so you want to be with this narcassistic girl because you love her and you want to help her. true narcissits don't want your help.often every time you get close to helping her or getting to the root of the problem it blows up in your face and your back to the same problem. its a cycle that will never change. until she changes and she can't change until she acknowledges she has a problem. and the problem with narcissists is they don't think or see they have a problem.
they don't want your unconditional love which you keep ennforcing on them. because that means openness, honesty, facing difficult emotions which they refute and refuse to deal with as if its a disease to be avoided at all costs.
because narcissists cannot connect with themselves on a deeper level they can not love themselves truly and therefore cannot offer anyone else love. they are not capable of it. the most love a narcissist feels is in the infatuation stage. they often go into a state of euphoria where they have all these hopes and dreams tied to this person they see as amazing. but when that wheres off you are seen to them as useless. you will constantly be on a rollercoster ride with this person. they do not love you. you need to move on. you can not be in a healthy relationship with someone who does not love you. as much as yuo think they do. if she is a narcissist she does not. it will ruin your mental health and even physical. you need to let go. until she decides to seek counselling and help there is nthing you can do.
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Why would you want someone like that back? No seriously, why? If she's narcissistic, chances are she won't be able to change. Ever. It won't be worth it in the long run. If you ever get back together again, she'll just hurt you even more and more. You shouldn't have to take that. And yes, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Just because you don't want someone new YET, it doesn't mean that you won't want to ever. You're in the middle of the breakup process, where you SHOULD stay single and where you SHOULD feel like you don't want to meet anyone new for a while. It's perfectly normal to feel that way. However, the damaging part is thinking that you'll never want anyone else, that you'll never get over her and that the only thing you want to do is get back together. So try to refrain from thinking that. It's the only thing that's keeping you from moving on entirely at this point. She's not worth it, and yes, there are plenty of other girls out there who are. Just give yourself some time to move on. Breakups happen for a reason, and sometimes it takes a long time to get over them completely. There's nothing wrong with that. The only thing that can go wrong is you deliberately trying to keep yourself from moving on by trying to tell yourself that you still want her.
You need to be more narcissistic and more evil than her.
You gotta make her panic.
First beg for a second then totally shut off your feelings for her. Find a replacement for temporary and pretend why you ever would be with that narcissistic girl to begin with.
You will either have feelings for her secretly as she comes chasing after you, or you can have the new girl that you planned for the rebound and be actually in disgust over the last narcissistic girl and wonder why you would ever want to get back with her in the first place.
Whatever you do, keep your dignity and respect for yourself
Dude, I had a girl like that. They never change. Why would you want someone so full of herself? Look she doesn't care for you the way you think, that's why she was able to move on so fast. She just needs someone to validate her and make her feel good. Maybe the new guy doesn't care for her the way you did and she's missing the way you made her feel. Being in an 11 month relationship doesn't matter to girls like that. They'll keep you around for as long as they can. Heck, my friend was strung along for 3 years before she dumped his ass. Do yourself a favor, move on and never look back.
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Ur wasteing your time with this child.
First off, she was probably talking to him while she was with you. That's why she had him the next day after you guys broke up. And he probably knew about you, and didn't care. (hes a real low life loser)
But you have to see the light. She left you for worse.
Shes probably calling you now, cause he's not giving her attention anymore. Or they got into an argument or something.
Honestly, if she's been ringing off your phone, and your not answering, your the one that's messing up, cause she's gonna stop one day, and your gonna be like dam why didn't I answer.
If your not answering to make her feel bad, okay once or twice is okay, but not all the time. Next time she calls if you actually want her, you won't get mad, and you'll answer the phone nicely, not like a smartass.
And if your calling her bad names on here, then the relationship clearly isn't that good to keep.
I would move on. You will find better.You cannot change or help a narcissistic person. I dated one for a year and six months. They will promise you things will be different but the minute you take them back they will go back to their old ways. She will never own up to her mistakes and will continue to put the blame on you. Trust me you don’t want to continue with a narcissistic person. You think she is missing you but they’re just putting on a show. All my friends and family told me about my girl that I was too dumb to believe or see. They were all right. It’s hard at first but it will get better. The choice is yours man.
"f***ing her head up makes me kind of happy"
You sure she's the only narcissistic one here? Inflicting pain on someone to teach them a lesson and enjoying it isn't normal.
That being said, family and wanting to be the white knight and "helping" someone are horrible reasons to go back to a relationship with a toxic person. If she is indeed narcissistic, you are going in for a round of punishment, as narcissistic people can be the worst partners, especially to codependents who cater to their every "need" in an effort to keep them and feel valued/needed.
I recommend lots of therapy and staying single for a while.Dude, I think I know what your problem is... It's the sex thing your missing. And just the idea of her. I been there belive me. Focusing your life on ONE person who by the way does not feel the same about you is a waste. Forget about her. Lots of great girls out there, go meet them
you can never change people. things didn't work out the first time for a reason. it is possible to fall in love again and feel just as loved in return. there are plenty of fish in the sea.
I think that she shouldn't come back to you if you see her in a negative perspective by calling her narcissistic and it would be a bad thing to try and break a realtionship up.
why would you want to get back with a narcissistic girlfriend?
Youy shouldn't get back with an ex. You broke up because something's not right
If you want her back, call her back and talk it over.
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Um, here's a better question: Why?
are you a submissive boyfriend?
lol, why would you want to?
get somebody better
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