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How to Avoid a Stupid Man: Women Must Learn to Live in the Now
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We've spent a great deal of time already talking about your current self image; how it is a product of thought, how it was initially given to you by your parents and how it continues to go through various stages of restructuring and conditioning by society so that you end up being more of a prefabricated person with very little original or authentic thought. For the most part, women and men live in a matrix. From a geological perspective, a matrix is nothing more than an impression in a rock when an object, such as a gemstone, has been removed. A computer scientist may simply refer to a matrix as a network of intersections between input and output leads in a computer which functions as an encoder or decoder.
Do you remember the movie The Matrix, starring Lawrence Fishburn and Keana Reeves? The Matrix was a computer-generated world thought to be real by the inhabitants of the earth. But the world, including the cities and all of society was nothing more than a computer-generated image created by sentient computer programs to enslave humans so that their energy could be used to sustain the system, the Matrix. In like manner, the society we live in, along with all the social scripting that comes with it, has given you an image. We've already said an image, shadow, mental or visible representation of a thing, is not the thing.
For example, you may have thought you were in love at one time, but now you understand true love can only come out of a deep awareness of the person independent of any judgment, thought or feeling about them. Thus, what you thought was love, turned out to be strong emotional attachment to the image of the man. When the image disappointed you, your so-called love began to evaporate and the relationship was dissolved. Men are subject to the same matrix as you are. If you don't live up to the image they want, i.e., you're not thin enough, you don't cook enough, have sex enough, or whatever, their so-called love flies right out the window, and they're off to see if they can find another woman to live up to the image they want.
A person who lives in the matrix always lives according to his past experiences and projects this material into his present, into his now. The difference is: Some people know they are doing it, and others think they are experiencing something new. We all live, to some extent, out of our past experiences. How could we not? What happened to you yesterday along with all the emotional content attached to it has been recorded and added to your stream of thought which is currently running beneath your conscious mind. This recorded information floating around in the form of memories is what you'll use in the now. If these memories are not observed as memories only, they will be perceived as something real or something that is happening in real time. And when they do, they can wreak havoc in your life.
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For example, suppose you were sexually abused or raped as a teenager twenty years ago in a city park by a tall man wearing jeans and a dark raincoat. However, you are now happily married with two beautiful kids and your job has taken you far away from the location of that horrible experience.
One day, you and your husband decide to take your children to the park for a picnic. The weatherman said it might rain today, but you don't see a cloud in the sky. Everything is going wonderfully. The barbecue smells good, the kids are playing happily, and you feel blessed to be enjoying this day with your hubby and kids.
As time passes you see rain clouds moving in so you begin to pack up your goodies as you feel a sprinkle of rain on your arm. Suddenly, out the corner of your eye, you notice someone in a dark raincoat and jeans putting away trash in a nearby can. He glances over in your direction before he heads off in another direction with his dog. Then, suddenly, without warning, thoughts begin to bombard your mind. You feel this anxious, panicky feeling beginning to well up inside you. What's happening to you? You already know the answer. The image of the man in the raincoat and jeans, and the location of the park have triggered emotions of the past abuse. The emotional content hidden in thought has caused you to project the experience into the now. You are reliving your past, emotionally and physically and the projections of your past experiences are affecting you in the now.
In this example, the emotions you experience are real, but they are not from any real-time event. Your consciousness is only streaming recorded data and projecting it into the now. However, to you, the experience is about as real as it can possibly get. The danger here has to do not only with what's happening to you but also how you feel about the man in the raincoat and jeans. There is a danger in transferring all your past emotional content into his time/space reality. If a policeman had been nearby you might have been tempted to tell the officer the man looked like he might be up to something, when the man was doing little more than throwing away his trash so he and his dog could get back in his truck and get out of the rain.
When you begin to step back and see how much we live out of our past experiences--some which are very traumatic in nature-- and the social conditioning of others-- is it any wonder you must escape the matrix? Your soul mate is not waiting for you in the matrix. He's waiting in the now. If you want to avoid a stupid man you must learn to keep yourself emotionally healthy. You must learn to control, or better yet, witness the movement of thought within you.
Thought, as a movement, has a mechanical feel to it. When it is in full swing, it can take us off on all kinds of tangents. You already know this. In addition, thought has already given you many sleepless nights. To describe the movement of thought, women often say something like: “I can’t get my mind to shut down. I just can't help thinking about all this.” When something like this comes out your mouth, it's a telltale sign that you have not learned to discipline and calm your mind. If you learn how to slow your thoughts down to a standstill, or at least, to the point where you witness the movement of thought as an observer without trying to control it- you're going to be better off for the rest of your life. A calm mind leads to higher spiritual awareness and a more rational way of looking at things, which in turn can offer you better guarantees when you make your most important decisions. A woman, whose mind is jumpy, full of all kinds of thoughts and worries cannot attract her soul mate. But this doesn't apply to you because you are in a state of preparation. Right now, your soul mate is dealing with these same issues within himself, even as you read this article. This is one of the ways you'll know him. Stupid men don't want the information you're getting right now. They want to keep doing the things they're doing. They're not ready for a woman of true power. Nevertheless, we have to handle first things first. You have to learn how to slow down. Even if you were to find a good man you'd drive him crazy with an unbridled mind that runs a mile a minute. If you want to avoid a stupid man you must become a power woman and co-create the kind of future you want.
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