She started to ignore me all of sudden, should I do the same?

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There is a girl that seems interested but she started to ignore me all of sudden, should I do the same like she does?

observant1 · Accepted Answer

Nope, she's just passed the stage of "Hey, he's caught my eye, he's cute..." to FULL BLOWN CRUSH and she doesn't know what to do around you so she's freezing up. Strange as it seems, it's natural and human nature. She doesn't want you to see through her but she still wants you to pay attention to her!

That is, if everything was going okay, she was single and didn't say anything rude to you before she started ignoring you!

DO NOT TEASE HER! It will clam her up more and make her afraid of you. Start out with a simple question. "Hey did you see that crazy wreck on the way in to work/class?" or "So and so seems really angry today. Watch out for them. Do you know what might have happened?" Give her something easy to answer and ask you simple questions about back. (Even the most frightened girl can give a one word answer and at least look expectant, hoping you'll respond!) Try not to ask her too many direct questions about herself. She's feeling too self-conscious at the moment and even a question about where she got her new purse will have her staring at you like a deer in the headlights as if she did something wrong and then she'll mentally disect the question & her answer for the next couple days until she's SURE you don't like her and she'll vow to not embarrass herself and will ignore you even more.

As hard as it is, try not to let her shyness-driven ignoring bother you until she makes it CLEAR she wants you to leave her alone. This is where the majority of confusion comes from I think. You guys don't realize when we get to the level of developing a crush on you we suddenly tense up and go quiet when you're near. You'll know this is true if she seems to be fine with her friends, you hear of her saying hilarious things & joking around but she's a completely different person as soon as you appear. This is a GOOD SIGN! It also means she's shy deep down so be extra kind towards her. A gentle tone and kind expression that tells her you won't think anything she says is stupid will go a long way. :)

tarra · Accepted Answer

When it comes to love and relationships, we often find ourselves in situations where we're not quite sure what to do. We might meet someone who seems perfect for us, but then they suddenly start ignoring us and we're left wondering what happened.

If you're in this situation, you might be wondering if you should ignore the person who is ignoring you. After all, if they don't seem to be interested anymore, why should you waste your time on them?

However, before you write this person off completely, it's important to consider what might be going on. There are a few possibilities as to why they might be ignoring you all of a sudden.

It's possible that they're just busy. We all lead busy lives and sometimes we don't have time for the people we care about. If this is the case, it's possible that they'll come back around when they have more time.

It's also possible that they're going through something difficult and they need some time to themselves. In this case, it might be best to give them the space they need and see if they come back to you when they're ready.

Of course, it's also possible that they've lost interest in you. If this is the case, you might want to consider moving on. Whatever the reason for their sudden ignoring, it's important to be patient and see what happens. If they come back, great. If not, you might want to consider moving on.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Absolutely Not ! She probably is testing you.. If you were sure that she liked you and was interested in you, than she wouldn't all of the sudden and out of the bleu change her mind

(unless you did something wrong!)... Many girls (including Myself) prefer to test the guy before committing to him or even before going on a date with him... So she's probably playing hard to get and trying to see how far are you really willing to go for her... A lot of girls like the idea of being chased after and like to get the guy's attention and care... So keep shouwing her how interested you are in her... Eventually she will realize that you truly care about her ! :)

ClearVision · Accepted Answer

Don't start ignoring her back! Like its been said before, it is sort of a test.

A lot of girls (including me), for whatever reason, think "if I start ignoring a guy I like, if he really likes me back he will go out of his way to talk to me more."

Maybe its just a thing we do to protect ourselves for getting hurt.

Because, if the guy doesn't approach you while your "playing hard to get" then in our head it must mean- he was never interested in the first place, and we saved our self from embarrassing rejection.

musicisloveee · Accepted Answer

I don't know that's hard. I've been through a similar situation with a guy and then it kinda went no where because he seemed interested but started ignoring me, then I started ignoring him because I figured I'd play his game... and then we stopped talking completely... so in my opinion I'd try to talk to her about it and if your interested in her... Tell her.

texmachina · Accepted Answer

Why would she start ignoring you all of sudden?

There could be any number of reasons why the person you're interested in has started ignoring you. It's important to remember that everyone is different, and there is no one-size-fits-all answer to this question.

