Why do all girls call guys they're not attracted to 'creepy'?

Question

Why is that?

bobair · Accepted Answer

I actually know the answer to this.

Pay attention...

Each woman has radar that protects them from men. Dangerous men.

She starts to develop this radar the moment she grow boobs and uncle Joe starts smiling at her a little too much. At a very young age girls will begin to notice the unwanted attention their bodies bring them. Moms, aunts, school, and movies help her to realize that much of this unrequested attention can lead to very real dangers - the most common being rape.

This is why most women are incredibly empathic. They can read body language in a way most men can't.

There are specific patterns of behaviors that women can pick up on that will help them to "mind read" any man who's interacting with her. She needs this skill to protect herself.

Here are the most common: creepy, slimy, needy, boring, attractive.

Guess which one's are good and which one's are bad?

BEING CREEPY:

Creepy means she sense's you're unsafe and untrustworthy.

If she's labeling you as creepy then here's what you're likely doing wrong:

- Your eyes don't match your smile. This is the car sales man smile. It's fake. Being fake is creepy. Stop laughing and smiling if you don't really mean it. This tells her that she can't trust what you're saying because your body language is not trust worthy. She would rather you smirked if you didn't find her joke funny, instead of fake laughing.

- You don't smile. This is the guy who's staring from across the room with such intensity that it's freaking her out. Perhaps in your head you're being serious and sexy, but instead you're being uncalibrated and creepy. This tells her that you're stalking her. Next time simply smile when you make eye contact. And make it a real smile.

- You act like a player, pimp, mac daddy, cool guy, suave. But you're not. You're just acting. Like I said, women can sense when you're being fake. She'd rather you acted nervous and insecure than "too cool for school" because FAKE indicates you're hiding something.. this makes you seem dangerous and creepy.

- You're coming onto her too strong. She's not a piece of meat and she knows when your only intention is to get something from her... likely approval and sex. If you're staring at her body the entire time like she's something you can take, buy, or steal, then you're being creepy.

To avoid being creepy simply be honest, sincere, and fun.

I hope this helps dude!

~ Robby

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You my friend, just revealed the fundamental truth. Most girls that I met called me unattractive and creepy. The others just went out with me.

kcm_05 · Accepted Answer

Did you not see the.. "still lives with parents"  part of it? I'm done answering to these because I don't think you are even READING what I'm saying just skipping through.  I said 40 year old that still lives with parents. I find a guy in his 40s who is independent and has other things going for him etc attractive. omg. and if a 75 year old guy was fing 21 year olds good for him!  that has nothing to do with what I am saying. All I was saying is guys who are not self sufficient who don't have anything going for them and who aren't looking to better themselves. Or don't have any ambitions or goals are creepers to me. It doesn't matter if your hot or not if you suck at life and whatever then your a creeper. if you try to look down my shirt given any opportunity or walk up tome and tell me abou tthe coolest new vibrator on the market when wee aren't friends your more than likely a creeper. That's IT> you guys that are giving me down arrows or whatever. more than likely are in this category. so seriously. GROW up and become REAL men.

virgo92 · Accepted Answer

I am not no whore or a bitch thank you very much. My answer is still the same. It's not our faults that you can't handle the truth. If you didn't want the truth why did you ask the question? And the guys have no idea why we say it because they are not WOMEN. Nothing to do if your attractive or not. If your a creep your a creep. Plain and simple. And you must be one of those guys who call girls bitches or whores when you don't agree with something or gets mad. Which is also not a fair word to use either since you know nothing about these people who have commented, and since all we did was give our opinion to your question. So don't be a hypocrite. Get over yourself.

lafeeverte · Accepted Answer

usually, attractive guys don't have to try as hard, so they're not going to awkwardly come onto you, which is probably the reason that it is mostly unattractive guys who get called "creepy."  like when I'm at a bar and some guy starts dancing behind me, getting WAY too close, that's creepy.  if a guy smiles at me from across the room and maybe starts a conversation, that's not a problem.  it goes into creepy territory when guys can't take a hint - like if I ended the convo with the guy and he kept following me around the bar, still trying to talk to me, for example.

