Ex girlfriend wants me to hangout with her and new boyfriend.

In this situation I would have to agree with all the answers you have received. She is just trying to add insult to the injury. What she is asking is WAY ova the top.And to me it seems like its her loss. She wants to hook up with losers than leave her to it. It will only drag you down with her. And if she was really worth anything she would not wanna put you into a possible confrontation with some man knowing it may lose your concealed weapons permit or even that you think you would have to be armed to even trust to be in the same room as her and him. Good luck. And be strong or I feel you will get bigger regrets than what your already feeling right now.

listen dude we are in same shoes right now...though I am dealing with my boyfriend not my ex..he loves her they have kid together,h cares for her still as she is going through her own marital problems,she is turning on him..the girls husband moved to other state and work there and as she tries to have him stay in the state as her he would'nt,at first my boyfriend is hiding stuff from me,like talking to her privately,and feeling as if he's with her at one point..it was disastrus for me because I was in the middle..he loves me and all but they have more band before than we do now we're only shared little time compared to them..so to make a long story short..this girl is good looking,when I meet my boyfriend it was after she left,he said she was a bitch to him self centered and after he put her in school and all when she was done she left..and me knowing this is what he had been through I felt awful..i waslike him I had bad break up too but I left with no baggage on my back,i think I'm smart enough to not leave until my heart is free,but his case it was different..it turned out that she was so happy to know that even if they are not together in some points after she left and him having new girls,he still loves her..in fact she got married insted of getting back with him..now he meet me and everything turned,my boyfriend sarted to love me,and enjoys me having around with him now we live together,he eventually kinda let her go and after a year of us together now she's trying to get him back,lol I was like to my bf,wow you have major issue to deal here..she is defenitely not infereing with us or if she does,then tug of war will you be in in couple weeks..cuz I am not letting you be in a situation were you'll lose yourself again,i love you so much and I want things better for you..she kows he can cotrol his emotiontion..to tell you too I am good looking and so proud to say she's older than me so win or lose I could care less because I love this guy I was so happy to be able to get his confidence back..and now this bitch is trying to get in the way,i already told him,good thing he is listening to me..i said look,shes married,her husband obviously didn't make an effort to live with her FOR reasons! he probably its because he can't deal with her don't you think? I told him that..now if you choose to get back with her,you can go ahead but I'm telling you right now,no getting back with me later when it doesn't work..i said I would love to see you guys happy with your son that I reli love,and she's nice to me,we can awlays talk about stuff concerning the child,she drops him over a lot and ask me if I could watch him while she goes to gym..i am way confident and she doesn't feel like a threat to me.but because she's selfish she dones tcare about nothing,she has no shame..so I told my boyfriend to be careful not to hurt himself again..but I do not want him hiding this from me,he asked to get married so I said to him to wait until he is ready to be with me without her on the way..he cried,he wants to move on me help him through.

Well I suppose you needed to satisfy your curiosity by going to see her.Quite frankly she sounds like a shallow self centered b**ch! As for being your friend? Think about it? You have other friends. Do they do that to you? This is not friendship she is offering. She seems to get off on the fact she can control your emotions and probably wants to keep you on the back burner for support when this loser turns on her again. Which he is sure to do. But that should be her problem now. Not yours. And as for you saying you have no trust and why is that? Well you are dealing with an ex convicted felon. You have every reason not to trust someone like that. And the way she seems I don't think she would think twice about letting you and him to 'duel' over her.She would probably get off on it.You sound to nice a person for her anyway.It will be her loss not to have you in her life.Just remember that and stay strong like you plan to.

Drama! Do not go anywhere near this girl, as you'll just hurt yourself even more and continue to go through this crap. Just get her out of your life. I understand you care about her, but sometimes you have to put the feelings aside and focus on what is best for you in the long run, and staying around this chick is not good for you.

No do not go and hang out with her and some abuser. If she really wanted to be friends with you she would hangout with you alone. That also worries me she has a man like that around her children. Like you said you have worked too hard and have come to far to lose anything over some girls like that. Do not let people like that into your life. Forget her espeically the way she reacted to your response. You deserve better do not let her walk all over you. Do not respond.

I can't be bothered with reading all of your updates and all of the other's answers. One thing is clear to me. Do you know the meaning of the word CHUMP? Don't be surprised to see your sorry ass mug shot when you look it up in the dictionary.

Oh hell no!

This girl's cruel, she's being emotionally abusive, and she's not giving a damn about how all this effects your feelings.

Move on without her. Ignore her if she contacts you.

Don't go, forget about her, and it'll hurt you even worse if you go. Let it go and put the gun away.

Frankly, she makes no sense at all and you should move on. She's the one who hurt you and is about to add insult to injury. Don't do it.

Dont even answer and just let it go. You have to accept the fact that she does not want you in her life as her boyfriend. Try to learn from this experience. I have recently been pushed away by my fwb. As far as I know she's with someone else and I don't even know that as the truth, but she might as well be with someone else. Its hard for me to accept, but I know I have to do it in order for me to move along. It has taken me a long time to accept and I still think about it to this day. "Bitches they come and they go". Listen to eminems superman lyrics. That helped me lot.

First of all, put the gun away. It has absolutely nothing to do with this. Don't even mention it. A gun will only escalate your dilemma.

It sounds like the word "commitment" is rather loosely interpreted among the three of you. She is telling the truth when she says she wants your friendship. But because she has no integrity for commitment she does not understand why you would have such a problem befriending her former ex as well.

Its tough letting someone you care about continue to be abused. Unfortunately that is the very nature of it though. Battered women feel like they have no choice and that they can't do any better on their own. So they stay. As a friend (and if you care about her) you need to be there for her. As hard as that may be. You don't have to like the guy she's with, but you do have to accept him because that's what she wants. The best way to get her out is to prove to her how much she is worth. Don't make it about him. Make it about her.. how amazing she is. As you build in her a renuied self-confidence, you will also slowly be realing her away from him.

-wiseman

I would just forget about her, it doesn't make any sense to me. If she expects you to be friends with the ex she nuts. I wouldn't worry about burning bridges it didn't seem like she did when she was cheating on you. I mean what could you possibly gain by being friends with her (and her ex).