What I Think About Guys Paying for Dates

What I Think About Guys Paying for Dates

This is a pretty heavily discussed topic on GaG, and while I generally don’t like wasting my time on these kinds of arguments and just try to tune them out - or any of the over-discussed topics here - I’m gonna spend some time on this one. Just once. And I do understand both sides of guys and girls on the issue.


Should guys pay?...

For me as a guy the idea of paying for a date does not bother me. That’s just what I think. If you have the money and can do it, why not? Even if she does have money and her own career or whatever, there’s still nothing wrong with showing a gentlemanly gesture of paying for a date, especially your first one. In fact you may want to do it the most with your first date.

It’s simply a gesture that says you’re interested in this girl and you really like her and want to treat her regardless of if she has more money than you or as much as you do. Forget about that, it's about the fact that you're showing how you like her. It has nothing to do with whether you can impress her with your wallet or not. It’s a sign that you like her enough to want to spend a little on her. The way I see it: if you’re going to have a problem with paying for your girl, then you’re either not really mature enough for a date yet, or you know you can’t really afford that kind of thing. And if you can’t afford it, that’s okay, there’s nothing wrong with that. Just do something else you both can enjoy. There really is no need to overcomplicate it.


Females who want to be treated too highly…

However, I can understand the guys who don’t like the idea of having to pay for a girl who has very expensive tastes and really just wants a guy to pay so she can show it off or get a boost for her ego. Those are definitely a turn off, and you don't have to date them. If a girl you're with wants you to start buying shit for her like fancy handbags, makeup, or going to really high-end restaurants, cut her off quick. It'll never really be about a serious relationship for her, it will almost always be about a thrill for her that she gets to use you as a financial taxi. Not fun at all. And there are definitely a lot of women out there like that, but it doesn't mean you have to date them or settle for them.

There's nothing wrong with you as a guy laying down the law and letting a girl know that you're not about to pay for everything she wants. She doesn't have to like it, and she can be angry, and if she is then she obviously is not the girl for you and you can do better.

Women pitching in...

I don't mind if a girl wants to pay for her part of a date, but I do mind if she wants to pay all of it. I'm not like some of these New Age guys going around talking about "equality" and feeling okay with a woman paying for him. That's really not cool to me. I maintain traditional values about men and women, especially with relationships, so for a woman to want to pay for us going out isn't going to be too acceptable to me.

Now if it's my birthday or some special occasion that really does revolve around me - maybe I got a new job, maybe I was successful in some area and she wants to celebrate - that's okay, I don't mind that. That would be normal in any situation for the other person who loves you or likes you to want to treat you. And I wouldn't even mind it if she did insist on paying for a date once in a big blue moon, but overall I don't want or expect a woman to have to do that, regardless of how much money she does have. If she really is okay with paying half, that's okay. I won't make an issue out of it.

Females who don't think guys should have to pay...

It seems to me that a lot of the females who are all in favor of girls paying for dates or at least part of it, and firmly supporting guys in how they shouldn't have to pay, are really in this mindset only because doing so would show financial might on their part as a woman. Females today know they can make their own money and have big jobs and all that, so they do want to try to prove that to men or impress us with it, and I really don't care. How much money you have as a woman doesn't change my mind about how I may see you as a woman or a person with values.

Just cuz you may have a lot of money - or even more than me - doesn't impress me or make me see you as an important person you think I should desire. It doesn't work that way. I'm more concerned about what you can offer me as a woman in a relationship, what kind of character, personality, and values you have. So showing me that you have money by wanting to pay on a date is irrelevant to me.

It's simply a gentlemanly thing to do...

A hell of a lot of guys here on GaG disagree with me on this subject, and that's really okay, I'm no stranger to disagreement. But take some time to think about what I'm saying. I'm not saying you as a guy are necessarily obligated to serve some girl. I'm saying that when you really like a girl, or you think you really love her, you feel like you want to do all kinds of things for her. I know I do. When I really like a woman and have feelings for her, I always want to make her feel special. I want to make something artistic for her like my swans or teddy bears or lotuses and watch her face light up when she sees it. I want to do things she would enjoy or that make her smile or feel good, things that she appreciates. And if she can't appreciate it, then I don't bother and I don't stay interested.

