I Like Her, Now What?

Whether the girl that we are interested in is at our school or working at the same company, there just never seems to be the right way to ask them out. It could be that they are always talking to someone else, or that they don't sit next to us, or that work just keeps them way too busy to talk. Honestly though, there are always more chances to ask out your interest than you may realize. All of the reason that you think you can't are usually just in your head.

Really, the main problem, and unfortunately the hardest to overcome, is our own fear. It is very scary to ask out a girl that you are interested in, and since most of us are so scared about actually asking, we come up with excuses as to why we can't, so we don't have to. I believe that a lot of this fear comes from thinking that asking a girl out is much bigger of a deal than it really is.

Trust me, when you do ask her out, the world will not stop spinning, the sky will not fall, and she will not turn into a big bug and eat you (well, actually that last one can happen, but only in certain parts of the rain forest). All that you are doing is asking someone if they would like to hang out some time.

Just like you got to know your other friends, you can do the same to get to know her. I know this is scary, so here is a little step by step. "Hi, my name is . What is your name?" "So what kinds of things do you like to do?" The whole point is to get HER to talk.

You want to find out things about her, and once you know some things that she is into, invite her out. If she is into fish and sea life, go to your local aquarium, or if she likes movies (this one should be easy), take her to a movie. Remember, all that you are doing when you ask her out is giving yourself a chance to get to know her, thats it.

Some of you might even ask what you should do if when you start to talk to her for the first time, she asks you why you are talking to her. Be honest. Tell her that you wanted to get to know her, and thought it might be fun to hang out some time. If you are too intimidated to ask her out on a one on one date, simply start talking to her and let her know that you are getting together with some friends and wanted to know if she (and possibly her friends too) would like to come.

I wish I could give everyone a secret code word that would allow you to get a date with any girl that you said it to (trust me, I have been looking). Unfortunately, the only way to ask a girl out is still the old fashioned way of just asking. The best pick up advice that I can give though is to just stop worrying about the end result and focus on talking to and getting to know her.