5 Reasons Why I Don't Care If a Guy Lives With His Parents

Men everywhere seem to believe that their possessions and how much money they have/earn is what attracts women and keeps them. Although this is true for a minority of women, the majority of women look for enjoyable personality traits and they're looking for someone to love and for someone to love them equally.


The men who believe that all women are materialistic often are embarrassed to admit that they live with their parents and/or think a woman will not want to date them because they still live with their parents. I feel that this shouldn't be the case so men, have no fear. I wanted to share with you that there are many women who do not care and to back this up, I'm sharing some reasons behind it.

5 Reasons Why I Don't Care If a Guy Lives With His Parents

1. Get to develop a relationship with parents

If you move out with someone straight away and live in their own house, you would rarely, if ever see their parents. Having a good relationship with his parents always helps so if my partner lives with their parents, it's easier and quicker for me to establish a relationship with them. It's also cute when they bring out the baby photos!

2. It's difficult to move out alone

As a 21 year old that also lives with her parents, I know how hard it is to get on the property ladder. It's even harder if you don't want to rent. Nowadays, it's not a shock for 30 year olds to buy their first house. I'm not going to expect the guy I date to have all his life goals completed and be totally stable with a house! It takes hard work, time and money.

3. Not materialistic

Anyone who knows me here know that I feel strongly about genuine equality (not that feminist stuff with double standards) and I have no interest in what a guy owns (unless he has a next gen console, then we'll be playing on that for some time!). Materialism isn't in my DNA. I've dated guys who live with their parents, are jobless and have no car. It's about love not their possessions.

4. Disposable income

If neither of us are paying high rent for a place, as well as all the bills, we both save money which can be used (equally) for days out together, creating memories, before taking the plunge and saving for a place.

5. Dating him for who he is

The guy will know you're dating him for who he is if you date him before he's moved out. Part of being in a relationship is being supportive and often encouraging them when they're way behind achieving their goals. When he eventually achieves them, he will look back and remember that she was there before he became successful.


There are downsides for a partner to still be living with their parents but personally, they don't bother me. You can still have a loving, passionate and intimate relationship with someone who lives with their parents.

Guys, don't be embarrassed or ashamed about living with your parents. A woman can and will still love you for who you are, which is what love is all about!


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  • This is a good take because real data support the idea of staying in your parents house longer.

    Wages have been stagnant since 89 with male median wage going up at 0.4%. Housing prices in cities almost doubled and even tripled. All this are inflation adjusted. Also, if you don't have a degree then your wage fell to 80% of what your parents made.

    Cell phone bills and Internet bills are the new costs of living you have to pay while your parents didn't.

    So you make the same amount of wage as you parents while you have to pay more for your house and there is a $100ish cut in your monthly income because of the new stuff you need like cell phones and Internet. You also have to pay for a 30kish college degree debt. I am surprised that people can still get out of their parents house!

    I once met a guy who lives with his parents. He has no house and no car and he is a professional in his early 30s. What's special about him is that he has no debt at all. He paid all his college debt and has 60k invested. He wouldn't be able to do all that if he lived alone in a rented place and he wouldn't be able to borrow enough for a tiny house in the city he work.

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  • Very true, and applies to women as well. I'm lucky enough to have dated both women who live on their own, and women who live with their parents. I preferred the latter. Not trying to steal the thunder, but here's why I prefer dating women who live with their parents, and intend on moving out when they are established.

    1) Tend to be more goal oriented: Most of them were seeking higher education, and knew they couldn't afford it if they were to focus on paying rent.

    2) Family time: It's easier to plan family days when you're constantly around the family. More importantly, the family gets to know you a lot better, and often are eager to have you over.

    3) Disposable income: Pretty much covered in your post. First girl I dated had a full time job, but had to pay rent, utilities, etc. She could never afford to go out. My last girlfriend lived with her parents. We could both afford to go out, and still managed to save money.

    4) Can be more enjoyable: Let's face it, things can get boring when you've spent months alone with a person. It's always nice to have her parents around to make suggestions, get conversations started, etc.

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    • I agree. I also feel I can trust a guy much better wrenches close and open with his family.

  • Not such a bad thing from graduating high school to your later twenties while your getting your education and working your way up in your career field. It’s tough out there and everything is expensive, true enough, but you gotta make the move sometime.. Once you turn 30 at the latest, you should have your shit together and enough money saved up by then to move out and get a place of your own. It’s gonna get old being a grown man or woman and not having your own privacy and hoping mom and dad will be out for the evening so you and your significant other can have some alone time, not to mention the nagging and complaining that mom and dad will inevitably do. It will take its toll on a relationship, you need have your own place and things.