It has nothing to do with wanting to impress her or giving her something just to get something back. It's about the fact that you like her enough to show her that. It's about making her feel special. If a girl wanted to give you a blowjob out of the blue one day, didn't she want to because she likes you? You didn't ask, but she wanted to because she wanted to treat you. She didn't put up an argument about how you should eat her out too just because she's blowing you. While there are women like that, some others are sincere about giving head. So in the same way, paying for a date is about a sincere feeling that you like this girl and want to do something special for her.

To me it really is a non-issue. Something that's not necessary to put so much thought and argument into. How has this kind of affection really been lost in these times? Why are we really throwing up the sandbags and digging the trenches to prepare for battle over this? Does every traditional gender role have to be canceled out now just because somebody doesn't like them? That even goes for women as well, who also have lost many feminine values and characteristics and cry about them being "sexist" yet want men to maintain theirs.

We overcomplicate things and destroy the beauty in what it means to be men and women when we fight for selfishness or the right to not have to respect and esteem the other side. Relationships are about showing love, and how do you show love? By giving. Not because the other person asked or expected to, but because you wanted to or cared enough to. It's that simple.

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  • 2mo

    I always feel awkward when a guy pays for dinner. The last time a guy bought me food, he insisted on paying. When he wasn't looking I stuffed money in the tip jar. Also he got me a coffee even when I insisted I didn't want one. The good news is that he added me on Facebook. I know some people who just like to buy people stuff and I try my best to make it sit with my conscience. I usually feel so bad I get them something.

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  • 3mo

    Eh, I personally don't like adding money to the mix on the first few dates. Less pressure. Too many men think they can just buy women with free dinners, lunches and gifts, and then feel cheated if the woman ends up losing interest. I'd like to avoid that kind of pressure. I don't want to feel like I owe him something after just one or two dates. And if we have to buy something, like a coffee, then I prefer paying for whatever I decide to buy.
    I don't mind involving money later on, when I know for sure that we're both equally interested in each other. Then there's less pressure and I won't feel like he's trying to trap me by buying me dinner.

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    • 3mo

      I wish more girls were like you

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    • 2mo

      @lumos Redeye is the one who said most men. But even "too many" men isn't really adding up. If it was that common of a thing there wouldn't even be so much argument from guys about it like I said.

    • 2mo

      Same! Recently I went on a lot of "online dating" dates, so I tried to pay for my part or bought some drinks in return for the dinner. It's not just only I don't want to owe them anything but also I feel bad for the guys that he has to pay for many first dates so i don't want that becomes a burden on them!

  • 2mo

    I'm a traditionnal girl so I think men should paid on date plus to know generally the guys ear, more money than the girl. It's fair.

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  • 2mo

    I dont think women pay to show off, its the same for anyone. you like someone you treat them. also you just said you don't accept women not letting you play your traditional role... doing certain traditional things then turn around and say woman want to drop their role but expect you to maintain yours,..

    i thik you should have the relationship you and your partner want, but its too much having to complain every which way. she wants your money you'll put her in her place. she wants to treat you you'll put her in her place. and the the problem is women about you to be traditional but don't want to be themselves.. i dont see that. i see men holding onto 'tradition' bc it makes you feel superior,. and bc a bj feels better than a meal. If she pays for the meal where does the bj come in.

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    • 2mo

      "also you just said you don't accept women not letting you play your traditional role... doing certain traditional things then turn around and say woman want to drop their role but expect you to maintain yours,.."
      - That doesn't contradict what I said.

      "i dont see that. i see men holding onto 'tradition' bc it makes you feel superior,. and bc a bj feels better than a meal. If she pays for the meal where does the bj come in."
      - It doesn't add up. If this is really all that common then you wouldn't have as many men out there as you do complaining about having to pay.

  • 3mo

    I don't let a guy pay if I know I'm not interested. And at least the first 3 I insist on paying my half. I know Financials are hard on everyone.

    However, the current guy I'm dating doesn't pay for anything except an occasional coffee. He doesn't understand that it's the gesture. It's the planning something special. Take them where you can afford once in a while. Generally (not always) girls are better at expressing emotion either through actions or words. Paying is a way guys can let girls know they're charishe'd.

    I never thought I cared if a guy ever treated me until he never did. (He held the fact he would buy coffees over me last week so he lost credit for that).

