Can a man truly love his girlfriend while being emotionally drawn to another woman?

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Is it possible? Or is the guy not really in love with his girlfriend? He stays with the girlfriend but is obviously really attracted to another girl at work and it’s been going on for several months, it’s not just that he is physically attracted but emotionally too, he hasn’t crossed the line physically but it’s obviously he’s a bit torn, he tries to distance himself at times but then seems to lean back into it and can’t seem let go of the other girl for good.

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

No he does not love his girlfriend. You can like people and be attracted to them while having a partner but if it starts feeling like  real like  and he is getting into an emotional affair to the point he is flip flopping about how he feels about both and needs to distance himself from the other person, he clearly doesn't love the girlfriend. Since when you actually love someone no one compares to that person and you would never feel or do anything with or for someone else that would cause you to lose your partner.

rini02 · Accepted Answer

He can't be torn about it... He needs to get his head straight and decide.
He's an adult, so he should know what is right and what is wrong.
Either fully focus on his girlfriend or leave her and pursue that woman.
Of course, a person can feel physical attraction for another person while being in a relationship, but he should know how to handle it, like get rid of it in days.
He can't carry that on for months.
This just proves that he isn't serious enough about his girlfriend.

Daniel707 · Accepted Answer

Many people aren’t black and white. Yes, there are people in relationships that they don’t really love their partner. They are with them for some reason or another…. Or lost attraction over time. But they invested into the relationship yada yada.

But there’s people too who feel bad about it or they learn to compartmentalize. There are spouses cheating right now who play their role at home maybe even so much as love their husband or wife. But are sleeping around with other people.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Not possible, it just means he isn’t truly in love with his partner if he is into another girl. He just likes the convenience of his girlfriend while weighing his options , she she is best to kick his ass to the curb where he belongs if that’s what he is doing to her

Zally · Answer

I got a girlfriend of 5 years plus. But I am attracted to a girl at work 100%. I would still never betray the trust of my girlfriend.

Do I like the girl at work? Yes. I would be lying to myself pretending other girls are not attractive. But being attractive and being my future are very distant ideas from each other. I can live without the girl from work. I dont know how im suppose to live without mu girlfriend

Anonymous · Answer

Guys are simpler then that if he could cheat he would have until now, and he respect his commited relationship more then his own attraction (which is a good thing)
I think he is going to shake the attraction of but he is need of a + point from his girlfriend.
Something like a future idea or a get way or emotional support.
Men tend to keep work emotions in workplace and try to keep it there, he doesn't want it to leak into his personal life.
Something might be bothering him and the office girl might understand it much better then girlfriend which seems an emotional connection BUT IT IS NOT.

I will suggest comfort him (make him feel emotionally safe and let him cry out )

That should fix it.

jshm2 · Answer

The word you've misunderstood there is "love" as you clearly have no understanding of it.

She's only a girlfriend, not a wife. So he is free to see all the women he likes. It's nothing to do with "love" as he clearly doesn't love enough to put a ring on any of them.

EveryDayIsPretzelDay · Answer

Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you stop being attracted to other people.

The big concern is how he's handling his attraction to that other woman.

He's being very disrespectful to his girlfriend. She may want to consider breaking up with him, and finding a guy who isn't such an a**hole.

Anonymous · Answer

to be honest, if he were truly in love with his girlfriend, he wouldn't even notice other women. Even if he sees a very attractive woman, he wouldn't be obsessed with her. Because he is already obsessed with someone else.

when you are in love with someone, you don't tend to notice other people very much nor would you want to be with anyone else.

Anonymous · Answer

I mean, if his girlfriend is NOT taking care if his needs emotionally, if the other woman is making him feel wanted, needed, and seen. Yeah he could LOVE his girlfriend but be "drawn" to the attention of another woman. I'm NOT excusing it. But unbeknownst to SOME women, guys are people to. We have feelings as well.

MrChinaski · Answer

"' he tries to distance himself at times '' The litmus test is whether he 100% wants to be with his girlfriend... what he does with other people rarely matters. It sounds like he does not.

DonaldDarko · Answer

He could. I was hung up on a couple of women. They both had Celtic ancestry. A Scottish guy like me would naturally find them attractive.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

The guy who said most people aren't black and white is right. But I would go even further.

