Why is that everyone wants to date you when you are the least interested in it?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

So, I have a weird question as always haha,

when I was recovering from my break up, I didn’t really feel that much attention as now.

Now that I have fun all the time, I don’t know how men sense that haha, lots of interesting men appeared in my life, making it hard to choose one. It’s like most of them are quality men, handsome and all.

Is there something screaming about me that I’ve moved on or what made so many men interested after I moved on?

I always had men wanting to date, but it’s been too much attention lately. It’s getting overwhelming and really hard to choose.

[dynamicyandere]

When you are shining your brightest and you’re your happiest and full of enthusiasm for life and just dancing to the beat of your own song, everyone becomes more drawn to you.


It’s like you create this field of magnetism and charisma around you.


The same happened to me during my first year in college, getting straight A’s, getting in the best shape of my life, having fun, being surrounded by a ton of friends, and being completely happy and single.


During that time, I’ve never had more people crush on me.


I was shining my brightest, carefree, and with a passion for life.


When you exude that kind of energy and vibrancy, that’s when you’re the most attractive to other people.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

I think it's something that happens to everyone. The moment you are not interested in dating, it's like you give a vibe that attracted the opposite gender.

It happened to me during a period of depression - I almost had a different girl texting and trying to meet up every day. Eventually I agreed with one, and now we're married.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yeah, I’ve not been single after 22, so It’s like my first time after that age to feel that overwhelming attention. I broke up 7 months ago and for 5 months I was a shell of myself left. Now I finally got back on my feet and it’s getting crazy.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

I understand.
I'd say it's nice that you keep time for yourself.

[Guy13]

Yes and that happens to all people. You are also encouraging them with your happy and I’m over him demeanor.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yep, but why do I want them now? I feel perfect being on my own.

[Guy13]

Yeah right, you are an emotional roller coaster... That's the best time when you are not needy and settled in the Past. Make sure they are too...

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

And wouldn’t it be silly of me to date and get on the roller coaster again?

When I finally found some peace of mind

[Guy13]

Yeah right... And soon as they all disappear have given up comes, "I can't believe no one likes me... blew those opportunities... what's wrong with me"

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Why would they disappear?

[Guy13]

If we are not going to get what we need or want then we are going elsewhere to get it IF we are the kind of guy you would ultimately respect and date. Woman's approval is before vagina entry...

[coachTanthony]

When a woman is enjoying her life and having fun it shows so that is attractive to most men.

[Grond21]

Oh, I am sure it is extremely obvious to men that you are enjoying life. Like a glaring Neon sign.

After all, one of the biggest attractors from men to women is the feminine enjoyment and celebration of life. When a woman is confident in herself, happy and feeling free to live life well, it's intensely magnetic. We can be very structured and rigorous, but that feminine joy and love of life bring something to the table that we do not innately have. And therefore is highly attractive.

If you are feeling that way, then I am sure it is abundantly clear to anyone who spends more than a couple minutes around you

[mathew1543]

I have no idea! Thar happens with me too. And I'm like "where are you all when I'm looking for a relationship?" Haha

[mathew1543]

Can you dm me? I wanna ask something?

[exitseven]

I don't know but very soon after I was married I was asked out by 3 or 4 girls.

[Still-alive]

You probably just give off fun happy vibes. A lot of guys like that in women.

[Anonymous]

It's just the rules of the universe. Men or women typically want what they can't have.

[eagle1951]

they want what they can't have