Friends with Benefits...does it ever become more?

I don't think FWB frequently turns into a relationship, but I know people who have had that happen and the relationship is great. So, don't lose hope.

not very likely.chances are you don't like them, you just think theyre hot

In general, girls are less able to separate their feelings from sex, and will ultimately be drawn in by the relationhip, even if there were no feelings originally.

In general, guys have little or no connecion in their minds between sex and love, and unless there are pre-existing feelings, they are unlikely to develop.

So in general, the guy and the girl have fun romping around, but when the guy finds someone, he leaves the girl and benefits behind without a second thought, while the girl feels abandoned and betrayed.

Though these are all generalizations and either men or women could go either way, I still caution women against FWB relationships to void undue distress.

Me and this guy became FWB because he wanted to be single so he could flirt with other girls. We both liked each other but we both agreed just to be friends with benefits cause it made it less complicated. I really wanted to be in a relationship with him, after a week of being FWB he told me he didn't want to be with anyone but me. So me and him are together now.

Ah Friends with benefits previously known as %&^$ Friends.Yes I have had this kind of relationship with a friend.it actually lasted nearly four years! Ah very dysfunctional indeed. We were friends that would occassionally have the urge and do the 'whole' so dya wanna? This did not turn out well in the end.wasted years.he was my best friend.not wanting to commit but not wanting anyone else to have me either.so we just kept going as we were in the end very good friends. I did miss out though on a 'real' relationship and anyone else that was interested in me kept away because 'he' was always around.

I don't really suggest this kind of 'friendship' as it's impossible to remain objective no matter how hard you try. Just creates a lot of confusion mentally and physically either for one of you or both.if you truly are attracted to your friend .which you have to be to have a FWB.then don't delude yourself! You either like someone or you don't !

Now I have learned.there is always a 'definate' line between my male 'friends' and 'other'.
Good luck and I hope this helps :o)

After the end of a long-term relationship I hooked up with someone I had dated 10 years earlier. We had always remained friends, and it was clear we were still attracted to each other. Neither one of us were ready to jump into another relationship (his had just ended as well), but we were both looking for. how do you say. a little consoling? :)

We discussed boundaries ahead of time so that we minimized the chance of one or both of us getting too hurt. This included being honest with our feelings, so if either of us were starting to feel something stronger, we should say that. And we did. And it wasn't me.

In total it only lasted 6 weeks, but it was really nice for that period of time. We both were there for each other as friends first, hanging out watching movies and cooking dinner, and lovers second.

It can be done - but you have to be really considerate of each other's feelings if you want to do it without breaking someone's heart.

It's a toughie - good luck!

i honestly don't think guys ar e into being in a relationship with someone they consider an FWB.

GIRL I'm in the same situation ur in, I want to have a relationship with my FWB soooooooo bad, but I don't know how he feels or if he even likes me as more, I need to tell him but I'm scared of losing him, the best thing you can do is tell him

I can't answer the part of it becoming more but I'm in a situation where I guess FWB is the best way to describe it, but I often feel like we act more like a couple. We talk almost every day and see each other almost as much, he'll text me asking how my day is and we'll end up on the phone for hours. However he got out of a bad relationship and is still dealing with drama involving his ex and I'm not sure how long I'm staying in the town we live in. So neither of us are looking for a serious relationship from one another. Yet I know that I can't have sex and not be attached so I know in the end that I'm only going to end up hurting, but I like him and I like the sex so for right now I'm continuing it.

I think it would be easier if we didn't act like a couple all the time anyway to look at it as just sex.

I'm a girl and my FWB has mentioned a few times how he would date me, but there's too many complications involved. He says it would be awkward and difficult and then he'll bring up how he wishes I would hurry up and turn 18 so it'd make things easier, but because I'm not sure how serious he was or is, I just have told him a few times that I wouldn't want to be more with him and I leave hints that all I want is a FWB out of him.

All in all, I really do have a lot of feelings for him. I deny it just because I know I deserve better than what he is. I know that sounds bad, but he isn't going too far in his life. That's mean to say because I know he tries, but it's true. and I don't think he could ever give me the love that I'm looking for and I don't want to ruin what we have by letting him know I have feelings for him. I really don't believe that we could turn into a serious relationship after just being FWB for almost 2 years now. Every time we've hung out, we've hooked up (not necessarily meaning sex, but you know.) I don't know if he has feelings for me back because I don't know if he's just saying that to keep me around or just how serious he is about that.

This isn't just in my situation, I think probably 98% of FWB relationships don't turn into anything more serious, and if they do, they don't work out. I think almost always the girl gets very attached and the boy doesn't. Most girls only have sex with a guy when they are attached or they become attaches after having sex. For some reason this isn't the same for the guys. Guys CAN have sex without attachment. I think girls are just walking down a path to get left behind in these situations.

Been there done that. Not for me, didn't work out. Now there is no friendship and no sex, sucks all the way around. Feelings developed on both ends, but for some reason it did not work out, maybe because it didn't start off right? Who knows, good luck!

In my opinion FWB never turn into anything more than that. Been in the situation before were I had feelings for him and I thought he had feelings for me but he went out and met someone else to have a relationship with and I couldn't do nothing about it. I really wanted more from him but looking back now it never would have happened. People end up getting hurt if feelings are involved so best not having a FWB unless there is no feelings involved

Girls: Have you ever had a FWB become more? What happened?

What happened was that I was stuck in a 6 1/2 year FWB relationship where I developed feelings but he didn't. However, he did love being my best friend and hanging out with me all the time. I would spend the night, hang out with his 2 kids, met his mother, listened to all his hard days and hard times. We dated for 7 months officially but then a comment on my myspace from a friend that was a joking around set him off and we went back to FWB. I loved him for 6 1/2 years but he didn't love me back. It was pretty painful. I finally got the self love and the self worth to walk away. He is now dating a 22 year old (he's 38) officially and very smitten about her. I am now happily engaged to my best friend of 4 years. It's funny how life works.

Im actually a FWB right now and I don't have feelings for the guy. But he does and he hopes that our relationship will turn into something more, but I doubt it. Since he's not really the boyfriend type and he knows where I stand in this relationship.