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  • 3mo

    i'm being called selfish on gag for saying that I appreciate it and it shows that the guy is interested in pursuing you on the first date

    but I know if I were a guy, I would pay still because of my traditional values. it doesn't matter about who pays essentially as long as they like you

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  • 3mo

    men should always pay. Men generally pay for me. Those who expect sex learn fast, and leave. they're jerks. I've had men pay for concert tickets, dates, and no one has expected anything. Heck sometimes im the one wanting something sexual. Women who think men shouldn't pay are uber nazi feminist weirdos who are trying to help the crazy men out... they're lame

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  • 3mo

    What I think about men paying for dates or t he first date. Is exactly what this guy says.
    www.worldstarhiphop.com/.../video.php

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    • 3mo

      That was refreshing. The women in the audience made me gag a little, though.

      But then again, I think that was some sort of seminar for women who couldn't get a date. Well, I guess their entitlement plays a major part in that.

    • 3mo

      @Kirah maybe those ladies inthe audience were high maintaneance

  • 3mo

    My response to a similar take:

    I don't think it's fair for guys to always have to pay. If it's a first time meeting up like this, then you should both pay for yourselves. What if someone has a horrible time, and then has to pay on top of that? It would suck.

    If you already knew each other, and are taking the lunge to ask them out, them whomever did the asking should pay. HEY LADIES: You wanted gender equality, so this applies to you! It's now acceptable to ask a guy out and take HIM on a date!!

    Once you've established that you want to go out again, or even put a label on it, take turns paying for the date, or splitting it. Cooking counts as buying dinner, and maybe the other party could do dishes, or help.

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  • 3mo

    Men: if i offered to help you pay for our date knowing that i have a much higher paying job, would it make you feel like a slap on the face if i offered? I want to be sensitive.

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    • 3mo

      @Trashay, no I wouldn't be bothered by it. For 50 years., Women have fought for economic and social equality for men. They should bear equal responsibilities as well. Also, Women are now beginning to earn MORE than Men and will continue to do so.

  • 3mo

    For me, it's not about having money to show a guy I have it. When I was completely broke I felt the same way. I just don't like when anyone pays for me. It makes me feel guilty. I know deep down that they are doing a nice thing for me, but then my pride gets in the way. I grew up extremely poor, and we had to learn from an early age how to take care of our ourselves, and if we wanted something, we had to earn money when we were old enough to get it. When it came to school and everything, we had to work for it. My mother couldn't afford school clothes or supplies for us.

    So this is just an issue I've had since I was a kid. For me, it's not about feminism or equality or anything like that. It's just about how I feel when someone else pays for me. I've been doing it all on my own for so long that it's hard for me to accept when someone wants to pay for me. I love buying for someone else, but not the other way around. Even when it comes to gifts, I have a hard time with it. And it's not that I don't appreciate it at all. I know they want to do a nice thing for me. My mother had to convince me just recently to let her treat me for my birthday. I feel guilty for accepting it.

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    • 3mo

      That's understandable, I'm the same way.

    • 3mo

      EXACTLY what I said.

      I'm positive that this kind of thinking is MUCH more common than "women trying to show off money" -- especially since men aren't even impressed by a woman having money anyway.

    • 3mo

      @redeyemindtricks I agree. My best friend is similar to me. I think it's why we get along so well. It's why is bothers me so much when guys on this site assume that all women are gold diggers. Everything I have in my life, I earned all by myself and it feels good. I'm currently working on buying a house, and it feels better knowing that all my hard work is going towards it, and no one is helping me with it.

  • 3mo

    On the first date I think it would be nice for a guy to pay. But on any other date I would feel guilty and prefer to pay at least my part.

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  • 3mo

    THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!
    Best GuyTake Ever. I hope some of the boys out there read this.
    I got attacked so harshly for suggesting the same thing yesterday with several guys going all out hostile saying such things as "I love how women eagerly destroy their own love lives over like 20 bucks and then complain that there's no good men. Yeah there are, you just ignored them because you're petty. "
    I feel that comment could have easily been converted replacing the word women with men and vice versa. And made more sense!
    So many guys dont see that if you make an attempt, a simple gesture to treat us just a little special, a world of love could come your way.
    LOVE <3 LOVE <3 LOVE <3

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  • 3mo

    Great my take! Very well put!

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    👏👏👏👏👏👏

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  • 3mo

    Take note boys. This dude has the game.

