What’s it like being a guy?

Question

Explain what it’s like to live from a day to day basis as a male figure and the things you go through or put up with :)

Lliam · Accepted Answer

Tall - able to reach things that are high up.
I also love the sight of a girl standing in front of me and lifting her head and eyes to gaze up at me.

Muscular - able to lift and carry heavy things and perform hard, manual labor.

Athletic - play rough sports like football. But more athletic than most girls, in general, like surfing, swimming, skateboarding, hard core frizbee, baseball, basketball, etc.

Bold - risk taking, daring and adventurous. Like exploring, rock climbing, or jumping off of high cliffs into the ocean or lakes. Unafraid of snakes or bugs.

I love when a woman slips her hand trustingly into mine and feels safe and secure when she is with me.

I can go pretty much anywhere without fear of being harassed, stalked or assaulted.

Peeing standing up and able to pee practically anywhere in an emergency.

Don't have to deal with menstruation.

Shopping for clothes is easy.
I don't have to get my hair colored or styled or my nails done.
I don't have to wear makeup.

We don't have to worry about unwanted body hair like shaving our legs, but we do have to shave our faces or at least groom our beards.

Receiving oral sex requires nothing more than whipping out my dick.
When it comes to sex, I love being a man. I can even do fun, strenuous things like lifting her during sex.

Women have a hard time understanding us. We need to be admired, looked up to and appreciated. We have to balance emotional strength and stability with openness and vulnerability, which isn't always easy, given the way most men are raised and the way they have to interact with each other. Men can't show weakness in public or with other men.

There is also pressure on men to be providers, not necessarily sole providers. But they have to be hard working, motivated, problem solvers, and show a woman that they will keep her safe and secure whatever it takes. Women depend on men, and that's okay. It makes total sense. But again, the reward is her admiration, appreciation, and loyalty.

Smart_Monk · Accepted Answer

Every guy spends a lot of time of his every day thinking "happiness is more intense but less fulfilling than thankfulness, because happiness comes from the third chakra but thankfulness from the 4th".

MrOracle · Answer

Like anything, it has its plusses and minuses. The good? We are as independent as we want to be, and our limits are mostly due to ourselves - how hard and how smart we are willing to work at something and how willing we are to take chances. We don't always succeed, for sure, but failure is a great teacher if you are willing to learn. In my life, I have done a whole bunch of different things because I wasn't afraid to try things, even if I failed - and so I usually succeeded.

The downside? As a man, you begin your adult life with zero value other than as potential cannon fodder, and it's up to every man to build his own value (obviously a small few are born very handsome or very wealthy, but that's the exception). For most men, no one cares about you unless you can do something for them. You are invisible unless someone is looking for a person to blame, and then you might be seen long enough to get the blame for something you usually didn't do.

Men are expected to do all of the dirty, dangerous, uncomfortable jobs, inside and out, and expected to sacrifice themselves to protect the innocent (i. e., women and children) even if they are strangers or even if they directly contributed to their own danger. Working our entire lives isn't optional - it's required (unless we are so successful that we can retire early, which is rare), and if money is tight, we are expected to work longer hours, work further from home, take jobs that require traveling or whatever it takes to earn more, even if it means having no life or no time for ourselves. And we are not allowed to expect any thanks or respect for this.

That's really the biggest differences.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Many a man describes a conflict

Be strong …. But be emotional?
Provide and succeed … but don’t make your life all about the money?
Be confident …. But not arrogant?
Be sensitive … but never be seen as weak?
Take initiative… but be an expert in understanding social and relationship cue’s?

Some find it easy to become lost or walk those lines.

Some feel despair when focussing upon

Pressure about identity or purpose , what’s expected of me now?
Barriers around machismo and friendship … how do I get that emotional support from male friends? are we even visible or useful unless we are doing or contributing , or fixing / building something? and if nothing … then are we worth anything at all?

