I want to break up but he is too handsome?

Question

He is not good boyfriend, so I want to break up.

I had problems with him like for example, bad communication, he isn't a person I can talk about my problems.

He isn't romantic, he won't do anything special for me, so life with him is boring,

I really want to break up with him, but then when I see him ( and he is absolutely amazing handsome, ) and when I think about sex with him, his kisses - I can't do it.

I'm hurt because he is bad boyfriend, but I won't break up because he is good looking and I love sex with him too much.

I don't know what to do in such situation?

JSmuve · Accepted Answer

Great sex and good looks are replaceable...unless you don't think you're attractive enough to replace him (that's the issue, isn't it? post pics so we can tell you). So you're holding on knowing full-well that he's not providing you with the emotional crap that your feminine bits tell you that you want. Which means that you value his looks and sex over your emotional needs (what are you, a guy?). However, homeboy is probably just using you as a place to park his d***. Sorry sugart*ts but it's true. He's probably got another squeeze on the side too.

The way I see it is you can hit him in the face with a frying pan. That way he'll be ugly and you won't feel bad about breaking up with him. Nay! You'll feel compelled to, because that's just how you superficial girls roll nowadays, isn't it?

OR...you can suggest down-grading your 'relationship' to a friends-with-benefits, which it clearly is right now.

OR...you can get some self-respect (wait, what's that?) and dump his ass. But we both know you're not going to do that because he gives great d***.

OR...you can cut off his d*** so that you can now break up with him because he's of no use to you anymore.

Listen – you need to evaluate what you want. Do you want to get rammed up the ass by a good looking guy who doesn't care about you and probably is doing the same to another girl, or do you want to be with someone who cares about your wants and needs? Ideally it's probably that you want to get rammed by a good looking guy who does care about your wants and needs, but one step at a time. It's probably this third option, which means that you need to break up with your boyfriend or downgrade to a fwb, so you can find your sexually-gifted handsome man who will ram your feminine bits hard with romance and rainbows. But if you don't think you're attractive enough to pull off this little mission, then that's a whole other ballgame, isn't it.

redbull87 · Accepted Answer

be strong.. take control of your emotions and your weakness to his charm and walk away if you are looking for more. Or better yet just tell him instead of thinking about it all inside your head all the time. Let him know that you want more and you're ready to walk away if he doesn't feel the same way. And then be ready for either outcome, cause there are more guys out there who are good at sex.. it happens to be the number one drive in all males, to have sex and there's no bigger turn on than making a girl horny and doing her really hard!

RedSmartie · Accepted Answer

Come on, girl! You're making the rest of us look bad here!

But seriously, this reminds me of a situation I was in once. The guy was a terrible boyfriend but every time I told myself to break up with him, he would tell me how great it is that he has me in his life and make me feel all guilty and stuff. It made it really hard for me to break it off. You really have to do it quickly. Tear it off like a band-aid. The next time you see him, break it off instantly. Don't get into a long conversation first. Just jump straight into the break up talk. It's the only way.

liltabbixxo · Accepted Answer

Maybe try talking to the guy and letting him know these things (don't necessarily call him out as a bad boyfriend, but you get the point). See if maybe he will make more attempts to take you out/be more romantic, maybe he just doesn't notice this or really even know he is being that bad of a boyfriend. Some couples seem to settle after X amount of time of dating...was he like this before/the start of the relationship? If not, consider breaking it off. Sure, he could be a looker but there are better qualities out there and the cliche saying of "more fish in the sea."

AnnieVincereVelMori · Accepted Answer

All the guys bitching at you can't honestly say they wouldn't be in the same situation with a SUPER hot girl.

Unfortunately, if you can't break it off with him, you'll be stuck staying with someone who may blow your mind in bed, but leave you wanting more in every other area.

You could perhaps talk to him about all these issues, and either:

a) you two can work on your relationship

or b) he will break up with you.

As with most situations, communication is key. It's his choice to stay with you or leave.