Jon364 · Answer

One time I was at a party and I only knew one person, and he was off somewhere else. It was a boring party to start with, and not knowing anyone made it torture. The looks I got from everyone.. after reading this, I realise I was being seen as creepy. I was just shy. I never realised it, but now looking back, they probably called me a creeper.

A few weeks later, I was at another party.. with a lot more fun, and people I actually knew. I had just bought a puppy and had it with me. These same attractive girls came up to me, and were so outgoing and friendly. Really pleasant. Flirty etc. When they found out I was the same guy, they recoiled in shock.. "are you really?" "were you the same guy?" YES! Both times I was being true to myself.

I was the same person in both situations. Why do they make such split second judgements like this?

I act the same way towards all women I meet. My facial expressions and body langauge is something I can't control. I get really nice looks and smiles from some of the most attractive women. It floors me. And others, I get a scowl or a bad look, like I am a creeper. And I act the same towards them all. I don't get it.

I have never really thought about the word creepy until just now. This topic makes me very nervous. It seems there is two definitions.. one I can understand.. the lurker creep guy who is hanging around when he is not wanted and the second which seems like a way to make the girl feel more self important. "Get that creep away from me".

It's tough. You girls are hard to please, it's like an artform trying to master this stuff.

Anonymous · Answer

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they are more complicated then Database, programing computer applications, and much more what I'd discribe about this confusing creature actually but I would like to show my will...

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when you talking to a girl just understand be a quite relax because they are very complicated use the words that you make them attractive . do not make them bore, they need lots of fun . if at all a girl want to avoid you its a simple word to tell you your creepy or if they want to forget about your mistake they call you creepy. well I don't know so much about this confusing creature but I know this much that if a girl. are getting worst by your words or not feeling comfortable with you will call you creepy ...

when she call you creepy ... here you have a simple thing to do ...

just tell her bye and copy pest your text and print it out or save it on your pc and read it out that what kinda conversation she had used ... why she called you creepy ... then you'll get known of your mistake dude...

hey boy don't miss your chance and don't be tense if they tell you creepy ... we have great calculation simple as...

the count of the girls are more then the boys . and don't miss your chance because on every street you will find a different girl with different mind...

coz all girls are not the same. don't use the same way ... different girls are flirted in different technics just you don't need to be unhappy because you have a chance to jump on just becareful while talking to girls ... and don't f*** the subject if she is interested in be calm and make her die for you...

hey don't come under pressure she wouldn't call you creepy

ameliesfriend · Answer

The truth is every man and every woman is unique, the exact motives and reasons behind our behaviors and approaches when we interact with one another aren't always the same. Our personalities are not so trivial that they are so easy to analyze and formulate conclusions about one another's personality traits (e. g. she's a slut or he's a creep because they said this or behaved in this manner). Both men and women are guilty of jumping to conclusions about people they barely know. My biggest pet peeve personally are any woman who in there right mind say they are looking for a long term relationship with a man, but takes one look at me or many guys whether it be a picture in an online dating site or in person and immediately decide , no he's not for me, because his face structure doesn't fit my idea of Prince charming. How do you know you would not be happy overall with him? We barely even talked, each day is different some people have bad days and good days with regards to what's driving their behavior at that point in time when you initially met one another too. In a society of instant gratification why can't I find a woman who wants to actually slow down and take a good look at me and I her before jumping to an immediate decision of yes or no. He's hot or he's not. She's hot or she's not. Another pet peeve is being ignored after being shown an initial interest by a woman. You say one thing but do another, why?

Anonymous · Answer

There is an evolutionary explanation for this. It's irrational fear.

In the distant past, when people lived entirely different lives (when we were more monkey then human) unwanted attention from a sexually mature guy for a woman had a very high probability in resulting in pregnancy for that woman. And as we all know, the costs of pregnancy for a woman are very high and women can have a very small number of children compared to men. So Mother Nature gave women through evolution a very powerful weapon to protect them from unwanted attention, an irrational fear of any male around them that they do no consider a good potential father. It's a type of pre-emptive strike on the side of women, they don't fear them for what they are, they fear them for what they could potentially do to them. This is why chivalry exists, to act a certain way around women to make them feel comfortable.

