Was I wrong to defeat him?

That's hot. haha. I've been bad. spank me ;) JK Honestly, that wouldn't bother me at all.

What should you do? Maybe just let him defeat you, so that you can be done with the whole thing. Or break up with him and that ego of his. Your options are pretty limited on what you can do about it.

He's still harping on it? Goodness gracious. I think you are on the right track. Doesn't seem like he'll ever relent.

Yes, it is a blow to any male ego when a girl literally beats you up. Now seeing that he is your boyfriend it shouldn't be so bad. He should be proud that he has a tough girl on his hands that will protect him in a time of need. :) Kidding. Hey, it is better to be beat by your girlfriend rather than a complete stranger.

You were not wrong to defeat him. You should not fake it - that is reserved for the bedroom, and you won't be able to rationalize it with him so no need to make excuses for him.

He on the other hand should let go of his pride and learn to laugh at matters and silly situations. Buy him a nice pink tutu, gift wrap it and give it to him but before he opens it tell him how sorry you felt for beating him and that you'd like to make amends with him.

If he opens the gift and does not laugh at it then he clearly has no sense of humor which is even worse than losing to a girl in my humble opinion.

I dunno, defeat is tough for a lot (most? ) guys and it sounds like he's on the higher side of the competitiveness scale. The reality is that he's probably got some ego scars from this so repeatedly kicking his ass won't help, it'll probably just make him resent you when he fails to rationalize the situation by finding some way he's superior to you. I feel bad for the guy, but he shouldn't have laughed at you, he earned it by doing that.

I don't think he is the only one acting immaturely. You know discipline is a core principle of learning any martial art. And you failed miserably when presented with a test. I suggest you check with your sensei and inquire whether he thinks escalating aggression solves aggression.

Is it silly that he's upset? Is that wounded masculine pride? Sure, you can argue that. But you forgot your discipline as well, and that has surely taken a minor disagreement and made it into an issue. Past that, I think it is extremely unwise to introduce physical contests into your relationship. If you must compete, then play tennis. But trying to physically dominate one another will end badly.

You've forgotten a core principle of the martial arts, though perhaps you've learned a lesson as to why it is a principle.

Obviously this is a guy with a fragile ego and who has a sad competitive spirit. If you don't find this a deal-breaker, try to turn the fight into something sexual (if the relationship is at that point; it doesn't have to lead to sex but possibly rough make-out and heavy-petting). The beauty of this wrestling is that it shouldn't be about leg-sweeps and defeating him like an opponent, but using the closeness of your bodies and having some pseudo rough-sex.

But this is only if he's a keeper. Otherwise, punch him in the solar plexus and find someone who will appreciate your ass-kicking skills.

He needs to get over himself.

I don't think that you were wrong in anyway. After all, you were telling him how proud you were of yourself, and he started to laugh at you.

I would say that his was a serious blow to his ego b/c he obviously has serious self esteem issues. I wouldn't fake it and let him win, and I wouldn't apologize either.

Tell him that you are really good at Judo, that you would like him to join to b/c you think it would be great for the both of you, and also that you are sick of his crap. If he can't grow up and be a man about things, then how is he going to act later in your relationship? He may come around, and he might not. Either way though I wish you the best of luck.

Also, congrats on the yellow belt.

That must have been a big blow to his ego. Losing not once but twice. If he doesn't grow out of it and admit the fact that he has a totally hot girlfriend who can also beat some serious ass when in need, I don't see this going anywhere, regardless of what you do. If anything, it might even get worse and more abusive for him to prove himself to you. The sooner you talk about it and get him to deal with it, the better :) Great job both on the belt and kicking his ass, twice...

YAY!!! Another girl who knows judo! W00t! haha sorry, I love martial arts especially judo. (so much fun) anyways, about your guy problem, tell him to get over it. You beat him fair and square, you didn't need luck, you had training. Don't fake a win for him because it really won't do any good. All that will do is boost his ego more than it should be. No offense but he is acting really immature and his disrespecting you. If he keeps challenging you to a rematch, then let him have it. Don't hold back and let him win, if he wants to learn the hard way (that a girl can beat him) let him learn. I hope the best for you.

Tell him that he needs to get over his ego he got beat by a girl so what it's not that big deal of a problem and I don't think that you should fake him a win either you won because you know judo this should just be an learning experience for him that he should have learned a long time ago boys aren't better than girls in everything.