yes, why not.. When it's happening it's look too romantic.. 😍😍😍

Ask_Again_Later · Answer

He said he’d rather spend Valentine’s Day with his best friend? lolol

bubble_tea · Answer

If I were a boy, I'd say 'uh, no thanks! but we could meet on the weekend.'

effyourfeelings · Answer

Yeah There's nothing wrong with that, It's worth a try

anuragk033 · Answer

Go for it, have courage, you do it👍 go anonymous go, go anonymous go

Jihhan · Answer

I've never heard of someone dying from it so I assume it's safe.

Markella88 · Answer

Yes why make it you make the the first. If you want something you go get it don’t wait.

DWornock · Answer

I would advise against it. You comment and question indicated you are into him while likely he's not into you.

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely! I would really like to see more of this. I would do it, but i don't have anybody that I want to Valentine's with.

ghostqueen · Answer

Lmao of course you can.

gclark2708 · Answer

Yeah guys love that, or I do anyway, makes it easier instead of playing the guessing game

Torrianna15 · Answer

I dont see anything wrong with it. The worst he is going to say is no.

Anonymous · Answer

happens all the time in my school, nothing wrong with that.

ODC2112 · Answer

Why not? The problem is usually female does not want to risk.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Heck yeah.. nothing sexier than a woman knowing what she wants and going for it...

Djaay · Answer

Traditionally , anyone may ask anyone , never been any different.

vishal871 · Answer

yes of course. it's normal and it should be appreciated.

BeHappy1985 · Answer

Well thank you for asking, yes I will be your Valentine. :)

mrsterlingarcher · Answer

Unless you're from a very conservative gender-roled family, of course you can.

Mrblueballs42 · Answer

I dont see why not. Just make sure you are confident when you do.

themon09 · Answer

the odds of a girl getting rejected are astronomically low

CHARismatic110 · Answer

Sure she can. There are no rules.

Raff_Cascade · Answer

I would be really flattered if some cute girl approached me wanting to be my Valentine. Guys are soft and squishy and shy too :)

NitroCat · Answer

I dont see why not. Maybe be bold and admit your feelings on valentine, lets go.

Anonymous · Answer

Just go for it cause if you dont ya might regret it

Zion666 · Answer

If by safe you mean he's not going to reject you, no, it's not safe. If by safe you mean the chances of being raped, yes, you are safe.

Anonymous · Answer

No it's strictly forbidden. Feminists would go mental.

Better_off_here · Answer

i just wanted to say good luck and i hope it turned out to be just how you expected.

xZoeyx · Answer

Yes of course! Go for it!

6680o · Answer

hell yes do what u want to do honey  how gives a fuck

jacquesvol · Answer

Of course (if he's single)

Anonymous · Answer

And we cannot talk about being smart because you are a girl

MrMysteryMan · Answer

Of course. You have a mouth don't you?

itsme_lol · Answer

Of course! Be confident and just be yourself :)

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