It has nothing to do with the guys.

So if a girl calls you creepy, it's purely a problem on the side of women and has nothing to do with you. They’re just being irrational, controlled by an animalistic instinct developed in the Savanna

emzy-89 · Answer

i don't see why you're even bothering to ask this question if all you do is praise the people who give you the "don't worry, they're just bitches" response that you want and ritecule the ones who give you an answer that you don't like. and you shouldn't generalise and categorise females as being all the same. I've only ever called one guy creepy and that was because after I had said no he kept trying to come onto me and putting his arms around me and just acting inappropriately. so no, we're not all bitches and whores, and whilst we're on the subject, just from what you've said, you seem like a bit of a d***head so maybe you should take a look at yourself before you assume that it's everyone else with the problem.

ALWAYSclassy · Answer

no not really. usually I'll only call a guy a creep if he is too overbearing even though it's obvious I'm not into him. you know the kinds of guys that keep trying to push your boundaries even if you are not giving him any reason to do so. it just happens these type of guys are usually unattractive, but I've also met some good looking creeps too. every ugly guy isn't a creep but if you repeatedly find yourself getting called a creep, maybe don't be so quick to blow it off like "oh if I was hot she wouldn't have said that".

miki94 · Answer

Because most of them are airheads who don't have a valid explanation for rejecting you or are just too lazy and insensitive to provide one. Even if they did, they wouldn't want to seem superficial for stating the true reason. So saying your creepy makes them feel superior and you seem like a loser who is obsessed with them which is also an ego boost on their side.

Of course, if you are stalking them in your ninja outfit, they might have a reason to call you creepy. xD

prettyj · Answer

most of the time, I think, they know the guy has been kinda eyeballing them for a while. maybe he is shy and has not gotten the nerve up to talk to her, so he might be dropping hints and beating around the bush and she has already been on to him for some time. she may start to feel "stalked", hence the "creepy" reference. you know he's been "creeping around her" trying to figure out how to say hello and ask her out. I think a guy might lessen the chances of being called "creepy" if he takes a deep breath and just goes for it  the sooner the better. the worst she can say is no, which is a little better than "creepy", :)!  lol.

sweethearts · Answer

the same way that guys find uglier girls more annoying and obnoxious as compared to attractive girls. men and women are both pretty shallow.

anyways, iv met lots of really hot attractive guys who ended up being the biggest creeps ever. haven't spoken to them since.

robtheman · Answer

Imaturity !

girls are really immature when the think a guy is hot he could do anything say a sick joke about anything and he will still be hot or cute , but if a guy who she doesn't like the look of opens the door for her he is creepy. immaturity my son.

women you will find are the total opposite, a man could be really handsom but ruin his chances with a sick joke and a guy not so attractive could open the door for her and he would be charming and a gentleman.

if you keep meeting immature girls your hanging around in the wrong places i.e girls will hang in bars you would meet a women at a yoga class.

virgo92 · Answer

The reason girls do this is NOT because they are not attracted to them. It probably is that they are being creepy. Although I do agree that some girls do overuse the word and some may be saying it out of immaturity, but others are telling the truth. What "creepy" means to me is that the guy is either extremely awkward and makes me feel uncomfortable, or that he is trying way to hard and making it seem that all he wants to do is get in my pants. It has nothing to do with the way he looks. Except maybe if a really old guy like 50 is hitting on a 18 year old or younger haha. I know of some guys that are actually hot but still creeped me out.

coolbeens · Answer

They are being a bitch because they feel that you want them and they don't want you and are milking the moment to feel extra attractive and unavailable and sound cool to their friends.

thats the truth dude.

brunohusker · Answer

because most people don't know how to use their words. It's kind of like the word gay, people use it all  the time, and usually it has nothing to do with being a homosexual, sadly women use creepy because they either don't want to say someone's ugly or just can't think of another word. I mean you never hear guys calling a girl creepy if sh'es ugly yet I hear and see it all the time. Girls seem to think that if a guy is ugly he's a wierdo, which is sad because I know plenty of so called "hot" wierdos. I think its just a matter of language though. Its also that most girls who say it a lot are fairly shallow and don't really look at personality

