Are your standards are too high or too low?

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mellowmatt

This really makes me consider if maybe my standards are too high. Then again, I won't settle for anything less than what I feel I deserve. Good article! - More than a year ago

Saygoodnitenai

Interesting article. - More than a year ago

carolinadaisy

I don't think I'd call those standards... they seem more like personal characteristics to me. Standards are more of "I won't kiss until my wedding day", etc. Keep those kinds of standards as high as high can go. But your future soul-mate might not be that 6' 2" fella, but the 5' 7" one. He might not love Classical music but can tolerate it just for you. He might have brown eyes instead of blue. Have your standards--he shouldn't be a smoker/drinker/doesn't sleep around--and stick to them. :-) - More than a year ago

WeaponZero

Your friend's standards are WAAAAAY too high. If she's that picky she'll never find someone she actually loves, and will, in effect, just be using them.

I don't know what YOUR standards are, but really all you should be looking for is someone who shares some similar views and interests with you, is attractive to YOU, doesn't push your buttons, treats you well, and is ambitious enough to try to go somewhere in life. I think that anyone really who looks for more than that is being too picky. - More than a year ago

Anonymous18

Honey...stick to your standards..please...i have the same problem as you..but I met this guy...and I have never been actually in love because no one would fit my standards...but to me he has them all...besides the fact that he is a complete asshole...i really really like him. and some things you usually wouldn't like you'll forget instantly. - More than a year ago

wu-kong

Hi, Do you have all the above, which you desire for a guy you want to spend ur time with.. one may ask! - More than a year ago

dlo1340

The mystery of love has a weird way of working out..
people have super high standards, but end up falling head over heels for somebody they wouldn't even expect to meet the standards.
never lower your standards... but then again, being too picky takes away from a lot of potential dates. - More than a year ago

good-looking-geek

OK your friend doesn't understand reality. What if she meets a handsome guy who is intelligent, charming, and has a $70,00 a year salary? But he doesn't own a home because he is currently saving money for it (he is just too young), he's 5'9", has brown hair and green eyes, wears suits you can find at Men's Wearhouse but he will not buy an Armani suit, and likes to relax and stay home most weekends because he is tired at the end of the week? Her standards are actually a contradiction. - More than a year ago

banker

Good article, I can relate to this... - More than a year ago

joecollege

I find men and women with very high standards hilarious.Many times that same person can't fit those standards for themselves but the want that in others.The reason the divorce rate is so high is because we are all still(and getting more with each media output) very superfical.Hot girls get old,rich goodlooking guys get old and might lose thier jobs(or might not be there because the have to work a lot for that salary you love)Where is the real love that overlooks faults because they overlook yours - More than a year ago

nonyabiz2002

I agree with joecollege completely. Especially the part about overlooking your faults (everybody's got them, and if we were all that superficial and selfish then the human race would cease to exist) - More than a year ago

cheerangelcharity

I think that you should have some "non-negotiables" such as he has to have certain beliefs, has to be both attractive and attracted to you, has to have good character, and be mature. Those things might sound obvious but many times we women fall for guys who don't have all that and think that either he'll change or it won't really matter. But, trust me, he most likely won't change and it will matter. You can list other characteristics but those things are the most important. - More than a year ago

A-R-Norman

Girl--I had all these standards-- Liked and wanted a brunette who was taller than me blah blah blah--ended up with a man who is five foot two with blond hair--but the characteristics he had that matters was caring, thoughtful, loving, kind and though he did not have a job when we met, he needed up being a solid provider and a wonderful father. Have standards yes, but be willing to concede that you may have found "the one" in spite all the demands on your "list" ;-) - 8 months ago

Standingpretty

You sound very sensible, but your friends standards are WAY to high. If they ever want to find the love of thier life, they are going to have to except peoples flaws and who they are. Some are reasonable but some like everything on looks make your friend a shallow person. Unless they have all these qualities themselves, the can't expect more in the other person. Btw, has you friend ever seen the movie "Shallow Hall"? You should show them it, maybe they will get the hint. - 4 months ago

brunettebabex3

I like the 70/30 split formula you have, this article was really interesting! - 2 months ago

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