What escapes the men of these days and where I have focussed in addition to the above is how to be a “good” man ? And I pride myself on the man I am
My integrity , competence , emotional steadiness , kindness , self respect , and having purpose beyond what others think of me

And since you asked … What women need to understand more but it’s not a lecture just important take aways

Respect matters enormously to us !! Likely more than love.
Many men are much more vulnerable than they seem
Many men just want to be appreciated and needed , we don’t w any or need a ‘boss bitch
Men express emotion differently and emotional safety is really important. If we choose to be vulnerable with you it’s you we are choosing to, not for it to be passed around to your friends like social currency.

glennos89 · Answer

Being a guy who likes living on the edge is difficult, dangerous and pretty lonely at times.
Competition with other males to attract a woman Im interested is extremely fierce. Pretty sure that going to war is easier for some men.

Being a man is living young and wild when you are young, trying to avoid problems that always seem to fight you.
Emotional breakdowns are something you have to deal with alone. No one wants to hear us out anyways.

When you get older other dudes will try to test you out and try to assert their dominance over you. You better hold yourself up and fight or flee the scene because other males won't be hesitant to beat you up.

When you found yourself a good woman which you hopefully create children with... life starts to get increasingly more difficult. You are suppose to lead, provide and protect at all cost and your family rely on you so a big responsibility lies on your shoulders

Life is extremely busy working and physically draining of you have a heavy duty job but your male co-workers always seem to cheer you up by laughing and joking together.

Which I personally find the best on being a man who is taller then 90% of other dudes is that you won't have to fear anything or anyone.
I can walk late at night in dark alleyways without feeling vulnerable or afraid. I know my strength and will give everything to defend myself and family if that needed.

But loneliness can be a real opponent and the world is constantly trying to brake you down. Life as a male is definitely not a walk in the park for the majority. Its more likely to be a constant battle uphill

FunkyMonkee · Answer

To quote The Buckinghams, it's "Kind Of A Drag".
There's nothing really special about it. You're stronger than women, you can do things they can't or have to struggle to achieve and the major high point is getting a girlfriend that you can eventually, HOPEFULLY turn into your wife and the mother of your children to live together happily ever after but, how often does that happen, especially these days?
The hard part is FINDING ONE!!
Thanks to society and possibly religion, you're NOT ALLOWED to wear anything you want and have to conform to the standards set in stone hundreds of years ago!
You're always expected to know everything about everything: cars, tools, carpentry, building things, sports, guns, business, finances, motorcycles, hunting, plumbing, fixing things that break down, etc..
If you DO get married and eventually divorce, you have to give half your stuff to her but she never has to give half her stuff to you!
You're SUPPOSED to be tough as nails and not have a sensitive side or any kind of weakness.
YOU have the bulk of the responsibility to see to it you have a roof over your head and your wife/family is well taken care of.
You tend to have a high sex drive but mostly have to take matters into your own hands! Partly because women DON'T usually have a high sex drive and are always taught not to let it control them lest they appear to be a slut or a whore.
I'm sure there's other aspects but, you should get the gist of it by now.

Lesbologist · Answer

I have to be careful how I sit because my balls are huge, and then women get online and complain about my manspreading. I grow pubes out of my face. Women treat me like a pervy pervert until I wear my wedding ring and then they try to seduce me like a bunch of perverted women. I get blamed for all the world's problems and pretty much every problem even if I as an individual dindu nuffin. I can't complain about things or I'll get told to stop being a girl. I drive better, cook better, and basically just do everything better. I can pick other people up and throw them onto the roof of their own house, then they can't figure out how to get down. I might not be the best at sports, but I would beat every woman if I put on a dress and say I'm a girl, now I'm the best... the best around. Nothings ever gonna bring me down. If I do get in trouble for something, it will be twice as much trouble than if I was a girl. I'm not pretty. I'm covered in scars and look like I kill pit bulls with my bare hands. Did I mention that I drive better?

relationship_guru · Answer

Being a guy, at least for me, is learning how to be stable when everything around you is trying to pull you off center.