If you're a good person, there's always people you're going to get emotionally drawn to. Being monogamous isn't about never having feelings of lust or even more for anyone else. It's about building something with one person and having the discipline to be dependable for eachother.

Screenwriter · Answer

Well, if this is you, I'd advise you to let go of this indecisive person until he actually chooses one or the other. I believe this kind of vacillation can occur, but it's completely unfair to one person or the other.

Back off and give this guy some time to decide. And protect your heart. But don't wait forever.

Anonymous · Answer

He has feelings for both but in this scenario he’s not truly and happily in love with either one. In fact, there’s a very good chance he’s enjoying the drama of being torn between two women.

jahaims · Answer

No lol. He isn't even capable of love with that low of an emotional intelligence.

Wodens_Apprentice · Answer

When I fall for someone I usually just think about them for a while, but odd that probably wears off as that "love" is actually lost.

You shouldn't love someone until you're actually married to them otherwise you'll be crushed by all the degenerates out there.

Mark_Est · Answer

Yes, a man 100% can love more than one woman at once. It is biologically normal for men. Who does he love, or neither is something only he knows.

Paradiseequeen · Answer

In this case he isn’t ready to know what a relationship is. He isn’t ready to settle down. He still immature! A grown man knows what he want

Nikki1989 · Answer

That is the story with the majority of men. You just have to deal with it.

CherryLove007 · Answer

Men don't love, that is a silly statement. They don't know the definition of love let alone know that women are love. They are trying to steal your love because they possess a crumb or none. They are deficient in that area.

Intelligent_Lady · Answer

If a man is truly in love, he won’t be emotionally drawn to another woman in that way.

Marriage_Survivor · Answer

Love is a chemical reaction that turns off a man's critical thinking centers. A man "in love" doesn't even notice other women exist.

molonski2 · Answer

Very possible and can easily happen it's easy to adore more than one and sometimes for differing reasons.

DecentMan · Answer

I think a guy can love two women yes - and in different ways too - it’s not unusual and if he can make both happy why not? If he makes them sad well then that’s not fair is it

Chelsdope0 · Answer

As ego boosting as it sounds for you… you don’t want that… he’ll do the same to you…

Anonymous · Answer

He could be. Being emotional drawn to a particular women has made my desire to date others diminesh.

noohair · Answer

The issue is that men have a caveman part of the brain and the encoded drive to spread DNA overrides logical thinking. We might wear cloths and brush our teeth but the caveman rules when we see a suitable candidate for insertion.

aquamarine321 · Answer

I've seen these type of questions asked a lot and you can only truly love one person , even tho you can love persons for different reasons, at the end of the day, you only choose one

Anonymous · Answer

A lot of people tend to confuse lust with love.

Regardless of gender those that cheat aren't capable of what you would understand as love. Reason being is if you love your partner, cheating is never on your mind.

stevethecoolguy · Answer

Yes to a degree, if it was attracted I would say 100%, although emotionally heavily murks the water and makes it so he has to split a little and give her a bit of his thoughts.

Cidknee · Answer

Of course he can. A man can love many women at the same time. As for the other shit I'm not reading it.

Vegasrunner · Answer

Absolutely thats one of the biggest differences between men and women.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Absolutely not. Physically absolutely.

CassandraSpender · Answer

Of course, but a day will come where he will have to prioritize one over the other

DirtyOldMan777 · Answer

I have two "wives" and love them equally. I love one more than the other, depending on which one sat on my lap last. lol

KostasKouvalis · Answer

You serious? Of course not

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely. I love my husband while being emotionally drawn to my lover.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes of course. Man is polygamous by nature. Denial of that fact does not change it. If a man denies it, he is fucking lying. What matters is how he deals with it and acts on it.

Anonymous · Answer

Of course. Why do you think a man can only love one woman?

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like a typical man.

spartan55 · Answer

Back off, don't be gross.

Anonymous · Answer

I suppose it's possible for some guys.

Pterodon · Answer

Nope

Sammy098 · Answer

Nope, not possible

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely

AcidMan · Answer

Yes why not. Women do it all the time

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