Why do I get a bad vibe from girls?

Xper 5 Age: 70

Whenever I see a pretty girl I always assume she's just another typical man-hating bitch, that would get p*ssed off or creeped out if I talked to her. Which is why I don't bother talking with girls. I always get that feeling when I see them, and that vibe, I mean don't get me wrong, I like the fact that I'm not talking to girls, but I'm just wondering why this is...

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redheadbabygirl Follow
Xper 5 Age: 34 , mho 71%

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it sounds like you're basing your preconceptions about girls you see on either stereotypes or bad past experiences.

Its not healthy...to get out if this mode of thinking, you're gonna have to take some risks-step outside your comfort zone and be open to the possibility that maybe not all girls are as disappointing as you would expect them to be.

Keep in mind that if you're the one who refuses to start up conversations, YOU'RE the one who other people are going to see as being aloof.

Just relax and be yourself. Have a little fun! Its ok to mess up and its ok if not every girl you talk to is girlfriend material. the point is to keep trying. because, believe it or not, someday you will find that it was worth it.

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- Kanqaz
  
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  "Its not healthy...to get out if this mode of thinking"
  
  So I should keep thinking this way? :P haha Watch your words, miss.
  
  But no, I'm not one to take a dive like that, plus I don't really know how it'll be worth it. I'd rather do something that is fun, and not a waste of time. I'd really rather not take the risk. Thanks anyways though.
  
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- redheadbabygirl
  
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  Haha you have to read the rest of the sentence. It's actually quite grammatically correct. if you cut it up like that, of course it doesn't make sense.
  
  And obviously change is up to you. if you're happy with things as they are, then you really don't need help anyway.
  
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- Kanqaz
  
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  I did read the rest, it's completely cut off from the first part it seems. So, no, not really, might want some punctuation help there haha...
  
  And not all girls are as disappointing as I make them out to be? If I knew that I wouldn't be feeling this way, again, not taking that risk!
  
  And if it's all up to me and you knew htat then why answer my question? haha, very good.
  
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- redheadbabygirl
  
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  That's right. the part before the ellipses is a separate sentence. I'm not crazy!
  
  To answer your question, it seems like you're asking a question that you don't want to hear the answer to. So yeah, it was dumb of me to answer. sorry!
  
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- Kanqaz
  
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  No I just don't get the right answers.
  
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You are conceded and peg all women into this little stereo-type regardless of who the individual is. As though being physically appealing makes any of us a 'man-hating bitch'. Do you talk to your mother with that mouth? It's your own short comings that are freaking woman out, they're not man-hating, they just don't appreciate womanizing creeps.

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- Kanqaz
  
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  What are you talking about bitch? I did say pretty girl, but every woman is like that in general, or at least that's how I feel. it has nothing to do with looks. Do you talk to your father with that mouth? Oh wait, you're probably American, so your parents are divorced haha, I bet you don't talk to your father at all. Stupid f***s. And I'm nt a womanizing creep you stupid bitch, I've never had anything to do with a woman in my life, and now I never will. You women are all like that...
  
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- Kanqaz
  
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  (continued) But when someone confronts you on it, you'll deny it at most. That's how women portray themselves everywhere, it's kinda hard for me NOT to feel this way after all that.
  
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Xper 3 Age: 46 , mho 70%

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Some girls are man-hating b!tches. No doubt. I've met many girls like that.

But your mistake is assuming that all girls are like that. They're not.

I suspect that by assuming girls are all b!tches, you're giving yourself an excuse to not talk to them. It's called "confirmation bias." You look for ways to confirm your preconceived bias.

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- Kanqaz
  
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  Okay, that's the way women portray themselves everywhere. Look at womens magazines like Cosmo and articles like "Why do MEN cheat" etc. etc.. And most other women buy this garbage and believe it. Doesn't matter what it is, it's truth non the less.
  
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- x-pensive
  
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  You're doing it again.
  
  You're citing evidence that confirms your bias.
  
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- Kanqaz
  
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  So? Women are biased against men constantly, which is part of the reason I feel this way.
  
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- x-pensive
  
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  You win.
  
  Good luck.
  
  God bless.
  