Best of luck!

madhatters4 · Answer

i just have to agree with everyone else. You obviously should break up with him. And if you don't I'm sorry but this does kind of make you shallow.

It's hard to leave something familiar even if what is familiar isn't particularly great. But if the only reason to stay is physical and sexual attraction than you you're not doing either of you any good staying in the relationship... heck you can find attractive guys who are willing to have sex with you on just about every street in America.

Talk to him and work through the problems or leave him. But you're not going to garner much sympathy staying in the relatinship because of superficial reasons like physical attractiveness or satisfying a basic sexual need.

stubbsy · Answer

stop being so shallow and think of your own deserves, ask yourself, "does looks mean that much that your willing to throw away the possibility of finding someone just as pretty but twice as nice" your choice, but you really need to remove the shallow thoughts, or your going to end up very lonely,x

LoveIsChaos · Answer

Have you tried talking to him about these things first before you try and leave? If not then you're bad at communicating too. If you don't actualy like him and you tried to work it out you should realize things won't progress anywhere and you're just wasting each others time using him. If that's what you plan on doing is staying then you're a bad girlfriend.

artfullyliving · Answer

Then you are overcome by a superficial thing. You aren't very great chemistry together huh? Well, then what's the big deal. Its all the same under the skin.

Sex is an opiate. Don't let your life be ruined by such basic escapes. There is more to people than looks alone.

Jaden69 · Answer

That's kind of my situation but instead it's this girl that is really attractive but has a horrible personality. Maybe you're just that kind of person that considers looks over personality. Of course that's a bad choice in the long term but have fun while you can.

Anonymous · Answer

frankly I'm wondering why he's still with you. If you say life with him is boring then it means you're boring too sorry. It means you;re sitting on your ass all day waiting for things to fall in your lap.  If he's not romantic with you it just means he's not that into you, fairly simple.

TheCheekyQuill · Answer

Think of it this way. When your both old and his "good looks" have vanished, would you rather be with someone who makes you happy or someone who makes you think "Well, at least he was really hot back in the day..."

So, yeah, put him behind you and find someone else.

3boys4me · Answer

Yeah you're superficial as hell girl. If you stay w him just cause he's so "handsome" then you deserve everything you get. You need to grow the hell up and have some different standards or you're just gonna be doomed in every relationship you are in.

Anonymous · Answer

It is really up to you and what you prioritize. If you just want to have a good looking guy to have sex with then keep him. If you want someone romantic who can talk with you about your problem is you can find other good looking guy who can have sex with you and talk to you about your problems.

Shooter-McGavin · Answer

Stay with him. He's not any different than he was when you got with him, what's the problem?

Nice guys who do things for you are boring to you. You'd blow your brains out in a relationship with a guy that treated you well.

He's a great looking guy, good in bed. Everything you want. I say keep him.

temptationfalls · Answer

You're so jaded and superficial. If having a good looking boyfriend that you hate is more important to you than emotional happiness then go for it.

TheUglyOne · Answer

Well, you have two choices, grow a backbone and once and for all breakup with him. Or, just enjoy the kisses and sex, and hate every other aspect of your life. That's all there really is to it.

kawasakiinvader · Answer

Theres' other fish in the sea. Don't be stuck with somebody that doesn't see you like you see them. Evidentally he's not that into you. Move on and get somebody that will treat you like you deserve to be treated. He's not worth it.

Konnour · Answer

Continue to suffer. Zero willpower equals zero results.

Dionysos · Answer

Decide what's more important to you, sex and kisses or a relationship where both people give.

HandsomeRaj · Answer

You want to break up right but does he want to too? If he does change it to a FWB which will suit both your purposes.

Prof_Don · Answer

You know exactly what to do in this sitiation. Are you concerned about not being able to find another bf?

crazybastard · Answer

dont let you p**** decide for you. I never thought I'd say this.

Anonymous · Answer

I am too scared to give you any opinions/comments/answers for fear that you would be offended and call me rude, based on your rude and shallow replies to some of the GAG  answers given below.

honeyltsme · Answer

You should tell him that he is God before other girls do it.

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