When guys want to be left alone, then do just that. However, for a few weeks, that's pretty selfish. I'd say maybe for a day or two, but it sounds like he has some serious issues he's dealing with alone.
The next time he's calm or just getting over his "retreat" simply ask him what he wants you to do. When I want to be left alone, I like a quiet house, but appreciate when someone is there to help me. It's kind of selfish, but having someone there to support me is just awesome.
I think he'll gradually reduce his cave time once he realizes how much he cares about you and how much you care about him. It is extremely trying to be with someone when they're at their worst, but they are that much more grateful when the reflection time has passed.
Oh, yeah, and I'm an Aquarius, too, so I can understand why you care so much about him and not wanting to affect him.
It's go time for the Age of Aquarius!
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his cave...hmm, does he have a room? why is he so negative to you during that time?
whats the root of the issue I guess I'm trying to get at...
i wouldn't change much, but try and kind of stay out of his way when he seems in a grumpy mood...
or as I always do with my gf's when its that time of month...KILL WITH KINDNESS - it always works, well makes them feel bad about being a bitch...
just be there for him when he needs you and ask him how his day was...if he's going to be a d*** about it maybe you want to re-evaluate your relationship, because sweetheart, this shouldn't be teh case all the time - you're his girl he should be going to you when things are sour in his life
hope this helps! GL :)
Do your own thing. I've noticed that some guys like their female to be near them, but not actually talking to them. Read a book if he's watching TV or do a hobby in the next room. Make a meal and eat it outside, talking about the surroundings instead of life issues. Etc.
Everyone needs their space & alone time. But weeks? nonono! That's weird. And it's selfish. And it's probably a mental health issue. When he says he wants you to leave him alone...I'll bet he still wants you to cook for him, right? Sex? wash his clothes? Hmmm?
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Okay I don't want to get astrological in here but is he a Pisces? We do this from time to time it's normal. Just give him some space and he'll be grateful. Don't leave the house a lot because of this! He likes you there. Just let him do his thing whatever that is. He'll come out when he's bored of himself. haha.
I think he might be bipolar.
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