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  • 3mo

    I speak only for myself, but... the reason you've given for women who prefer to pay for our own shit ("it's flaunting financial power") is way wrong, for me at least.

    I've always been uncomfortable with having ANYONE pay for my stuff. There are 2 reasons, and neither has anything to do with "showing off".

    1)
    It just doesn't sit well with my conscience.
    I really, really don't like feeling like I owe someone a debt, or like I'm being a greedy "taker".
    This has nothing to do with the guy. He could really be treating because he just genuinely LIKES to treat... and it would *still* make me uncomfortable as fuck.

    This is so deeply hardwired into my conscience that I've had to actively coach myself to accept certain favors in non-date situations. Like, I have a couple of friends, and a client or two, who are just... all about buying EVERYONE a meal, or a round at the bar, or some gift, or whatever, with nothing in return.
    With these people, I've had to actively *remind* myself that this kind of giving is their "love language", so to speak, and that they'd be genuinely hurt if I said no.
    It STILL bothers me, but, I understand them well enough to just shut up and accept.

    2)
    When men pay for a date -- or even just something they *think* is kinda sorta like a date -- my experience is that this comes with strings attached.
    You may be the rare bird who really doesn't care and just tosses yr card on the table with no expectations at all, but... that's not how it goes with most men. Most men EXPECT something when they pay for things.
    I hate expectations. Hate hate hate them. My gut reaction to just about any expectation is to stick out a big fat middle finger at it.

    Better to not even take that chance.

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    • 3mo

      I do see what you're saying but every time a guy has offered to pay for me he's never assumed I owe him something afterwards. I think normally you can tell that by how a guy acts.

    • 3mo

      @Puppylove94 I'm less initially trusting than a lot of people, and more attentive to subtle cues.
      A lot of men will play it on the surface like they don't mind, but underneath there'll be little pieces of entitlement here and there that pop up. And/or little pieces of resentment, if they've paid for stuff and everything ISN'T going their way.

      This goes especially for the guys who INSIST on paying. Ugh.

      ... Besides, this still leaves point no. 1, which is no. 1 for a reason -- it's more important (to me) than no. 2.
      I'm just gna feel like I owe this person a debt, and that's not a feeling that sits well with me. ::shrugs::

      --

      In any case -- First dates shouldn't cost anything, anyway.
      As I wrote about here
      www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a30346-the-real-answers-to-who-should-pay-when-dating

    • 3mo

      @redeyemindtricks No, I do think most women with money want to flaunt that to men or impress them with it, if it wasn't true than they wouldn't need to put so much emphasis on how they have money and don't really need a man for anything. You do what you want, but there are always going to be people who do want to pay for you.

      If men are expecting something, I can't necessarily say that's necessarily either right or wrong, though I wouldn't think it's particularly right, but it's no different than women expecting something from men. Part of the problem with female logic is that it's okay if they expect guys to do something, but it's not okay if men expect something from them. Again, it's not necessarily right, but it is how it is.

  • 3mo

    Very good take, normally i'd have a few things to say on this specific subject but i think you covered everything i wanted to say.. well done :p

    Personally one of the reasons why i want to help pay other than the fact that he's a working student and already has enough financial strain is because i feel guilty about it (for various sensible reasons) and fear how people might think of me (that they might think i'm like the kind whos using him as quoted "financial taxi"..) so there's that

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  • 3mo

    I knew there was something in the nature of the two sexes to keep this tradition alive. It's exactly because we don't impress guys by paying for them, but they impress us by paying for us.

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    • 3mo

      Speak for yourself, my boyfriend was very impressed when I paid for him.

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    • 3mo

      @Kirah
      Did you read the post?

    • 3mo

      This is actually true. 😊

  • 3mo

    This take deserves a metal of honor. Awesome job!

    However, I'm one of the girls who thinks the guy should pay for the first date and for me it's not stability. It's just the fact that he knows how to put others before himself. I agree a woman should do that too- but there's give and take in a relationship. I agree with everything else you said to a T.

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    • 3mo

      At 22 what stability do You expect from a guy. Most guys are just starting their lives. There is no stability lol

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    • 3mo

      @Puppylove94 it makes sense in the context of a longer relationship, but in dating, not so much. Quite a few first dates will not lead to a second date, and at that point, he will have paid 100% of the time. This is one of many reasons why people should split the bill. It's 2016, not the 1950's. I mean goddamn, everyone makes money now, and some women still insist on having the guy pay for everything?

