How would you feel if you were dumped for a more attractive person?

Question

Would it make you feel really really bad about yourself and ruin your self esteem, or would you think their relationship is most likely more superficial then yours was and unlikely to last?

Reeses-pieces777 · Accepted Answer

i would feel the validation of the break up is not ethical nor reasonable.

what if the girl turns out to be a real b*tch? then the guys gonna get it and I get to laugh . kidding.

i'd probably have moved on by then.

i have never dumped a guy for another attractive guy.

i guess it would hurt a little initally if I liked the guy but I would recover quickly realizing he doesn't have any character or is able to access the stability of a relationship's long lasting qualities versus just 'looks' *sigh*

Definitely the guy's shallow. Beauty can only last so long, unless you have like lots of money can can keep fighting the effects of again itself. I would definitely think it would not last long.

But guys in general, are visual. The guys who can't think anyway, they tend to break up with a girl just to persue a better looking one without getting to know the new girl.

lost-angel · Accepted Answer

I would lose self esteem, and feel really bad about myself if someone left me, period. Doesn't matter if he left me for another girl.. or guy lol, I would feel insecure, and think I am just not good enough. I would think, Is there something wrong with me?Am I too needy, clingy, busy, distant? And all the other negative thoughts that come with rejection.

So if someone left me for a more attractive person, it wouldn't really change the way I feel about getting dumped.

I really wouldn't think anything about their relationship either. I would just wish them happiness and never talk to the guy again.

heartlessloser08 · Accepted Answer

i personally would feel pity for the person they went with cause its not about there personality its about there looks and one day there going to get old and not look so hot to them anymore and the person who dumped the other one in the beginning is just going to keep doing it till they are to old and to ugly to get anyone else.

sooo if I were the person who got dumped id be happy and relieved cause I'm not stuck with that person cause apparently I don't deserve a person so shallow.

hope I helped =]

cheerangelcharity · Accepted Answer

Ya it would bum me out because I do value my looks nowadays [especially after many years of thinking that many other girls are much prettier than me] but I would keep in mind how many other guys were or are into me, even if it is because of my looks...though I've been told that I'm really nice too at least.  I would also keep in mind that, as already pointed out, both that people have different opinions about what's physically attractive and that I shouldn't want to be with someone that shallow anyways.

answerguy · Accepted Answer

Maybe it wasn't all about physical attraction? Maybe that is the only thing you're noticing. I it may be superficial in itself to reduce the other person's qualities, or the reasons your ex had for deciding to begin a relationship with someone else in the first place.

That doesn't mean you aren't a good person, or an attractive person. More attractive may not be the only reason. If it is, maybe that's a very important quality for that person. It's not nice, or fair...but sometimes that is what fulfills someone's needs and they are out to find that. Maybe you or he was looking for something different?

Probably not a great answer, sorry for that...I just wante to ponit out that unless that was the specific reason stated for leaving you, that you're trying to reduce down a complicated matter to looks.

MadHatterni · Accepted Answer

Its not based on how long it last, due to the fact looks fade fast. Personalility and able to make each other laugh is what makes a relationship last longer then 3 months. Attraction starts at the begining due to if we weren't interested with their smile or figure, we wouldn't have the nerv to try to know the person. Shallow I know but its nature. Never know maybe they have something incommon. Need to find a balance so there's space aswell as comfort in a relationship so its not always about being physical and looks.

palek · Answer

If by "attractive", you mean physically attractive, I would be relieved to know someone so superficial was out of my life. Of course, I would have to wonder, if the fact of her being what I considered more physically attractive than myself, was the actual cause of the split, or just a conveniently obvious place to lay the blame. Being as much older than you as I am, I've come to realize the truth of the often and variously expressed, "When you find true love,  you'll find it to be much deeper than physical attraction". This being the case, don't spend another minute being bothered by the reason for your newly suffered split, but spend your energies seeking out the one person you're sure to meet, who sets off fireworks for you, and vice versa. When this happens, all that came before will be gladly and completely forgotten. Believe me, I've been there. All the best.

Anonymous · Answer

if I was dumped solely because he found someone more attractive, I wouldn't feel bad at all. if beauty is all he wants, then he'll probably dump that current one until a "prettier" girl comes along.

we are all free to do as we wish. you cannot put your happiness on other people's hands. if my man wants to leave, I only wish he'll find what he needs and wants if he feels I am not it. we cannot own or control people. we can only provide love and support and hope for the same in return. your own happiness must come first.

Simple-Simonette · Answer

I can't see how anyone could be more attractive than me!

Seriously, I've never had a man dump me for someone prettier - less dramatic, less needy, more secure, yeah, but more attractive, nah.

I know what's wrong with me, I don't need any help ruining my self esteem, lol.

pearl1979 · Answer

So if I was dumped for a more attractive girl then he just saved me from continuing on a relationship with someone  so shallow. But if she has  the looks and the personality then hey the guy is not for me. that shouldn't make you feel any less of a person.

the-love-guru · Answer

Like some others have said, I truly believe beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and carry on. There's a man out there who would love to call you his girlfriend- and glad that your last boyfriend missed out.

Of course it will sting a bit- we're human. But there's millions of guys out there who are WAY better equipped to cherish you as their girlfriend. Go find him! :)

liquidlithium · Answer

Maybe its my confidence, but I always feel after a relationship that, no one they will ever have again, will ever be me.

And its just not looks, its my personality, my character, my morals and values.

