I actually know the answer to this.
Pay attention...
Each woman has radar that protects them from men. Dangerous men.
She starts to develop this radar the moment she grow boobs and uncle Joe starts smiling at her a little too much. At a very young age girls will begin to notice the unwanted attention their bodies bring them. Moms, aunts, school, and movies help her to realize that much of this unrequested attention can lead to very real dangers - the most common being rape.
This is why most women are incredibly empathic. They can read body language in a way most men can't.
There are specific patterns of behaviors that women can pick up on that will help them to "mind read" any man who's interacting with her. She needs this skill to protect herself.
Here are the most common: creepy, slimy, needy, boring, attractive.
Guess which one's are good and which one's are bad?
BEING CREEPY:
Creepy means she sense's you're unsafe and untrustworthy.
If she's labeling you as creepy then here's what you're likely doing wrong:
- Your eyes don't match your smile. This is the car sales man smile. It's fake. Being fake is creepy. Stop laughing and smiling if you don't really mean it. This tells her that she can't trust what you're saying because your body language is not trust worthy. She would rather you smirked if you didn't find her joke funny, instead of fake laughing.
- You don't smile. This is the guy who's staring from across the room with such intensity that it's freaking her out. Perhaps in your head you're being serious and sexy, but instead you're being uncalibrated and creepy. This tells her that you're stalking her. Next time simply smile when you make eye contact. And make it a real smile.
- You act like a player, pimp, mac daddy, cool guy, suave. But you're not. You're just acting. Like I said, women can sense when you're being fake. She'd rather you acted nervous and insecure than "too cool for school" because FAKE indicates you're hiding something.. this makes you seem dangerous and creepy.
- You're coming onto her too strong. She's not a piece of meat and she knows when your only intention is to get something from her... likely approval and sex. If you're staring at her body the entire time like she's something you can take, buy, or steal, then you're being creepy.
To avoid being creepy simply be honest, sincere, and fun.
I hope this helps dude!
~ Robby
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You my friend, just revealed the fundamental truth. Most girls that I met called me unattractive and creepy. The others just went out with me.
Did you not see the.. "still lives with parents" part of it? I'm done answering to these because I don't think you are even READING what I'm saying just skipping through. I said 40 year old that still lives with parents. I find a guy in his 40s who is independent and has other things going for him etc attractive. omg. and if a 75 year old guy was fing 21 year olds good for him! that has nothing to do with what I am saying. All I was saying is guys who are not self sufficient who don't have anything going for them and who aren't looking to better themselves. Or don't have any ambitions or goals are creepers to me. It doesn't matter if your hot or not if you suck at life and whatever then your a creeper. if you try to look down my shirt given any opportunity or walk up tome and tell me abou tthe coolest new vibrator on the market when wee aren't friends your more than likely a creeper. That's IT> you guys that are giving me down arrows or whatever. more than likely are in this category. so seriously. GROW up and become REAL men.
I am not no whore or a bitch thank you very much. My answer is still the same. It's not our faults that you can't handle the truth. If you didn't want the truth why did you ask the question? And the guys have no idea why we say it because they are not WOMEN. Nothing to do if your attractive or not. If your a creep your a creep. Plain and simple. And you must be one of those guys who call girls bitches or whores when you don't agree with something or gets mad. Which is also not a fair word to use either since you know nothing about these people who have commented, and since all we did was give our opinion to your question. So don't be a hypocrite. Get over yourself.
usually, attractive guys don't have to try as hard, so they're not going to awkwardly come onto you, which is probably the reason that it is mostly unattractive guys who get called "creepy." like when I'm at a bar and some guy starts dancing behind me, getting WAY too close, that's creepy. if a guy smiles at me from across the room and maybe starts a conversation, that's not a problem. it goes into creepy territory when guys can't take a hint - like if I ended the convo with the guy and he kept following me around the bar, still trying to talk to me, for example.
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One time I was at a party and I only knew one person, and he was off somewhere else. It was a boring party to start with, and not knowing anyone made it torture. The looks I got from everyone.. after reading this, I realise I was being seen as creepy. I was just shy. I never realised it, but now looking back, they probably called me a creeper.
A few weeks later, I was at another party.. with a lot more fun, and people I actually knew. I had just bought a puppy and had it with me. These same attractive girls came up to me, and were so outgoing and friendly. Really pleasant. Flirty etc. When they found out I was the same guy, they recoiled in shock.. "are you really?" "were you the same guy?" YES! Both times I was being true to myself.
I was the same person in both situations. Why do they make such split second judgements like this?
I act the same way towards all women I meet. My facial expressions and body langauge is something I can't control. I get really nice looks and smiles from some of the most attractive women. It floors me. And others, I get a scowl or a bad look, like I am a creeper. And I act the same towards them all. I don't get it.
I have never really thought about the word creepy until just now. This topic makes me very nervous. It seems there is two definitions.. one I can understand.. the lurker creep guy who is hanging around when he is not wanted and the second which seems like a way to make the girl feel more self important. "Get that creep away from me".
