Lately I've been running up on something that puzzles me. I have noticed that if I don't talk to a girl they act disappointed and annoyed. However, if I do talk to a girl she acts disinterested.
Since I am doing all the talking to keep the interaction going, it seems bizarre that there would be a reason for girls to be disappointed or annoyed if I don't talk to them since they are not interested to begin with.
This makes me look uninteresting when in fact, someone who says nothing or very little is much more uninteresting than the person talking. The pot calling the kettle black shows a distinct lack of insight. As we all know women are anything but lacking in intuitive insight.
That being said, if I try and let them talk or engage the conversation it will fall flat.
So, the only reason that makes sense is that they want enough contact with me to boost their ego or to make it look like they are desirable to others. I'm not really there for that and it would be ridiculously shallow for any person to do that. So surely that isn't the reason?
I'm perplexed for sure. If I am not rewarded for choice one or two in a scenario that only has two choices, it becomes a no win scenario. If women have made up their minds in advance then they cannot see me, they only see what is in their head.
The usual possible reasons left won't apply because I smile, and easy going, and handle myself well socially. I smell nice, dress nice, and groom nice. I look good. I have my life in order and have a great sense of humor and a good outlook on life.
sometimes a girl gets frightened of talking to a guy they like because there scared they will say something daft that make's them look stupid, or if they really like they guy they can go into brain freeze and don't now what to say I'm guilty of both with the guy I like. It's kind of like the opposite to over talkative when she likes you which shows a girls interest in you, if there was no interest in you she would just talk to you like she would any one else unless your creepy ha ha only joking, the main thing to see if a girl likes you is does she treat the same as every one else or different. Hope this helps in some weird way :)
Hmmm.... Come to think of it I do end up having really great conversations that I actually enjoy and almost every time they end up being lesbians or they are engaged to be married, or they are girls that I intentionally try to be friends with. Girls are NEVER and I mean NEVER over talkative around me. I can count on my fingers the number of words uttered by girls to me. Just the other night I was talking to a girl and she said something a bit silly, got all crazy and left. I'm lonely as hell. - 4 months ago
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He he something silly, got crazy and left that's why we don't talk to the guy we like because we get tongue tied brain freezes and something stupid comes out so of course we get embarrassed by our stupid comment and leave, try to make he feel relaxed and comfortable around you, maybe laugh of the comment or come up with something just as stupid to make her laugh hope this helps :) - 4 months ago
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