How can I get my husband to support my breast reduction surgery?

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We had three kids in quick succession after getting married and I put on a lot of weight. I was always thin before and had very small breasts only B cups. So I started taking Ozempic to lose weight and its worked, I've now got that flat stomach again and hsve lost 3 stone. I've list weight everywhere except my boobs which are now a G Cup, im only 5ft so they look ridiculous. My back is in agony at the end of the day working and looking after kids. I've tried discussing a breast reduction with my husband but he's dead against it and a lot of the time when im trying to have a conversation about it he gets turned on and its end of discussion.

LiamS95 · Accepted Answer

I fully understand your situation and desire to lose the stress on your back and shoulders/neck due to the heavy weight of your large breasts causing the pain you need relief from. Contrary to popular opinion a lot of guys myself included actually prefer smaller breasts and "B" cups to me are pretty much perfect. Just don't be hasty, look into breast reduction carefully, get the right doctor that is truly interested in your well being not just his bank account. I had a female friend with very large breasts and she had a breast reduction and they usually have to reposition the areolas/nipples with this kind of size change to place them in a natural looking position, her doctor botched this part of the procedure and she went from being able to acheive orgasm from just breast, v nipple stimulation to having absolutely no feeling at all left in her areolas/nipples as the doctor damaged the nerves in her areolas/nipples when repositioning them. So just be careful hun, and if your husband truly loves you and not just your large breasts he will support you in the pain relief you need and desire. Best of luck, stay in touch I'm interested.

BadApple69 · Accepted Answer

I feel your pain. Talk to some doctors and get all the information lined up.
Men don’t understand the pain you are in. You need to not talk to him about your boobs (else he gets turned on) but talk to him daily about your back pain and neck pain… don’t mention breast reduction and that you are looking into it. Honestly if he loves you he won’t want to see you suffer. He married you with B cups, why should he care if you go back to B cups again.
I know 2 people who have had it done and both are glad they did.

emeraldsaphire · Accepted Answer

No offence, but your husband sounds like a selfish ass. Sure he likes your big boobs, but you are in pain. This isn't about aesthetics it's a medical issue. And the fact that he gets turned on by this conversation, omg that gives me the ick so bad 🤢 Does he not have any empathy?

I know you want his approval especially for surgery, I'd struggle to get it with out my husbands approval too, but just tell him you are doing it and if he wants to support you that's great, but regardless this is a medical issue and it's not up for debate.

Good luck! I hope you get some relief soon. Back pain when raising a kid SUCCCCKS.

beenherebefore · Accepted Answer

I don't understand how he doesn't get it that you're doing this for health reasons and not for aesthetic vain reasons. Suggest him accompanying you to the doctor so he fully understands what's going on and maybe he can even clarify some of his doubts and concerns with the doctor. Be more vocal about your back pain so he sees how much it's affecting you, at the end of the day say you can no longer carry the kids or do the dishes. I'm against lying or hiding things from Husband's but he's being very inconsiderate and taking it the wrong way.

Phunk_Fenomenon · Answer

It’s your body, and if you’re in real pain, you have the right to take that seriously.

That said, I can understand why your husband may have an emotional reaction if he likes your body the way it is. In marriage, physical attraction does matter, so I don’t think his feelings are automatically irrelevant.

But his preference can’t be the only factor. If your back is hurting daily and it’s affecting work, parenting, and quality of life, then this is more than just a cosmetic issue.

Before making a final decision, I’d talk to a doctor, look at the risks, cost, recovery, breastfeeding concerns, and whether physical therapy or strength training could realistically help. But if the medical advice points toward reduction being the best option, your husband should be able to support you even if it’s not his personal preference.

The conversation should be: “I know you like my body, but I’m in pain and I need you to care about that too.”

Ez-Bri-Z_v2 · Answer

Who cares what he thinks about it? You are the one who has to live with it. Is he going to seek your permission when he needs help getting an erection when he gets older? Is he going to ask your permission to get glasses when his vision goes?

It's your body and he should never have a say in what you need to do with it just as you should never have a say in what he does with his.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

You don't need anyone's approval for that. Unless your local laws say so but then it's a cultural issue.

You specifically should not need husband's approval to undergo a surgical act meant to experience less pain. What is the argument used by your husband to justify his disapproval?

Likes2drive · Answer

Surgery isn’t something you just do, I heard it leaves scars and numbness in areas , I’m surprised you didn’t lose fat there also from the medication and weight loss, perhaps you could lose weight there from other methods like working out your core and upper body to also strengthen your back

OneViewpoint · Answer

Go see your doctor and schedule the surgery. Your husband is an asshole. He'll get over it.

Anonymous · Answer

That’s a lot of kids at your age! Forget talking to him. Just do it. Your body, your choice. Also, isn’t stone for horses?

Nikki1989 · Answer

What does your husband have to do with it?

slatyb · Answer

It's your body. You don't need his permission. He sounds rather selfish.

bowenw · Answer

I suggest you have it done for the sake of your back pain. Arrange it with your doctor and then let your husband know when he needs to drop you off for the surgery.

Mac-One · Answer

Discuss the negative aspects of large breasts along with the advantages of small breasts (or basically flat).

Staximus · Answer

Just know that you may not be able to breastfeed or feel your nipples after the surgery, depending on how the procedure is done and if the doctor is a hack or not

DirtyOldMan777 · Answer

So, you want to make an aspect of women that guys absolutely love, especially the bigger the better (for most) and make them smaller? let him massage them afterwards when ever he wants for ass long ass he wants.

kaucky1 · Answer

Know that spot where jawbone meets >👂👌🤏lower lets air out to make boobs bigger pinch nipples twist to right blow from inside perkier higher up on chest circles in either direction

Anonymous · Answer

Whose body is it? If he doesn't like it, so what?

Anonymous · Answer

Say, if you ever wanna see my titties again, theyre gonna be smaller!

Agape93 · Answer

You dont need it. Just do it

Sammy226 · Answer

If you feel unhappy with your busy size then its up to you if you want them smaller.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm curious how they look. Does it give you back pain?

whosnumber_1 · Answer

Are you still breast feeding?

exitseven · Answer

It's your body.

In_Trance · Answer

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