Let's not minces words. Your boyfriend attempted to rape you. The only reason he did not rape you is because his brother heard you scream. And you're asking should you give him another chance? Don't let this rapist scum manipulate you into thinking that men have their needs and that they need to rape a girl if she is not willing. You can do better than that, there are plenty of guys you can date that will not attempt to rape you. This guy should be in jail since he thinks there is nothing wrong with forced sex. Hell no you should not give him another chance. You really should report this, or at the very least TELL YOUR PARENTS
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If that incident was the end of it, I would think maybe he just got a little too excited.
But for him to tell you afterward that he has "needs" and insist that it's YOUR thinking that needs to change, makes me think that he's an a**hole. He can control his desires, it's not your job to do anything for him that you're not comfortable with.
I'm just glad his brother walked in. I agree you should probably just leave this dude.
dump him and never see him again he has no resepct for you or your relashionship he is an a**hole and it was a good thing your screamed and that his brother came to see what was going on or else he could of raped you when a girl says no she means no and so do you get a man who understands the word no and who cares and loves you and respects you and your relashionship
Well if I look from his point of view, he must be thinking what a chicken you are to be too afraid to go for the 'next step'. but again you aren't.
Look, to be very analytical, A guy's brain does NOT work when he's getting physical. Its like out of equation! So what you can do is, call him up, say you are sorry for that night and that you do understand his needs. It will make him feel guilty, he will 'Realise' that a girl also has her needs and certain boundaries.. If played well, he won't ever kick off until you give the green signal.
Do the unexpected to see the unexpected!
Good luck!
He's a guy and he has needs? That's bullsh*t! What about your needs to not be touched against your will, or to feel like you can trust your boyfriend not to take advantage of you when you are sleeping.
To me this is grounds for breakup. No question about it.
The only way I would consider staying in this relationship, is if he truly understand how wrong what he did way, and was truly remorseful for it.
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he probably figured that sleeping over at his house would be the deal clincher.
he's probably really attracted to you, and as guys, that's what we're gonna try to do with our gf's when they sleep over at our houses.
have you guys done it before? if yes then say no, and your relationship should still be fine
if you haven't done if before, he may just really want to do it, it doesn't mean he doesn't like you, but we're guys, we don't usually look for the same kind of emotional attachment before sex that girls may look for. that doesn't mean it isn't there though. he just wants to take that step with you.
if your not ready to do it, don't do it. and tell him that. But if you don't talk to him about it and then keep sleeping over at his house, he's gonna think your a cocktease or somethingno way you should give him a chance.
this is rape.I don't buy the "he has his needs" thing. That sounds like you trying to justify what could have turned out to be rape. I say boot him.
End it with him. Now. He sounds controlling, and if he's like this now, who knows what he could potentially do to you in the future? He could easily become violent. For your own safety, leave him. No guy's "needs" should come before a girl's pleas.
Wtf he has his needs? No food and water are needs not sex..imagine what couldve happened had his brother not came in the room. IMO he doesn't deserve another chance.
break up with him and make it clear why so he doesn't overstep the mark with his next girlfriend. A man who does not respect your boundaries must have it spelt out to him or he will not learn anything from the lesson. You shouldn't have stayed over at his house if you had no intention of doing anything too sexual and that is your lesson - not to say he was right but know that yes, men do indeed have their needs and they are too often not in-sync with ours.
"give him another chance or break up?" o.0 are you serious?!?! this guy tried raping you and you have to think about it?! if he already tried once, he'll try again..when NO ONE is around to stop him!
I don't know, honey. That is pretty scary... If you think this will continue despite your protests I would break up with him. If he can't respect your decisions now, he never will.
Make it clear to him where your limits are.
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