Why haven't I been asked out yet?

Your first thought about being normal is the right one. Nothing is sexier than self-confidence, and the easiest way to create confidence is to fake being so. You will quickly build confidence as your reactions and thoughts become much more reassuring.

I am—to parallel you—apparently attractive as well, and I was also somewhat jealous of other couples in high school. But, I had a lot of friends and I enjoyed just hanging out with a group most all time, and I still do, lol. My first relationship lasted six years—it ended last summer due to being 1000 miles apart , and not anger or resentment though it did end emotionally as would be expected after six years. We talk a lot now, anyway we can, and for hours; we are—truly downgraded— to ‘best friends’ for now. The thing is: I was 19 when we started dating; I was in college, but we both had a love at first sight moment and everything ‘clicked’ perfectly. This isn't to say I didn't fool around in high school, but... it's all a lot more fun in college, lol. I don't believe in having to be older to do any of that, but for me it has to feel important, not fleeting.

Yet, I was attractive and popular and all those thing that—in high school—we think are ‘important’, but I turned down advances from others because I wanted what I got, a relationship that will last a lifetime in some form. He could simply want the same...

I still have four friends I am close to that I went to high school with. I have countless closer that attended college with me. I know in high school you hate hearing this, and I hated it more than most, heh. Bur high school does not matter. You will have far more experiences, loves, memories, and lifelong friendships in college. I do not regret waiting one bit. You shouldn't either.

Don't feel that you have to find the right guy in a limited amount of time because others appear to like they have—the stress of that alone would make the task impossible. Just know that, given time, the perfect guy will find you, and it will be quite obvious, very quickly, that he wants you as much as you want him.

As for him: a possibility is that one mentioned above. Perhaps he is waiting for someone falls in love with immediately. Okay, it isn't the norm but I did it, and others do too.

Or it cold be: most guys like to be the one that asks and being asked can feel emasculated, which would make him feel slightly threatened or resentful of you—weird and outdated: yes. Still true: yes. I always liked being asked out by girls; I had friends that hated it. To each his own.

3: how aggressive have you been with the flirting and texting? (Probably too much.) Guys like the pursuit: make yourself unavailable, too busy or not interested. Guys will notice and some will find it damn sexy.

4: he could be gay—which is fine too. If you thought he liked you maybe he needs a friend and a boyfriend too.

I know the ‘?’s 11 months old, and my answer too long, but I felt like writing. I hope you're happy now.

Be well,

V

"pple say I'm pretty all the time and I'm not discusting looking so what is it. Why haven't I been asked out yet"

Could be 8 billion different things...

--Maybe you're not as pretty as you think you are.

--Maybe you're too pretty & guys get intimidated.

--Maybe your mean / stuck up

--Maybe you're dumb

--Maybe you're really smart & guys get intimidated.

--Maybe you smell like sulfur.

--Maybe you talk too much & guys can't get a word in edgewise.

--Maybe you're too quiet.

--Maybe you talk about politics too much.

--Maybe you're crazy/psycho.

--Maybe there's too many bad rumors being spread around about you.

--Maybe you dress weird.

Find out what your weaknesses are...then:

“Build up your weaknesses until they become your strong points.”

-Knute Rockne