Is Valentine's Day a bad day to break up with someone?

[LegendaryDater]

No

Yes it doesn't matter

[experience]

Honestly, breaking up with someone on Valentine's Day can be seen as pretty harsh by a lot of folks. It's like, imagine the contrast—everywhere you look, there's all this hype about love, romance, and being with your special someone. Then, bam, you're hit with a breakup. It can make an already tough situation feel ten times worse because of all the expectations and societal pressure around the day.

That being said, if you're contemplating the timing, it really boils down to the relationship dynamics and why you're considering breaking up on that specific day. Sometimes, circumstances don't give you much choice in timing, but if it's possible, it might be kinder to wait for a less charged day. Ending a relationship is never easy, so giving the other person space to process it without the added Valentine's Day drama might be a considerate approach.

On the flip side, if the relationship is causing more harm than good, delaying a breakup just because of a date on the calendar might not be the best for either party.

And hey, it's worth remembering that Valentine's Day, for all its romantic ideals, is just one day out of the year. The wellbeing and happiness of both people in a relationship are important every day, not just on February 14th.

[WonderBell99]

It does not matter. If you want to breakup with someone awful, go for it. Personally, I don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day. It is highly commercialized. Why do people feel the need to “celebrate” their love on ONE specific day? Why not 365 days of the year? Each and every day is could be worth celebrating if you’re in love with someone. I feel like it is more about making people splurge their money on superfluous things instead of actually doing something worthwhile.

So, yes. It is like any other day. Go for it.

[Vesuvius87]

This. I feel Valentine's Day is overrated. People go out of their ways of inviting their spouse to a special restaurant or giving them a special gift but they can do that on any of the 365 days of the year, at any random day to show appreciation and love.

[Adam_INTJ]

It's simple why it's one day of the year: the things you do 365 days a year become boring and routine. It's called hedonic adaptation.

You shouldn't break up on Valentine's day because it undermines expectations. It wastes any efforts and money that either of you went through to plan the day, and causes shock for the inappropriate timing.

If you want to break up, be an adult and do it before Valentine's Day. If you only realize on Feb 14 for the first time that you want to break up, then you're volitile and not worth dating anyway. Work on that.

Don't be petty and break up over some one argument.

[Changiis07]

I feels like any holiday would just be bad to do so but if it has to be done then it has to be done

[LegendaryDater]

they couldn't wait until the next day? Lol

[Changiis07]

I mean seriously I agree the next day would be better

[TheBMG]

I actually did one in college. My girlfriend at the time lived in another city 250 miles away. We did not get to see each other often. We had drifted apart but I had to tell her in person. I wasn’t going to call or send a letter. Also my birthday is only 2 weeks after and I was afraid she’s was about to buy me a large gift. I didn’t want her to spend the money on me. So I went to see her on Valentine’s weekend and we broke up after 4 years. It was not easy. I felt like the biggest asshole, but I didn’t have another time I could break up face to face. It was so hard.

[ShadezMcgee]

Yeah, it is shitty. Personal experience with an ex girlfriend of mine is a big reason I hate the day to begin with. When you get a break up text after you finished planning to take her out to celebrate it on the slopes only to get that, yeah, swift kick in the gut.

[Bethany22]

This is a joke right? Many people get hurt when their partner breaks up with them on Valentine's day. Aparantly the reason why many people do break up with people on Valentine's day and other holidays though is because holidays cause them to reflect on what the person means to them.

[LegendaryDater]

Not a joke.

[Guy13]

Valentine’s Day break-up…make you wish you were Read or Ghosted. Awesome…. take this You…SOB or straight-up B- as the case may be.

Better hit the gym for May bathing suit 👙

[NathanDavis]

any day will be bad for these things... make it more of a bad memory is not helpful at all

[Aerissa_Jade]

It seems like it would be cruel, why not wait one more day? or do it a week before hand?

[Bklynbadboy12]

As usual you're 100% correct that would be cruel and very very selfish

[Paris13]

YES... Should Have Done IT WAY Before This. xxoo

[OlderAndWiser]

Cruel, like serving your wife with divorce papers on Christmas Eve!

[Hal2002]

I know a few guys, that the ex served them with divorce papers as a Christmas present.

[OlderAndWiser]

@Hal2002 Yes, there are people like that, and they are heartless.

[AviatorTom]

There is never a good day to break up with someone. Valentine's Day is just another day.