Alitl_carcrazi_girl · Answer

Lol! Ok, not all girls, just the ones your referring to apparently. My friends and I don't do stuff lie that. Creepy guys are the kind of guys you'd rather not be alone with anywhere or wouldn't want to come across in a dark alley. I personally think it's a little rude to just be calling anyone creepy, especially if you don't know them, for whatever reason.  Some times people forget others have feelings and women can be caddy anyways towards men or women. Uggh! Thus, the majority of my friends were guys until I got married.

Anonymous · Answer

I absolutely agree with the girls - it has nothing to do with how good looking you are. It has to do with guys who try way too hard and can't take a hint. Here's an example of a creepy guy (who was not bad looking): He started conversations with me at clearly awkward times: times when I STATED that I was going to work, class, or writing in my journal, and wouldn't stop talking. He knocked on my door to start random conversations with me. He also talked about really strange topics - like eastern Europe during the cold war, or Russian literature. That is an example of a creepy guy - especially with the door thing.

tomfeltonforever · Answer

Because people are so f***ing mean to each other. I see so many girls calling guys douche bags, a**holes, and creeps and so many guys calling girls sluts, bitches, and whores. Not every person called these things are bad people. People just call others mean things because they a) want to look cool in front of others by putting someone down b) are insecure about themselves c) really sick of the person they're victimizing d) bitter.

If a guy is constantly bothering a girl, though, he is being creepy.

DaveThomas · Answer

girls don't want to admit it but..its got nothing to do with looks or how interested he is into her. ITS ALL ABOUT HIS AND HER AGE. if he's 40 or 50 and she's 17. then that's considered creepy. they don't want to be dating some guy that's old enough to be their grandma or grandpa. you do however still need to come off as a genuine guy though. meaning keep the sexual stuff to a minimum if at all and make sure your treating her like a woman should be treated

to any girl who says its about anything else. I call bullsh*t

Wildwoodnj2010 · Answer

It's not so much the looks.  It all depends on the personality.  If a girl finds you creepy, she will do everything in her power to avoid you, which can sometimes be confused with nervousness about a first date or you asking her out.  They are completely different things though!If a girl gives you the hint to "back off", then you should.  If she talks to you, answers your texts, etc..then go for it.  If she doesn't like you right now, feeling might develop in the future, just don't force her to like you.  This way, she never will.

flash124 · Answer

Girls are all evil and loving crushing a man's soul.

Just kidding. "Creepy" is just a phrase a lot of people use these days in a general way. You might not necessarily give off a creepy vibe, but it's just a way of saying that she's not that into you.

seth_Oscillation · Answer

i think its just girls being mean... :( just because you're a nice guy who would rather do his homework and learn about you and would rather do that than be AN ASSHOLE THAT MOST WOMEN WOULD LIKE

DOESNT MEAN HES A CREEP. just say sorry I don't like you like that. you don't have to shoot him down and call him a creep!

honestly I've seen bad boys do creepier sh*t but its ok because he's "hot"

f*** that bull sh*t!

The_Box · Answer

Protip: Girls can't separate looks and personality. A cute guy is funnier. An ugly guy is creepier.

soOUCH · Answer

Not all men that we don't want to date are creepy, but men know this...if we have said no the first time, take it as no and stop pursuing.  These guys only get "creepy" when they can't take no for an answer and revert to stocker mode, makes us feel a little unsafe too.

jextaimex · Answer

I don't call guys I'm not attracted to creepy automatically. There are a lot of guys I'm not attracted to, but I know that they are nice, sweet, smart guys. I'm just not attracted and won't be... its not that I think he's gross, its that I just am not interested in these guys or see them as friends.