One possibility is that she is no longer interested in you. This could be for a number of reasons - she may have met someone else, she may have realised that you're not a good match for her, or she may simply be too busy to pursue a relationship. If this is the case, then it's probably best to move on. There's no point in trying to force something that isn't there.

Another possibility is that she is interested in you, but she is playing hard to get. This is a common dating strategy, and it can be effective in some cases. However, it can also backfire if you're not careful. If you think this might be the case, then you could try reaching out to her again and seeing how she responds. If she is interested, she will likely respond positively. However, if she continues to ignore you, then it's probably best to give up.

Finally, there could be a more innocent explanation. She may be busy, she may have forgotten to reply to your messages, or she may be dealing with personal problems. If this is the case, then it's worth giving her the benefit of the doubt and waiting a little while before reaching out again.

Whatever the reason, it's important to remember that you can't control someone else's behaviour. All you can do is control your own. So, if she is ignoring you, the best thing to do is to move on. There is someone out there who will appreciate you for who you are.

5Alive · Accepted Answer

I think games are a waste of time. So it's best to approach her. You got to be a detective so when you first talk to her observe her body language, see if she perks up, smiles, eyes widen, and turns her body towards you instead of her back turned to you, feel her energy, if she is warm with you or cold. Don't tell her that you like her but invite her to go out  somewhere you both can get to know each other ( coffee shop, bookstore, park etc.).  Stay away from the movies or any activities that keep you from verbal interaction. Usually the man initiates so take control of the situation. Listen to her and get a feel to see if she is the woman for you, if she is your type. Of course your attracted to her and if she is attracted to you then she will agree to go out with you. If she does not want to go out and closes other options to go out with you than I would suggest move on. If she likes you she will go out of her way to make things work. I hope this helps. I would like to know what happens.

reaper99 · Accepted Answer

My case is : We are freshmans in University and she is from my group. At the begging i really didn't though i could have like this girl, but with time i really started liking her. And everything was so good we talked all the time she even said that we have a lot in common, we laught together all the time and then suddenly she started ignoring me and i believe i didn't do anything wrong. The last day before she started ignoring me i even walked her to her home and i think i made a mistake. I said that i have work in her direction so i can walk her home. And after that day this ingorance started :( I am really bad at this i tried to show her i like her without really saying it, couse i am bad at this flirting, dating etc. I am a bit shy to tell her directly " i like you ". One more think she said i am the male version of her which i think ment we will be very good friends but nothing more, but then why she started ignoring me :(
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ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Play it by ear. If she's brushing off comments, but not particularly anything else, then perhaps it's a test. If she's going out of her way to pay attention to everyone except for you, then she probably hates you. Consider the latter a red flag. Especially if she owes you something, and is in no mood to return / repay!

If she keeps inventing ways to change the subject when you are trying to collect something she borrowed, or when she offered her time for a project and is now taking pains not to honor her agreement, and then a detective shows up at your door, you know she's a no-good no-account.

I've met a few women like that. No better than gold diggers.

TruthBringer · Answer

Yes, you ignore her. Don't allow yourself to be sucked into women's mindgames. A woman who is truly into you will move mountains to get with you. Take it from someone who has success in the dating world. Ignore her back. Focus on women who ARE interested in you. And if you don't have them, then get back out there and you'll eventually find them. Never tolerate cold-warm treatmet from anyone.

Whatever2929292 · Answer

Seems like she is either being a bitch, playing games, or lost interest. I would say move on and find someone who won't act like such a child. I can deal with immature since... Well I am kind of immature at times.

But acting like this is just... No

HopefulGuy94 · Answer

Bro , is that a ignore game? Why do you be so childish? Just let her go and do not disturb her. No one has to accept you , it is not an obligation just mind ur own business. If you not do so it will be harrasment and I think u do not want anybody to do this against the one who is a female member of your family. Just grow up , please.

MrNameless · Answer

If you really like her, you wouldn't ignore her. Ignoring/playing hard to get never works out. Make a move. Ask her out. IF she doesn't respond to that or rejects, then you move on.

But you can't say you never tried if you did. And its better to try than wallow in regret from the what ifs.