[Anonymous]

While I think Valentine’s Day is stupid and used just for commercial purposes there is something about the cruel irony of doing this. The person having it done to them is going to remember more long term. Their mind it’s going to associate current events, activities, etc and they will remember it happened on Valentine’s Day. Even if they themselves don’t care about it They will think of the coincidence.

I remember I had to hire my ex to finish a web design project she started for me. I wrote her a check for $250. Deep down I was hoping she would just do it as a favor and not take the money. I really was struggling financially at the time and she knew it. But also had myself mentally prepared to spend the money.

She coincidentally deposited the check on my birthday. At best she didn’t know it was birthday that day. But chances are she did and just didn’t care. She was annoyed with the project and she might of even timed it to spite me. But the irony did add some sting to it all. I never said anything about it but it’s not like I didn’t notice.

Anyway can’t you wait ONE day to break up with the person AFTER Valentine’s Day?

[yepdonethat]

I am a pretty straight forward and honest guy. I wear my heart on my sleeve. And sometimes people think I am brutally honest. However, breaking up with someone on Valentine's day, that's a whole level of cruel and you are without any empathy and a complete psychopath to do so. It would be the same as breaking up on Christmas or their birthday. There is a line sometimes. That's something you don't want to cross, because those are sacred and emotional times that can literally cause someone to commit suicide. Suck it up buttercup for a few more weeks and do it a month later.

[Somoneelse]

Yes. This is what my ex-girlfriend did over a text message at 3AM for me to read the next morning after waking up (instead of the usual "Goodmorning <3" message.. 4 days before Valentinesday while she already knew I'd bought gifts and planned a date at multiple places for her. Which where non-refundable tickets as well. I had the whole day planned out with everything I knew she'd loved. Private cinema room, WONDR Experience Amsterdam and a Japanese restaurant with a store full of japanese products such as candy too One of the reasons why I hate this day so much.

[PhantomMenace22]

Yes, it might seem cold to dump someone around Valentine's Day

On the other hand, if they're going to be upset and angry about the breakup, they'll feel that way no matter when you do it.

You can't stop them from thinking negative things about you after you break up with them. You can't stop them from being hurt and you can't stop them from judging you.

in my opinion, leading them on and faking a happy Valentine's day is a way more cruel thing to do.

[Guy2809]

No, but Im about to. Not kidding or maybe Ill wait a day or two. But I get the question. I can't deal with the relationship I am anymore, for various reasons, the point is, I was gonna break up this week, but noticed Valentine's day is due tomorrow, so if I manage, Ill probably prolong it a day or two. In anycase, I will not be pretending that everything is ok just because it is Valentine's day, THAT would be a mistake. If you wanna break up, and are serious about it, do it whenever. If you believe you will break up and then go back, then try not to do it in a day in which it will hurt more.

[Drumlin2001]

Having been dumped on valentines day, it sucks. What was worse was the week leading upto it when she awarded behaving differently, changing plans. I half saw it coming by the end. Really don't know why she left it till then when she clearly knew a week before

[Anonymous]

Uhm yes. One of the worst days. Christmas, new years eve, valentines day, their birthday etc. You just don’t do that, it’d be nothing but cruel.

[LegendaryDater]

I agree that would be a bad day

[Drew-1990]

This is honestly a tough one for me. It seems to be an awful day to get dumped, your expecting a romantic day with someone and then it's over. But at the same time so you want to lead someone on and make them waste their time and effort on a day when the relationship is going end. I feel this is a lose lose situation

[Hal2002]

Valentine's Day is the biggest break up day of the year, or should I say the days leading up to it is. It is just another day, that has become commercialize.

It is no different than any other day, so breaking up on it does not hurt any more or and less. Then breaking up with someone you have an emotional attachment to, then braking up at any other day or time of the year.

[Vesuvius87]

If they are a truly horrible person or cheater then the day for the break-up would be the least of my concern. I would be focusing on getting rid of them ASAP.

[Anemone978]

Yes I say hold off until after valentines lol
My nephew said he was gonna dump his girlfriend before so he doesn't have to buy her anything lol

[nrm736]

I'm not that into Valentine's day. But still. Seriously. Out of those 365 days we have in a year do you necessarily have to pick that one particular day on which everyone celebrates love and romance to break up with your partner? When you have a whole endless bunch of better options than this?

[Kaneki05]

I mean if they actually think Valentine's day is a day celebrating I would have to break up with them anyway.
And if they don't and I do break up with them on the day it wouldn't matter because it would just be like any other day.