Maybe that's why all my ex's are kissing my ass now...lol

stevo · Answer

I know it's been done before, but it's a really rotten thing to do. It really defines the character of an individual when this has happened. It's cold, and it shows no remorse for the feelings of another, it's just what that person wants, and nothing more. Selfish on every end.

Neubauten · Answer

I'd rather be dumped for someone who's better looking.

Being dumped for someone *uglier* would bug me more. If I'm dumped for a Brad Pitt look-alike, I can totally understand why she might do that. But if she dumps me for some Danny DeVito clone, I'd start doubting my masculinity...

bbriannaa321 · Answer

honetly.. I'de feel like sh*t for a couple hours, then get super hot with my friends, and go out on the town. as long as I know I can get somebody just as attractive as he did, then I'de be good. either way, I'll always know I'll have something about me that she doesn't and won't ever have. that little something that makes everybody different. as long as you know your truly beautiful, then you don't need anybody else to say or try to prove that to you.

The-Dude-Next-Door · Answer

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I would talk with a friend of mine and I would find certain girls absolutely gorgeous, and he would disagree. Different guys have different tastes. Not all guys will find certain girls to be unattractive, and certain girls to be attractive.

So don't think you are unattractive to everybody.

Shlei3 · Answer

Eh, I wouldn't take it personally. In fact, if this guy decided to dump me over superficial physical beauty than I would say good riddance. Even if it was for a great reason I would be thankful that he had the guts to break up with me instead of cheating on me or doing it some outher way. You gotta kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince.

TexPlayboy · Answer

I would not focus on why they left. Hoping it does not last as long as your relatoinship because they are shallow is not really a helpful either.

Now is better than later to find out he was going to switch you for someone else, regardless of the reason. Let go of your hurt, and find someone who has a better heart. Beauty on the inside last much longer than beauty on the outside.

Good Luck,

James

underthemistletoe · Answer

been there done that baked the cake and ate it and I Really don't want seconds

i think it sucks more than anything else

it kinda makes me feel like I'm not good enough to Anyone and won't ever be

even though I know its just a phase in my life and I'll get over it eventually.

but it hurts during the moment

and there's always a part of you that always remembers and makes you wonder sometimes

lenaj · Answer

Honestly this has happened to me before and it hurt like HELL. But what I have found to be true is that the person you thought was more attractive then you really isn't. Sure they are cute on the outside but that inside is just as ugly as it wants to be! The guy/girl that dumped you will wish they had never left you for this person that is now so very UGLY! LOL! Sounds like something MOM would say but Mom knows her stuff!

PS. if looks was all that mattered why are so many super models not married/alone?

higurb · Answer

At first I used to get upset but then later I stopped caring. I noticed that a lot of girls just bounce from guy to guy getting as much sex as possible. Where guys want to have sex for pleasure girls seem to have sex to p*ss off other men or their parents or whoever either told them they weren't cute enough or doesn't tell them they are cute enough times a day.

Once I realized that the problem was in the female mind I felt a lot better about myself.

Tridentus · Answer

as a guy I wouldn't think it was that bad. for one thing I wouldn't be attracted to someone who could make that decision.

for girls it might be a little different, but the guy would still have been a dick to do that

queenb2000 · Answer

I'd probably feel like crap for a little bit. The upside to that situation is that you don't have to deal with someone who never truly cared about you as as a person. Bitter-sweet best describes it for me.

SnowboardChick · Answer

Sure I'd feel bad, but then I'd realize that he never truly cared about me. And I'd move on, and find someone better. =]

I would feel semi-bad for the person they are with, knowing they are only in it for the looks.

Fabiana222 · Answer

Any one would fell bad but I mean it may not just be the attractive part of why she dumped you. YOu can learn from the mistakes you made with her and upgrade your profile so you get better relationships with other girls.

appleshampoo · Answer

If you have the mentality "you are the catch and the trophy" you never have to ask yourself this question.  Then again, with that mentality you never get dumped.

erockc31 · Answer

I would think being dumped would make anyone feel down and have their self esteem take a hit.  And depending on the type of person you are will determine how you bounce back from it.

ILoveCefalu · Answer

I'd be a bit hurt, but after a week or so I wouldn't care. And the hurt would come from being dumped and him already moving on- regardless of how attractive the other chick was.

wally · Answer

that tells me how dumb they were just  because the other one look better dosen't mean there relationship will last or even work out.

Littletad · Answer

I'd be glad, cause that would mean she never really loved me and I can move on.

NowJadyn · Answer

hey its their loss! looks are temporary, but bitch is forever, so let em find out on their own!

cjwright79 · Answer

Yes, it might ruin your self-esteemed. But that will regenerate, stronger than before.

Anonymous · Answer

It would make me feel like crap but then I would be happy he's not in my life anymore so I can find someone better.

SmartieGrrl89 · Answer

I would probably think both.  It would ruin my self-esteem and I would think that the relationship wouldn't last.

tyrantfuryre · Answer

Shitty but at the same time it shows she's a shallow b*tch

Anonymous · Answer

If I was left for another girl, it probably would kill myself esteem, even though I knew that  it was probably just a pointless relationship because he did that.

justcurious79 · Answer

don't feel bad his loss lol

Anonymous · Answer

That would make me feel really bad to be honest.

Anonymous · Answer

doesn't matter who I was dumped for. I was dumped

Anonymous · Answer

It would make me feel like doggy doo doo

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