TheorionMage · Answer

Sounds like the female form of 'ghosting'.
Perhaps a dis-satisfied past companion has been 'poisoning the well'.

You know what they say: "Be nice to the people you meet on the way up,
they're the same ones you meet on your way down. They may not break your fall
but at least they won't kick you as you go by---"

Perhaps, its time to contritely ask: "have I done something that's upset you?"
It MAY NOT be YOU...

Part2603 · Answer

Wow. Way to exclude any detail for analysis. How am I supposed to work with that?
What context? Is this at school? Work? Texting? Social media?
I'd say that if you actually have established a rapport, it's quite natural for women to do a sort of cooling down tease.
Give it one day. Definitely not more than three.

Nads111 · Answer

Could be many reasons. I can think of both positive and negative reasons. You should rather ask her directly that u feel that she's becoming distant and if anything is wrong.. lots of reasons pop in my head like is she just busy , confused about her feelings, talking to someone else, has something going on in her life, lost interest? communication is key in this situation.

Anonymous · Answer

stay away from games and just confront her or be friendly...maybe she thought you're not interested so now she's giving you the cold shoulder...it could be a misunderstanding...you just have to show interest too if you like her...

definitely don't ignore her back...itll get you nowhere and games are just useless.

litty · Answer

It's not like she doesn't know you exist. And if it's texting and she forget to text you later then that's all the information you need. Either way it's not a good sign. Ignoring someone is basically saying you don't respect a person.

If I were you I'd talk with as many people on friendly terms and show her what she is missing out on, not that she matters.

Jay3344 · Answer

Not good if you want to try and continue the relationship, if your in one. Even if it sucks try and work whatever problem is going on out. If your not in a relationship with her and she’s ignoring you and you don’t want to pursue it any further than move on. My opinion

Bawaji · Answer

I met her in lift and asked her about the exam she is preparing for, and 4 days of normal greetings and now she ignoring me for no reason. I came to know about her new friend who recently joined class ( new girl and I was together in previous class 6 months ago - we never talked all she heard was rumours about me and really hate me for no reason) gave her my bad image.

What to do now? Shall I pursue her or ignore her. She is avoiding eye contact now.

SonalGan · Answer

well i haven't read ur loong story but if i feel that u should not ignore her. u can say a hi to her , go for normal talk , if something is wrong she would tell you

WinterWaves · Answer

If she is literally dying to date you she will contact you later no matter what  Dont over think it forget about her focus on your own life

Mil00 · Answer

Dont listen to them. Ignore her. If she can't speak she doesn't deserve your time.

kinggeorge007 · Answer

I would do the same. I've got a fair share of ghosters on my own. What I've learnt so far is, ghosters aren't worth the chase. Dave your time go invest it on someone actually value your time.

Slartybartfast · Answer

Sounds like she's just messing with you to get a rise. Best walk away, if she can't communicate she's not ready for a relationship anyway.

MyBlackSmile · Answer

I'd say move on. Ignore her if you want, or go up to her and talk to her about it.

sheikalana · Answer

Of course. If she’s not interested and seems to be ignoring you leave her alone.

steelRipper · Answer

It applies to both the genders… just relax and don’t react.. just be you… don’t rush. In the end you might get the same person or someone better 👍

GreatnessPersonified · Answer

TL; DR You can ask her what's up, but if she is non responsive, then give her some space. People need some personal time for their selves.

Anonymous · Answer

"She suddenly started to ignore me..." I didn't read anything more than that. Stop pursuing her. She isn't interested. Back away from her completely.

dxtvs2 · Answer

Yes, then see if she notices and if she likes you she will wonder why you are ignoring her.

Vegasrunner · Answer

Silly question. Wht would you spend one second thinking about someone who isn't thinking about you?

Adronicus · Answer

What I do is make my intentions clear; anymore games after that I start seeking another woman.

MountAverage · Answer

You're in your 30s, why do you ask a question like a 17 year old?

Juxtapose · Answer

How hot she is, is directly proportional to how into me she is.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. If you've returned interest and she's pulling back then she's "gaming" you now. If a woman is truly interested she doesn't play those games.

Jltakk · Answer

Who knows, just carry on living your best life and maybe she'll care again.

Flower7 · Answer

Yes, it would be best to move on from her.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

Yes...

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