It's tough. You girls are hard to please, it's like an artform trying to master this stuff.
Well Understanding girls are not so much easy Well because they are so complicated.
they are more complicated then Database, programing computer applications, and much more what I'd discribe about this confusing creature actually but I would like to show my will...
do you know even when your programing a computer application or making code base database you need to be careful because of a simple comma or just if null will make error in your database command so hey x just have look on
when you talking to a girl just understand be a quite relax because they are very complicated use the words that you make them attractive . do not make them bore, they need lots of fun . if at all a girl want to avoid you its a simple word to tell you your creepy or if they want to forget about your mistake they call you creepy. well I don't know so much about this confusing creature but I know this much that if a girl. are getting worst by your words or not feeling comfortable with you will call you creepy ...
when she call you creepy ... here you have a simple thing to do ...
just tell her bye and copy pest your text and print it out or save it on your pc and read it out that what kinda conversation she had used ... why she called you creepy ... then you'll get known of your mistake dude...
hey boy don't miss your chance and don't be tense if they tell you creepy ... we have great calculation simple as...
the count of the girls are more then the boys . and don't miss your chance because on every street you will find a different girl with different mind...
coz all girls are not the same. don't use the same way ... different girls are flirted in different technics just you don't need to be unhappy because you have a chance to jump on just becareful while talking to girls ... and don't f*** the subject if she is interested in be calm and make her die for you...
hey don't come under pressure she wouldn't call you creepy
The truth is every man and every woman is unique, the exact motives and reasons behind our behaviors and approaches when we interact with one another aren't always the same. Our personalities are not so trivial that they are so easy to analyze and formulate conclusions about one another's personality traits (e. g. she's a slut or he's a creep because they said this or behaved in this manner). Both men and women are guilty of jumping to conclusions about people they barely know. My biggest pet peeve personally are any woman who in there right mind say they are looking for a long term relationship with a man, but takes one look at me or many guys whether it be a picture in an online dating site or in person and immediately decide , no he's not for me, because his face structure doesn't fit my idea of Prince charming. How do you know you would not be happy overall with him? We barely even talked, each day is different some people have bad days and good days with regards to what's driving their behavior at that point in time when you initially met one another too. In a society of instant gratification why can't I find a woman who wants to actually slow down and take a good look at me and I her before jumping to an immediate decision of yes or no. He's hot or he's not. She's hot or she's not. Another pet peeve is being ignored after being shown an initial interest by a woman. You say one thing but do another, why?
There is an evolutionary explanation for this. It's irrational fear.
In the distant past, when people lived entirely different lives (when we were more monkey then human) unwanted attention from a sexually mature guy for a woman had a very high probability in resulting in pregnancy for that woman. And as we all know, the costs of pregnancy for a woman are very high and women can have a very small number of children compared to men. So Mother Nature gave women through evolution a very powerful weapon to protect them from unwanted attention, an irrational fear of any male around them that they do no consider a good potential father. It's a type of pre-emptive strike on the side of women, they don't fear them for what they are, they fear them for what they could potentially do to them. This is why chivalry exists, to act a certain way around women to make them feel comfortable.
It has nothing to do with the guys.
So if a girl calls you creepy, it's purely a problem on the side of women and has nothing to do with you. They’re just being irrational, controlled by an animalistic instinct developed in the Savanna
i don't see why you're even bothering to ask this question if all you do is praise the people who give you the "don't worry, they're just bitches" response that you want and ritecule the ones who give you an answer that you don't like. and you shouldn't generalise and categorise females as being all the same. I've only ever called one guy creepy and that was because after I had said no he kept trying to come onto me and putting his arms around me and just acting inappropriately. so no, we're not all bitches and whores, and whilst we're on the subject, just from what you've said, you seem like a bit of a d***head so maybe you should take a look at yourself before you assume that it's everyone else with the problem.
no not really. usually I'll only call a guy a creep if he is too overbearing even though it's obvious I'm not into him. you know the kinds of guys that keep trying to push your boundaries even if you are not giving him any reason to do so. it just happens these type of guys are usually unattractive, but I've also met some good looking creeps too. every ugly guy isn't a creep but if you repeatedly find yourself getting called a creep, maybe don't be so quick to blow it off like "oh if I was hot she wouldn't have said that".
Because most of them are airheads who don't have a valid explanation for rejecting you or are just too lazy and insensitive to provide one. Even if they did, they wouldn't want to seem superficial for stating the true reason. So saying your creepy makes them feel superior and you seem like a loser who is obsessed with them which is also an ego boost on their side.
