Hi guys. Recently had a breakup and assessing my bf’s past behavior.
When we started dating he was the most handsome man I’d ever met, seemed perfect on paper.
However, when we’d hang out it just seemed kind of awkward. We’d just kind of sit around and I’d watch him do his projects, he wouldn’t kiss me or anything, we didn’t really laugh, etc. It was fine just kind of platonic?
When I texted him, I tried to be energetic sometimes, I’d text him a funny article at the end of the day or a link to his work, or text him a short paragraph all excited about my day. He’d just respond with “oh, very cool!”. Then just usually talk about his projects.
I got him gifts from my trips sometimes or would make/get stuff for him and he’d just be like “oh, very cool, thanks!” and nothing else. And I was just kind of hurt bc he didn’t seem excited as I was, etc?
I have NO idea why but it just seemed awkward to be around. We’d go to coffee shops, hang with his friends, and I REALLY tried a lot, but he just never seemed to be same energy? So I stayed quiet a lot. Like it was just awkward, like everything was perfect on paper, we are both attractive people & I REALLY wanted to make it work, he just never showed me much affection/emotion so it felt awkward? Made me really nervous around him and insecure. So I felt pretty lonely and misunderstood the whole time.
I guess if you have to force chemistry it doesn’t work? Y’all I don’t know, he was perfect, I don’t know what I could’ve done wrong. We could just never really get closer and dated for almost 8 months! I’m at a loss.
When we started dating he was the most handsome man I’d ever met, seemed perfect on paper.
However, when we’d hang out it just seemed kind of awkward. We’d just kind of sit around and I’d watch him do his projects, he wouldn’t kiss me or anything, we didn’t really laugh, etc. It was fine just kind of platonic?
When I texted him, I tried to be energetic sometimes, I’d text him a funny article at the end of the day or a link to his work, or text him a short paragraph all excited about my day. He’d just respond with “oh, very cool!”. Then just usually talk about his projects.
I got him gifts from my trips sometimes or would make/get stuff for him and he’d just be like “oh, very cool, thanks!” and nothing else. And I was just kind of hurt bc he didn’t seem excited as I was, etc?
I have NO idea why but it just seemed awkward to be around. We’d go to coffee shops, hang with his friends, and I REALLY tried a lot, but he just never seemed to be same energy? So I stayed quiet a lot. Like it was just awkward, like everything was perfect on paper, we are both attractive people & I REALLY wanted to make it work, he just never showed me much affection/emotion so it felt awkward? Made me really nervous around him and insecure. So I felt pretty lonely and misunderstood the whole time.
I guess if you have to force chemistry it doesn’t work? Y’all I don’t know, he was perfect, I don’t know what I could’ve done wrong. We could just never really get closer and dated for almost 8 months! I’m at a loss.