It is listening to techno music at a volume just below the point where it overwhelms the house or the next room.

It is knowing I have real-world experience, theological training, and years of meeting people from different walks of life, but still admitting I do not have all the answers. Sometimes I can find the answer. Sometimes there is no answer. And when there is no answer, I have to let it go.

Being a responsible guy is learning not to let anger take the wheel. I do not get physical. I do not let disappointment turn into destruction. I keep my emotions in check because my emotions do not get to drive my body.

It is maintaining stability and predictability.

It is listening when my wife talks, because if she came to me with something, then it matters to her. I may not always understand it right away, but I need to respect that it was important enough for her to say it.

It is paying bills on time. Keeping debt low. Protecting the household from unnecessary chaos. Building a financial foundation that gives the family room to breathe.

It is also knowing when to stay out of my wife’s way. She calls herself a control freak, so I give her room to move, but I also stay available when she needs me.

Most of all, being a guy means understanding the mission.

For me, that mission is to build my household on the Word of God as found in the Bible, and to provide the infrastructure that makes peace, presence, happy moments, and mindful living easier.

I am not here to be driven by every impulse, distraction, frustration, or emotion.

I am here to be steady.

That is what being a guy means to me.

Finchie40 · Answer

Ii can only really speak for myself , it’s a struggle life has put me through a nightmare rollercoaster ride that doesn’t seem to be ending anytime soon, everything I grew up believing , seems to be bullshit , everything I was taught , seems to be bullshit as well , I always been a hard worker and very independent, always worked my butt off to realize what was the point? Because most jobs do not give a shit about you , you are just a number to them and will get rid of you like a drop of a hat , I also wanted to fall in love and find true love , unfortunately that seems to be a myth as well , but I am not giving up. I feel every day I am faced with obstacles instead of peace , I try to look at the positive of things but lately it’s been nothing but negative, I pray everyday to experience happiness again

Iron_Man · Answer

It’s physically and mentally very powerful. You feel strong very masculine with great strength and power. But it depends what kind of a body you have that you were born with and mind. You can make many improvements, but it’s also genetics involved. You can go places at any given time by yourself alone. You don’t have to be afraid of somebody stalking you or messing with you like women feel. There’s a lot of pressure that you have to take on everything by yourself alone and be in charge and make sure everything is running smooth it’s a lot of weight on your shoulders if you succeed or fail You have to win the woman over and take care of her for life. And there’s a lot of stress and responsibility on your head, not so much the woman, but it’s tough and if you don’t have family around, there’s nobody to turn to because the woman expects for you to succeed every day that you get out of bed and she’ll take no failure at all or she’ll leave soon if things are getting ugly after while

236color · Answer

Being guy apparently involves having a stronger sex drive than most women. Now someone is going to see that and insist that women have just as strong as sex drive as men. I say this meaning no disrespect ladies, but no you don't. Testosterone is the main hormone in humans that results in libido, both men and women have it, but men have a lot more. Also be aware the men can father children continually with multiple women. Women can be pregnant with one man's children at a time. This means our sex drive may diminish over the years but rarely disappears entirely. So what's it like being a guy? It's like being a horny 14 year, all the time.

cranberrycattoystory · Answer

Glad you asked! Not very different from being a girl, or anyone else, in my opinion. We do have passions, motivations, and desires, like any other person... We are attracted to women, and notice and understand attraction cues FROM women. Having a p*nis, is like having a small apple dangling on your crotch, but it's the most normal thing ever, just like breathing... If you have v*gina, you already have more wiggle room, the experience is a bit hard to describe, but you would feel cramped "down there", if you wear pants or underwear that are too tight and close to skin. B*ob sweat doesn't exist for us, it's more like my entire vest or shirt getting soaked. Personal hygiene aside, it is mostly the same as being a girl, just you are someone else now, and flipped... But, I will mention one thing though, if you are closer to the ideal caricature of what society would have you acting out the gender, you'd get noticed more, but I think that goes for women too...