      But fine, do whatever you will. I'm so glad I don't live in the US, this whole culture of sexism and entitlement doesn't exist over here. Don't bother replying any further, there's no sense in arguing with you.

    • 3mo

      @Kirah lmao you're the one who started this argument. If I don't feel chemistry with a guy on the first date, I will force him to split the bill with me, no doubt.

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  • 3mo

    I pretty much agree with everything you said. In other guys' defense, though, just as you do, I also see where they are coming from.

    Why I still do it? Generally, I have a good judge of character so I know that the girls I go out with are pretty easygoing. And in some cases, those girls have done favors, or saved me themselves at some situation at work or college, or wherever else. So I don't mind paying if she's cool. Admittedly, I still hold some traditional values, very much like you do, too.

    Now that I think of it, I've only payed a date to one girl who was truly a bitch. She was quite an asshole and I'm glad I fucked it up (maybe a bit conciously) around our third hangout. So yeah, I know I have a good judge of character except for that one time (she didn't even want to have sex) and I'd never date, less pay to a woman who I knew wasn't worth it at all in the first place, anyways.

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  • 3mo

    If a guy pays for a date it means he really is serious about the girl. Girls interpret it that way too. If a girl offers to pay, it shows me that she's not going to use me and be selfish throughout the whole relationship which is a good thing.

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  • 3mo

    The problem why so many men don't wanna pay for dates it's because dating wasn't like it was back in the day.
    Today, either you're rich, or you're gonna end up broke af by paying for dates.
    Today many people go on many dates, it's not like you court this girl over a period of time, then when you both know you like each other you ask her out.
    Today you ask on a date to the girl you just met at the park. You think she's cool from her first impression, so you decide to get to know each other over dinner... but then you realize you're not a good match.
    Imagine that scenario very week... spending money on a stranger just for nothing? Most men aren't willing to do that unless they make good money.

    Also, not paying is a great way to filter the girls from the women. Do you wanna date a kid or a woman?

    Also, a woman that offers to pay shows that she doesn't see herself and her time as more valuable than yours, meaning she's down to earth and shows maturity (which goes back to my previous point about dating a woman).

    Also, with all this dating around, you find MANY women who just want to have some fun without any intentions of getting serious, and many others who go on dates to get free food.

    Also, the main problem is that many women have been brought up with this belief that they deserve a gentleman who pays for them... no, they don't. No one deserves anything, you gotta earn it. Many believe that because they're a woman, they're entitled to free food, when they put zero effort in the date. Men are tired of that. Spending your money on a woman who doesn't even care? That's a waste.

    If you wanna pay, go ahead, it's your choice, but I'd rather split, since when I go on dates, my plan is to date women that are worthy, women that are gf/wife material.

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  • 2mo

    God this is so boring the same shit over and over again well fuck the rules if u want to pay pay if u dont dont
    I had women offering paying for the first date because they invited me my opinion anyone who invite should pay for god sakes leave these topics its getting old

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  • 2mo

    The one who asks should pay the damn bill

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  • 2mo

    I'm not paying for a girl's dinner since I know there are guys out there that didn't do that shit and got way more fun without any of the pay.

    I see myself as that type of cool guy who should get it for free or minimal effort, and if some dumb hoe seems it differently, she gets the boot and isn't in my life anymore. Plenty of fish in the sea, plenty of hot puss to smash.

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  • 2mo

    Despite having the new idea in my mind of a lady being financially stable, and that she is able to pay for herself because it's 2016 and women don't have trouble earning money like in the past (which was one of the reasons how the tradition came about). There was still a deeply rooted responsibility that was engraved in me when I was raised as a child and that was to take care of women.

    So my first date with this girl, I completely stuffed up and forgot my wallet as I entered the uber to my destination, and I was panicking. I then thought that I would later pay her back somehow by taking her out somewhere else or getting her a gift.

    We had initially planned the traditional movie and dinner date, but she said that it was 'fine' and that she'd pay for it this time and as we got to the counter to pay for our tickets... She took out her wallet and paid in cash. That was by far the most emasculating thing I had to withstand. My confidence, masculinity was basically ruined. I couldn't make eye contact with anyone around me at the time. So she wanted refreshments and I knew that would not order anything. Even when she was paying for her own stuff on the date kinda rashed me (it was a subconscious thing, I don't decide what I feel).