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    • It's cultural. Many plAces it's normal for extended families to live together. Many people don't have the option. Houses are a huge waste of valuable resource.

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    • It's the norm in many. Cultures. Living at home means more responsibilities not fewer. I don't know if you're from the United States but if so that could help explain why you're having diffculty wrapping your head around how other people live... Americans tend to be solipsistic. :)

    • @Azara Yes I am an American from a small Texas town. Where are you from then?

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  • I kinda feel sorry for the younger generation in the sense that a lot of the good paying jobs are still taken up by the older crowd which forces them to take a lower paying job and have to live at home.

    It is sad to see the younger generation taking University and College and have to take a job flipping burgers for years until something comes along. It is unfortunate because the cost of living does not seem to reflect the lack of high end jobs that are out there anymore.

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    • It sucks, I come home from college, and all the older people have taken the entrance level jobs like sales associate or waitress. It's competitive because I have a few summers under my belt and some people have 10 years.

    • @vishna That does suck! I know I have been steering my daughter to work towards a self employed type situation rather than rely on being provided a job when she finishes college or university.

    • That's a really smart move. Honestly, graduate school/college is only really worth it for a few people it seems.

  • Not a bad Take. Our mom never pressured us to move out because of how hard it is in these times to live on your own, and she even welcomes us to still live with her anytime we want or need.

    However, you're incorrect with these statements: "Men everywhere seem to believe that their possessions and how much money they have/earn is what attracts women and keeps them... The men who believe that all women are materialistic often are embarrassed to admit that they live with their parents and/or think a woman will not want to date them because they still live with their parents."
    - Men think that for a reason. Women often do seek men with money and status. And a man can/will still think women are materialistic even if he DOES have his own place and not living with his parents. You don't have to still live at home to know that more than just a few women are focused on possessions and money.

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  • Ya I think living at home if u live in NYC/SF and living at home in Dallas/Charlotte are two different things, it's so expensive in some if the major cities

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    • Long Island NY is expensive, I still live at home but girls seem to want guys with good jobs not minimum wage jobs. It's tough because it's not necessarily anyone's fault they have trouble getting good paying jobs, when after college!

    • L. a. Is expensive too trust me :(

    • @Toad-1 I've heard that!

  • seems very logical. respect

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  • I think when someone complains about someone else living with their parents, the issue isn't really whether or not that person is living with their parents.

    The real question is, are you taking risks, striving to get economically independent and learning, experimenting, and taking what you want from life, or are you scared, not willing or not ambitious enough to chase your dreams and passions?

    Most people I know that live with their parents don't live with them for choice. And not one of them has children to say "Yea, you know, I would try to get a job or to start a business, but I need to save money for my children, and I don't have time for myself yada yada yada". There are those people who are still studying or getting ready, but then there are those who are just so safe wasting someone else's money that they don't want to venture out on their own.

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    • yeah I've been debating it in my head for a long time why am i still at home but i have a long term plan. im saving as much money as i can so i can move out.

    • @noneoftheabove Good job, keep it up and you'll be able to move out! It's just harder for our generation.

    • yeah it definitely is. weve been shaftes by the previous generations. my advice if you're still at home save as much money as you can. it will beneft you in the long term @hannah591

  • Thank you I really needed to hear/know this as this is me. I'm the guy who works full time, applied for promotion at work, contribute to finances & chores etc, but I was thinking this only yesterday & today... how spooky that I should randomly see this mytake, because I now feel a little better & feared this would be a dealbreaker for most girls. I kept thinking do I really need to have a house to get a gf? You've given me a little hope, but yes I am saving for my own place but it isn't gonna happen anytime soon ;-(

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    • I'm glad this helped you! When you date women, let them know that you live with your parents but you contribute and work full time. Tell them you just haven't found the right girl to move out with yet as it's a big decision. I'm sure they'd understand and they can respect how messed up the economy is right now. It's normal nowadays for guys to leave home as late as their 40s.

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    • It might have bothered her but it doesn't bother every woman, remember that.

    • Keep on going and doing what your doing and the day will come when you have your own place. Ultimately money and where you live should not be all that a women cares about, but any relationship is going to be better when you have your own privacy and don’t have to navigate around mom and dad in the kitchen or elsewhere. The right kind of women is going to help you work towards your goals and understand the situation your in.

  • Great take. I've been living on my own since last August but I don't judge because the economy is tough. It took me a year after I graduated college to get my first real career.