DecentMan · Answer

In general or day to day can you give more to question maybe?
It depends on the situation - I think generally we have less concerns that women and can hide away more easily from attention if we want to.

kellytheman · Answer

There is a lot of pros and cons being a guys. So the main pros being a guy we are very hard workers (doing very dangerous and hard labor) and independent, look like a leader, provider, and protected in the public eye, have more opportunities maybe then women, smarter logically in my opinion, and physically stronger. The cons of being guy is we slow down as we get older physically and sexually, lose testosterone and energy faster, competitive or challenged by other men, possibly look like a predator or criminal in the public eye, a lot of pressure and rejection, and can be lonely. There is a lot more pros and cons but that comes to my mind if what it feels like being a guy.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

"A man provides. And he does it, even when he's not appreciated, or respected, or even loved. He simply bears up and he does it, because he's a man."  - Gustavo Fring, Breaking Bad

convo_king89 · Answer

I know I'm a guy when I see I have a cock and balls. The positives being able to pee easily and quickly as well as masturbating. But it sucks when you get a boner at the wrong place/time or you get hit there.

We are known for having a dirty mind have to have a strong body/personality.

Glad I dont have to worry about the time of the month or getting knocked up.

Anonymous · Answer

If you are unattractive, life is mostly in. The shadows.
No one loves you for you just the ability to earn.
When u approach women they are mostly scared and don't want to interact with you.
Even if it's just asking direction.
Wherever you go it's like you can see everyone treating you like 2nd class citizen.
I went to a restaurant, I was denied a table even with a reservation 😅.
Then anger issues, not fitting in society, loneliness, dropping hobbies.
List goes on.
Good parts:-
freedom until you are accused,
If you earn a single friend, it would be a lifetime friendship if they keep it,
If u are an introvert, life is very peaceful.
Animal loves you more cause they sense the sadness.

molonski2 · Answer

Look , I can't speak for now , but when I was young different times and it was friggin awesome , now I will admit you had a far better run at things and women were literally everywhere and all over..

Now it's possibly a little different.

Billlewis · Answer

The main thing to remember is not to fall in love. It's a story as old as time itself: if you're a guy, don't fall in love, because you'll be burned every time.

Jackblue · Answer

Well it is hard to say since I can't compare it. We aren't worried about the painful cycle of every month. We are lonely though, friendships are difficult with us. When we do make guy friends we drift apart from them rather quickly.

Mark_Est · Answer

Look up Norah Vincent's experiment on youtube. Where she went undercover to act like a man in male spaces.

NathanDavis · Answer

you hit your head at places... often because you're taller

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I personally appreciate the option to wander almost wherever I wish and whenever I wish

InknKink · Answer

It's taking and giving, but never being given.

MrChinaski · Answer

It's just like being a woman, but with 30% higher wages.

Spencer10 · Answer

Its pretty damn great. I do not see any downside personally.

ZameerAnsari91 · Answer

Difficult life,
Its a difficult life to live being a guy, you can't live for yourself, you have to live for your family, you can't express your emotions like girls,
Some perks are also there to be a guy

Desserter4 · Answer

I wake up in the morning and levitate off the ground but my penis still touches the ground cause my levitation is limited, I never shower, brush my teeth, etc as I am immune to being dirty and getting diseases. I get dressed, go to my vault of infinite money and start out on my day deporting illegals and saving the world one step at a time, at the end of the day I search for a beautiful woman to take home that night and they always say yes.

AngryCarl3 · Answer

It depends which specific guy you are. Elon Musk probably faces different issues to some bum living in the storm drains.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Same as you with small differences... Also as a man, life is a lot harder on us than women 🤷🏻‍♂️

rapfan107 · Answer

Pretty don't have to deal with cramps every month 🤭

kaucky1 · Answer

I'm definitely hated because I won't give in to the guys so literally got have friends unless other peoples friends or family friends

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