    So then as we get into the movies, I couldn't bare it. I made a quick call to someone to help me out and lend me some money and I'd pay back when I got home. So fortunately, I was able to receive the aid and I arrived back with a bit of restored faith in myself.

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  • 2mo

    You know, unless we're going on a round-the-world cruise or something, it's really not a big deal to me. I'll pay, or share, I don't care. I don't go to places where I'm going to spend $300 for a first date anyway.

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  • 2mo

    Simple solution is keep the first & second dates as inexpensive & casual as possible , also keep them short , there is no pressure on either party then & a switched on man can then weed out the gold diggers & users. A full on dinner or more , should be reserved for a woman that is WORTH it !!

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  • 3mo

    Im just going to say her haveing money really does matter to me if we move in together i don't want to be paying all the rent if we divorce I don't want to come off worse as a result.
    Im not "traditional". Financial security matters to me and it can make up for other things. Id even do nothing but give a girl oral and just finish myself of every day for the whole relationship if she was rich and paying for everything and buying me nice things. I'd save what i'd earn and not have to worry about money in the future and retirement or worry about going broke if i got laid off as long as she stayed pleased and id still be wealthier than before if we split up since i could just save what ever I earned.

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  • 3mo

    i had a girl paying for me and i felt in debt once. give her the D and she forgot about it
    oh, to be Young and broke!

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  • 3mo

    I pay for sex, not dates.

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  • 3mo

    Nothing wrong with this article. For me it's not about the money, it's about the attitude behind it. I just have a dislike for spoiled princess types. I mean, if I paid for dinner and then drinks after dinner and uber/car service I want to do it because I just want to be a gentleman towards an awesome girl. Not because some chick thinks she deserves to have me pay for everything. It's no better than me thinking "well if she thinks I owe her this, then is it okay for me to to think she owes me some dome?" Obviously, that's ridiculous...

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  • 3mo

    rarely do i see women arguing to get rid of benefits they have through traditionalism, like paying for dates, being added to the draft, etc. So women's stance on this issue rarely surprises me.

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  • 3mo

    I have no problem woth a paying for a woman! I've never been on a date where i didn't
    But if a woman exspects me to pay and doesn't even offer i would ask her for some money and i wouldn't call her back for a second date
    The argument is about women who think men need to pay for them... those are the girls that give women a bad name

    Shitty arguments incoming

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  • 3mo

    Why should a guy do traditional gentlemen things for girls that don't do traditional lady things but instead act the opposite of a traditional lady?

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    • 3mo

      That's why you choose the girls who do have traditional lady things and pay dates for THEM.

    • 3mo

      Traditional ladies are a thing of the past, that's why traditional gentlemen are becoming rarer. When girls quit acting like ladies guys quit acting like gentlemen. Ladies wouldn't dress the way girls do today. Be a gentlemen if you want but you'll be used more often than not.

    • 3mo

      I actually wrote about that too some time ago, and you're right. But I also put emphasis on how and when to act like a gentleman and with who.

  • 3mo

    You are like 30, you are stuck in old thinking and can't get over it and now you don't have that much options ofcourse you will go for that lol young guys like me however. Id rather think girl is interested in me

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  • 3mo

    I'm happy to pay for the date but I do expect the woman to at least offer to pay for half of it. If a woman offers then I will be more than willing to ask her out on a second date, if she doesn't then I'll pay for her but I won't take her out on a second date. I'll move on and find another woman.

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  • 3mo

    Unless we're living under a patriarchy rule then yes men would pay but women have equality now so they should contribute and by a man a meal for a change.

    If women are wanting to be traditional when it suits then maybe we should stop this equality crap and go back to patriarchy.

    Feminism is narcissism people. It's one or the other girls. Women don't get a penny out of me unless I'm guranteed sex otherwise am just throwing good money away just so a whore can have freebies and then decide after 2 or 3 dates that we don't have a connection or that I'm just too nice like they always say.

    I advocate escorts for sex and companionship becuase dating is no different than prostitution. If a women makes you either earn, work, pay for sex or time and companionship then she's a prostitute. Guys if dating is costing you time, money and work just for an average girl, get an escort becuase its a better investment and they're smoking hot. Your always guranteed great sex and companionship with a model escort.

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  • 3mo

    I am old school. Men should always pay for their date.

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