Of course, if you are stalking them in your ninja outfit, they might have a reason to call you creepy. xD
most of the time, I think, they know the guy has been kinda eyeballing them for a while. maybe he is shy and has not gotten the nerve up to talk to her, so he might be dropping hints and beating around the bush and she has already been on to him for some time. she may start to feel "stalked", hence the "creepy" reference. you know he's been "creeping around her" trying to figure out how to say hello and ask her out. I think a guy might lessen the chances of being called "creepy" if he takes a deep breath and just goes for it the sooner the better. the worst she can say is no, which is a little better than "creepy", :)! lol.
the same way that guys find uglier girls more annoying and obnoxious as compared to attractive girls. men and women are both pretty shallow.
anyways, iv met lots of really hot attractive guys who ended up being the biggest creeps ever. haven't spoken to them since.
Imaturity !
girls are really immature when the think a guy is hot he could do anything say a sick joke about anything and he will still be hot or cute , but if a guy who she doesn't like the look of opens the door for her he is creepy. immaturity my son.
women you will find are the total opposite, a man could be really handsom but ruin his chances with a sick joke and a guy not so attractive could open the door for her and he would be charming and a gentleman.
if you keep meeting immature girls your hanging around in the wrong places i.e girls will hang in bars you would meet a women at a yoga class.
The reason girls do this is NOT because they are not attracted to them. It probably is that they are being creepy. Although I do agree that some girls do overuse the word and some may be saying it out of immaturity, but others are telling the truth. What "creepy" means to me is that the guy is either extremely awkward and makes me feel uncomfortable, or that he is trying way to hard and making it seem that all he wants to do is get in my pants. It has nothing to do with the way he looks. Except maybe if a really old guy like 50 is hitting on a 18 year old or younger haha. I know of some guys that are actually hot but still creeped me out.
They are being a bitch because they feel that you want them and they don't want you and are milking the moment to feel extra attractive and unavailable and sound cool to their friends.
thats the truth dude.
because most people don't know how to use their words. It's kind of like the word gay, people use it all the time, and usually it has nothing to do with being a homosexual, sadly women use creepy because they either don't want to say someone's ugly or just can't think of another word. I mean you never hear guys calling a girl creepy if sh'es ugly yet I hear and see it all the time. Girls seem to think that if a guy is ugly he's a wierdo, which is sad because I know plenty of so called "hot" wierdos. I think its just a matter of language though. Its also that most girls who say it a lot are fairly shallow and don't really look at personality
Lol! Ok, not all girls, just the ones your referring to apparently. My friends and I don't do stuff lie that. Creepy guys are the kind of guys you'd rather not be alone with anywhere or wouldn't want to come across in a dark alley. I personally think it's a little rude to just be calling anyone creepy, especially if you don't know them, for whatever reason. Some times people forget others have feelings and women can be caddy anyways towards men or women. Uggh! Thus, the majority of my friends were guys until I got married.
I absolutely agree with the girls - it has nothing to do with how good looking you are. It has to do with guys who try way too hard and can't take a hint. Here's an example of a creepy guy (who was not bad looking): He started conversations with me at clearly awkward times: times when I STATED that I was going to work, class, or writing in my journal, and wouldn't stop talking. He knocked on my door to start random conversations with me. He also talked about really strange topics - like eastern Europe during the cold war, or Russian literature. That is an example of a creepy guy - especially with the door thing.
Because people are so f***ing mean to each other. I see so many girls calling guys douche bags, a**holes, and creeps and so many guys calling girls sluts, bitches, and whores. Not every person called these things are bad people. People just call others mean things because they a) want to look cool in front of others by putting someone down b) are insecure about themselves c) really sick of the person they're victimizing d) bitter.
If a guy is constantly bothering a girl, though, he is being creepy.
girls don't want to admit it but..its got nothing to do with looks or how interested he is into her. ITS ALL ABOUT HIS AND HER AGE. if he's 40 or 50 and she's 17. then that's considered creepy. they don't want to be dating some guy that's old enough to be their grandma or grandpa. you do however still need to come off as a genuine guy though. meaning keep the sexual stuff to a minimum if at all and make sure your treating her like a woman should be treated
to any girl who says its about anything else. I call bullsh*t
It's not so much the looks. It all depends on the personality. If a girl finds you creepy, she will do everything in her power to avoid you, which can sometimes be confused with nervousness about a first date or you asking her out. They are completely different things though!If a girl gives you the hint to "back off", then you should. If she talks to you, answers your texts, etc..then go for it. If she doesn't like you right now, feeling might develop in the future, just don't force her to like you. This way, she never will.
Girls are all evil and loving crushing a man's soul.
Just kidding. "Creepy" is just a phrase a lot of people use these days in a general way. You might not necessarily give off a creepy vibe, but it's just a way of saying that she's not that into you.
i think its just girls being mean... :( just because you're a nice guy who would rather do his homework and learn about you and would rather do that than be AN ASSHOLE THAT MOST WOMEN WOULD LIKE
DOESNT MEAN HES A CREEP. just say sorry I don't like you like that. you don't have to shoot him down and call him a creep!
honestly I've seen bad boys do creepier sh*t but its ok because he's "hot"
f*** that bull sh*t!
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