Honestly... I call guys creepy when they ARE creepy. That's really the explanation.

nilgai · Answer

It is just a way of flattering themselves. Obviously not all girls are like that but there are some that think when they walk in a room that every guy wants to do them and that to them makes those guys ''creepy''. Which in turn, makes them stuck up  ''bitches'' :)

swimchick54 · Answer

I don't think that is necessarily true. I think that guys tend to approach girls when they have liquid courage in them or are on another type of confidence trip and that can come off as creepy especially if they are sleezy about it. I don't think that females use the term creepy unless they approach her sketchy like and deserve it.

iwbym · Answer

a creep is usually a guy who is a perv asking for sex on the first date or even just when meeting someone (cough, indian guys on here, cough) a creep is also a guy who once told by a girl she is not interested. he just keeps following her. he then becomes a stalker. and that's creepy. therefore he's a creeper

CrazyKid2011 · Answer

Honestly, I have heard this many times before also... me being a girl, I don't see why a lot of guys are called creepy either. [except for those old men giong for young ones, or stalkers)

KillerrMike · Answer

It's an easy way to get rid of them. They do it the same way they cry "sexual harrassment" when the guy telling the joke is unattractive. Trust me, I've seen it at work. I make a sexual innuendo at work and the girl laughs. Another male coworker does the same thing to her later on in the day and he nearly gets fired for it. I'm telling you, it's an advantage they have over us.

Eilonwy · Answer

All the girls I know only call guys who are creepy creepy. We kinda say it like it is, if we're talking about a guy and we don't think he's attractive we'll say he's not attractive, if he's downright ugly we'll say he's ugly, if he's really sweet we'll say he's really sweet...obviously we would never say to a guys face that we think he's ugly, we'd be nicer and more subtle than that, but only creepy guys get the title of creepy

missducky · Answer

I don't agree with that I may not like a guy who wants me like that I only call them creepy if I make that clear and they still look at my t*ts when we talk or like they want to drag me into an alley and make me scream lol but if I want them back it isn't creepy and yes guys girls can tell when you won't stop looking

stickybump · Answer

Girls call guys creepy when they know the guy is attracted to her but does not approach her, most of the time the guy just wants to use the girl for her body but does not value the girl enough to invest time into a relationship, this offends the girl and destroys her self image so she calls you creepy as a defense mechanism. Women never want to think its their fault if a relationship does not work out, so of course they will blame it on you and move on to the next guy, its simple as that, do not take it personal.

Being needy is a whole different issue however. When you are needy you are not attractive to a girl on a emotional level, this is because you do not give yourself value by challenging her.

TC123 · Answer

ROFLMAO at some of the girl's responses about what can make a guy "creepy." The one about the friendly guy who approached her at odd times and just wanted to talk being "creepy" is especially funny.

Seems to me for some girls all a guy needs to do to be creepy is to talk to them at a bad time!

prettykitty93 · Answer

Personally I kind of think it depends on what type of girl we're talking about here. From what I know , the girls that tend to throw the creep word around are the shallow types who are picky about what kinds of guys they date and people they associate with in general. The less shallow types don't tend to use the word creep as loosely. Personally, I've really only used it one one guy before- one of my friend's exes who just wouldn't get the hint that she didn't want him around. Creepy is pretty much = to someone who lurks around when they aren't wanted.

rainydaydreamaway · Answer

I don't!

Sometimes I use jacka**, f*cktard, douchebag, d*ckhead, dirtbag, jerk, etc... LOL

Other times, if they haven't been any of the above, or they seem like cool guys but I'm just not attracted for whatever reason, I just say that they were cool but the chemistry wasn't there.

I don't call them creepy...unless they are creepy!

shf84 · Answer

There are a lot of creepy guys out there that's for sure but sometimes the girl is just a biggot. She can call you creepy all she wants but  if she starts to harass you with it there are legal recourse's if this is happening on the job you can file a harassment complaint with the EEOC especially if your a different race culture or religion than her.  There is also a way to sue someone for defamation of character.

IHateMeganFox · Answer

around where I live, us gals call guys creepy only if they ARE creepy. when a 40 year old man is hitting on me ill call him creepy becaust he IS!

savvyg11 · Answer

Girls call guys "creepy" usually when they are coming on too strong and can't take a hint. Not if they just think they're unattractive.

