To tell her I like her or not?

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I really like this girl for about a year and half. I added her to MSN then, now we went for one drink. I lost weight, I'm not as good at my college anymore, I don't like any other girls,... all of this because I don't know if she is interested in me. I still haven't told her directly that I like her...

Would you think it's a good idea to tell her I like her? How to tell that? Didn't she got a hint I like her, because I always click her at IM and text her first? Would you rather recommend to get over her?

bobair · Accepted Answer

Attraction is a mysterous emotion. Women LOVE emotions. They use them to make decisions.

Don't waste time "talking" to her about what you think of her. She doesn't care. In fact this kind of behavior will only scare her away.

Instead you need to take action, and I don't mean texting her first (that's lame anyway.)

Instead you're going to do two things... you're going to be amusing and confusing. I'm coining that term right now...

Amuse her by being a leader. Invite her out for dinner, or drinks, or food at the local dessert place. Call her up, invite her out. YOU pick the night, the time, and the place. YOU pick her up and drop her off. YOU make all the decisions. Take her out, then take her home. This will help put her in an emotional "frame" where she will intuitively want to follow your lead.

Confuse her by taking her on "dates" without EVER calling them dates. Be flirty without EVER calling it flirting. Tease her like you would a lover. Feed her like you would your girlfriend. Touch and Tickle her when you guys laugh hard at each other's jokes. Hug her when you pick her up and drop her off. Take her hand when you LEAD her to your table.

Basically do everything a couple would do. This LEADS her mind and body down the "we're dating" emotional path.

Then, near the end of the night, maybe on the second date, after a GREAT laugh, you lean in and kiss her. She'll be ready for it if you lean into her a few times over the two dates. This helps her body get used to your proximity AND it confuses her slightly as to your interest.

If she asks you directly, "Is this a date?" you can say, "let's not label it. Let's just enjoy good food together and see if we like eachother's company." Be allusive.

When you finally kiss her you'll have a WAY better chance and her being receptive and ready.

Your other option is to sound lame by saying, "I really like you. Do you like me too?"

Let her BODY decide, not her mind. Make her have fun and you'll win her every time!

~ Robby

My Blog ( Turn Her From Friend To Lover: link )

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You need to tell her, for your own sanity. It seems like you can't function anymore because of this girl. That worst that will happen is she won't be interested, but that's ok. There are so many other girls out there. And by knowing the truth of the matter, you'll be able to move on and focus on other aspects of your life

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