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- Kanqaz
  
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  Thank ya. :)
  
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Shlei3 Follow
Yoda Age: 43 , mho 66%

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Because you yourself have that attitude of these women. You ASSume they are cold hearted. I'm willing to bet that you have gotten rejected in the past. As hard as that is I would say give them a chance instead of placing such judgements.

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- Kanqaz
  
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  Ummm, I actually don't have the same attitude as those women. Otherwise I would not be feeling threatened by them. And well, I ASSUME they are like that because that's usually how they portray themselves. I feel that way because of the things I see and hear from them. To be honest, I've NEVER asked a girl out in my life - hence the question. So no, I haven't been rejected. And sorry, but it's too big of a risk to give them a chance.
  
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- Shlei3
  
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  Then it's a question of lack of self esteem. You exude it and I'm sorry but your asumptions are incorrect. Not every one of these women are so cold. You see what you want to see rather than taking the time to get to know thm.
  
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- Kanqaz
  
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  Nope it's not that. I've head women diss men so much and say that we're all jerks and they hate us all. How do you think I'm gonna react to that? If I think they hate me, then obviously I'm not gonna talk to them.
  
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- Shlei3
  
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  As I said before, these are all your misconceptions. You focus on the negative and forget about the positive. I suggest taking a chance and talking to these women. Try something different...or don't. I highly doubt that all these women have gone on about how much they hate men. Please, you throw the towel in before even trying.
  
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- Kanqaz
  
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  Yes I get your point. But I'm not a risk taker, and this is WAY too risky. Plus women don't like taking to strangers, otherwise they'll just label you a creep and walk away. Haha, not taking that risk, but thanks anyways. And maybe not ALL of them have said that about men, but most of them probably have, and it's too big of a number for me to get lucky and find a girl who actually LIKES men for once.
  
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Xper 4 Age: 41 , mho 69%

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You get a bad "vibe" because you have a bias against women. If you open your mind and your heart, you'll get farther in life.

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- Kanqaz
  
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  How can I NOT be biased, if that's the way women portray themselves everywhere?
  
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- MercuryKitten
  
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  A bias is a tendency that makes someone lump a group of people together like they are all the same. Not all women act that way, but because you're biased, you perceive all women as acting that way.
  
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- Kanqaz
  
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  Well, that's how they portray themselves. So screw it.
  
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- MercuryKitten
  
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  It sounds like something bad happened to you one time... but a little forgiveness goes a long way.
  
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- Kanqaz
  
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  Sorry but no, I've never been with a girl in my life.
  
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shortie Follow
Xper 6 Age: 37 , mho 67%

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Maybe you get that vibe because you're the one giving out bad energy, which girls can pick up on...

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- Kanqaz
  
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  Umm...No, otherwise I wouldn't be feeling this way. I can pick up on bad energy too, hence why I feel that way. It's just girls in general are always taking about how guys are such jerks etc. and how they hate us all, they're the ones who give out bad energy because of that. It makes it kinda hard to talk to them. To say that I'm giving out bad energy makes no sense, and I'm pretty sure no human being can pick up on that. It's the way I FEEL TOWARDS GIRLS! Please, go read the question over again
  
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- Kanqaz
  
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  Girls portray themselves like this in general, so it's hard not to feel this way. They give off bad energy the way they portray themselves, which makes other people not want anything to do with them. It has nothing to do with me. If I was a woman saying this stuff about men, you would be saying "Because it's the truth" blah blah blah, but when a man finally stands up for himself and asks WTF is wrong with you people? You go nuts an say it has to do with him.
  
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- shortie
  
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  Did I just 'go nuts'? No...and I've never complained about guys giving me bad vibes or negative energy actually...I don't tend to make generalised complaints about guys because guys are all different as are all girls...
  
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- Kanqaz
  
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  I gotta see it to believe it.
  
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- shortie
  
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  For future reefrence, seeing as you've been chastising all the girls here nice enough to bother answering: Don't ask questions if you don't really want to hear the answers.
  
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- Kanqaz
  
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  I just don't get the RIGHT answer.
  
  So don't bother answering if you don't have it.
  
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ChillWhiteGuy Follow
Xper 5 Age: 37

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because usually they are the type of twats who act that way.

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