Anonymous · Answer

its not that there necessary not attracted to them more the guy did something to make them feel uncomfortable as I've had girls who I know found me attractive call me creppy cause I did something that bothered them . so its sometimes a little more complex than you think why they do this but it is very common thing to happen

Anonymous · Answer

I used to be a creep, but I didn't know it. When I started taking an mellow Laissez-faire approach, that was started when I to really meet girls.

From my experience, learning the right way to flirt is a process of trial-and-error. I've made a lot of errors, but I've had a few successful attempts.

cutestkathy · Answer

You know, we live in  a culture where men and women don't really like each other...so both guys and girls often use put down words to talk about each other. Sad, I think

BigBlueEyes · Answer

its massive double standards. If your "Hot" and do something (anything more or less) and a non-hot guy does the exact same thing, your cute and he's a creep. Its how you look, not what you do.

spartan1980 · Answer

its the same as. why do girls go to the bathroom as  a group? Its a girl thing,and not a lot of girls do it, so if she is calling you creepy, maybe its how you are acting. otherwise I wouldn't really too much into it.

KERMlT · Answer

My co-worker's wife told her husband I was creepy so she could flirt with me and not alert her hubby. He felt perfectly safe leaving his beautiful wife alone with me.

So that isn't necessarily always the case.

Anonymous · Answer

we are bitches, who easily judge. well most of the time. sometimes it depends on the guy. if there is a guy wearing strange clothes and saying weird stuff, then of course I am going to think he is creepy

Xenophobia · Answer

I don't agree that girls should label a shy guy creepy...you should give him credit and be honored that he even has interest in you...especially when there are so many other girls out there.

Marrryyyyy · Answer

it's the guys that don't leave you alone after you've told them NO THANKS you call a creep..for me, anyways

Mel549 · Answer

because the unwanted forwardness of a guy we find unattractive grosses us out, and creepy is a good word to describe that.

Reeses-pieces777 · Answer

i don't. I call the guy I went out with just now a lying cheating douche which is so true and he's creepy too. his face is creepy.

Anonymous · Answer

When a guy does something creepy it makes him unattractive is better wording for it.

I don't like when a guy is too awkward or shy, or says something totally weird, or makes physical advances far too early.

andre251 · Answer

A good friend of mine said something once that was very interesting. If the girl doesn't like you, you are creepy.  If she likes you, you are Romantic.

thatsnotmyname · Answer

I'll never call a guy creepy again. Last time I did the [17 year old] guy found out and punched a hole into a wall. o.O Which kinda proved my point.

The only time I'll 'think' a guy is creepy, is if he is. If he acts like he likes me a little too much (aka creeper) then I'll think he's creepy. But that's my limit on being harsh.

Littletad · Answer

I wish I knew the answer to this. I showed interest a few months ago to a girl who had a boyfriend, and bam, I was viewed as a creepy "lurker". Which was simply not true. I'd blame it on immaturity.

KINGZERO · Answer

Same reason we call cute girls "clingers" but we call hot girls "sweet". It's all weird man & I have no idea.

blooddragon · Answer

cause they had a bad day and decided your the unlucky guy they're gonna make feel bad about yourself so they can feel a bit better about themselves... cause some of em are just bitches like that.

Anonymous · Answer

women are more immature than men, they like to thik otherwise, but their behavior and actions speak for themselves

xtiffanychan · Answer

That's not true. Guys are creepy when they don't stop tryna talk to you and you've already made it clear you're not interested.

jenn33 · Answer

it's because guys we aren't attracted to approach us, hit on us, and still hang around when we give them signals to leave.  thus, they are creepy.

Becky_kate · Answer

If they tell you "No" once and you keep trying, that's when it gets creepy.

Anonymous · Answer

It would only affect you if you are really "creepy" if you are not then that's just another word. Just like how girls call guys jerk, and asholes just another word.

hugytd · Answer

moost the time it's because fo the way the guy acts or things he says. it also has to do with knowing he'[s been watching you or something of that type for a while.

Why do all girls call guys they're not attracted to 'creepy'?

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