    Shit happens too. People get laid off, lose jobs, etc and they just have to live with their parents for the time being.

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  • You need to care, at some point, especially when he's 36 and wondering why is he still at home, in that basement or some other room, I left out t 23, old enough
    but I was looking after my then living grandmother, she has passed on, May God rest her soul. But not a big deal right now, but later on, it will be.

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    • I agree that there comes a time where someone needs to care. I see it like, by the time anyone reaches 30 they need to start getting really serious about moving out, if they’re still living at home. It’s a valid question any smart level headed women (especially one that has her own place) is going to ask why a guy that is in their 30’s is still living at home. A guy that’s fresh out of high school, early twenties that’s no biggie, it’s very common for a guy that age to be living at home while they go to school and work. When your in your 30’s you need to start making something happen to get out.

  • Not bad, especially for someone who lives at home and has not even attempted dating sin e moving back home. I actually really value independence and can't wait to move out (hopefully this fall!) but ya... student loans suck... But I'd actually rather scrape by or pick up a second job than live at home... which is weird because I have a very healthy relationship with my parents, I hardly even see them as I work nights and they work days. They give me total freedom (except no girls, not even my exes during school could spend the night in the summers). I think half of it is the area I live in, which is heavily family oriented suburb setting, and I am a city boy 100%

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  • Im 32 and still live with the parents. It is definitely an insecurity i have and don't disclose to people often. But it would certainly be nice to meet a woman who understands that its been difficult for me and im trying to get out of here

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    • I'm sure you'll find someone soon who you can move out with when the time is right. :)

  • I think Bradley Cooper still lives with his mother. He did it after his dad died to keep her company.

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  • This is refreshing. Here in London it's mighty difficult to get on the property ladder. Not to mention the increase in deposit needed every year. I'd rather just save up for a property of my own once and for all instead of wasting my money on rent.

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    • Good idea! Best to spend money investing in something you will eventually own. Rent is wasted money.

  • A nice take. I know pretty respectable guys who live at home because of how much money it saves them.

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  • Very good. A lot of times men get a lot of hate if they still live with the parents after a certain age.

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  • my issue why Im home, 2 fold, My father died in 2002, and I got laid off recently, so I do all the stuff around the house.

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  • You sound like a very good girl. Whichever guy you'll be end up with will be a very lucky man!

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  • I don't care if a guy lives at home because I'm 21, in debt from student loans, have no car, have a year to get my B. S., and live with my mom during the summer.

    And I would obviously more than happy to date someone in my own situation.

    Lets be broke but working for the future!

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    • Lol I know right I pay $1160 for my apt I'm in school & broke to the bone. However I still try my best to put away enough for movie night with my wonderful lady. :)

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    • @Jujulius All you need to do is pay a few dollars a month for Netflix - movie nights sorted. :)

    • We do have Netflix but it's good for both of us at least once a month to eat out and see a movie.

  • Totally agree! It always seems like a double standard when it comes to guys living at home; why is it socially acceptable for a girl to live at home, but not a guy?

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    • @MandyRuth It's the same case with grown men who are still virgins. It's more stigmatized for them than it is for women virgins.

  • Good take. I think there are 2 kinds of guys who live with their parents, the kind you described who have a job and goals and seem to contribute to the family and household, which are amazing. And the kind who yell at their mom to bring more Cheetos to the basement and oh by the way wash my clothes which suck.

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    • Yeah, I like the first amazing ones :P

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    • @Jujulius so true. You sound great.

    • I have my moments but I do okay lol. My girlfriend's perfect I'm just trying to keep up.

  • I didn't but my first house with my husband until almost 30. But I would prefer the guy living in an apartment than his parents. With that said I did live with his parents for four months and it was alright.

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  • As long as a guy isn't being a mooch and has goals then it shouldn't matter if he's living with his parents or not. Plus, homes and apartments are expensive.

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  • Yup, couldn't agree more. =)

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  • I agree.

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  • i agree completely!!! nice take

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  • I think at one point it is going to matter if he gets you pregnant during the relationship. Just because a guy lives with his parents, does not mean that he has the right to lack ambition

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    • Many guys who live with their parents still have ambition. They want to get the dream job/car/house, it's just not the right time for them yet.
      I have safe sex and don't plan on ever having children so wouldn't be an issue for me.

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    • That's YOUR 'opinion'. No way I'd simply change it. If believing that keeps you happy, so be it.

    • @Hannah591 Great points. A lot of them do have goals and dreams.

  • I live with my parent too
    He'll have more money for buy me things

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