Back then, you didn't have to text or talk to your significant other every freaking minute of every day. You had no way of stalking them like you do now with social media, and you didn't have to look at their profiles after a break up.
I agree it feels just so difficult because now anyone can see what we are doing and it's really hard for me just because i don't like to use a phone... guys get mad at me and call me "weird" and act like i'm an alien just because i don't like talking on the phone and that i prefer to see them in person, i don't like online dating ether... it creates so many false perceptions and it's made people think that people are easy... plus they use the internet for very inapropriate means... they are more than likely to lie to you about things than be honest with you and they get into this habit where they still flirt with other girls just for fun... it doesn't make me feel wanted at all. People these days just because they can talk to ou instantly that we should trust them instantly... i do not in any way understand why they even need internet data just to be on Facebook all day... i could easily go out and do something without even thinking about fb or my computer lol, techology is now a huge barrier between us.
I remember things like 6 hour phone calls. Parents got pissed that no one could call in because two dating teens were talking. no, you didn't actually talk for 6 hours you did things, talked, long pauses... It was different.
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I disagree, Blind dates have just about disappeared because of advances in comm. technology. Communicating with people at any given time of the day is possible for everyone now with ease.
If you see a table full of people or a whole family staring at their phones, well it's not the phones fault. They probably aren't very interested in talking to each other or have much to offer convo. wise.
Face it, some people are just naturally boring. Taking away their phones isn't gonna' change anything.
Actually, you don't have to text or talk every minute now. All it takes is a little bit of sense and ignoring the phone till you have free time. I get really tired of working my butt off on the job while others are always stopping to text.
I usually don't text. Will do so if I need to get word to someone that is at work, because I know they will ignore it till they get a break, then call me. Otherwise, I receive calls from doctors or similar when I have to leave a message for a return call, or for emergency calls from home.
Interesting watching people bump into things on the sidewalk, or walk into traffic, or sit at a light after it turns green because they can't put the phone down.
I like how texting is an easier and faster way of getting to know someone especially if one of them is a very busy person/works a lot of hours etc. BUT I do hate how with texting, it is almost impossible to tell what they're thinking because you can't look at their body language or hear how they say things (jokingly, sarcastically, seriously, or if there is a little bit of anger) and it sucks! And can totally give the wrong impression--nothing worse than a texting conversation gone wrong!
Yeah. Its definitely a lot more complicated, and the expectations are much higher because of the ease of communication.
I was in a relationship and dealing with this kind of drama once, and my parents started teasing me about it and reminding me that when they were dating/engaged, my dad was on a navy cruise and only got to use the phone about once a month for a few minutes with all the other sailors waiting for their turns. Hah!
Texting is a horrible way to get to know someone. I honestly don't like it and I hate people who get pissed at you because you didn't reply to their text. Texting does not require immediacy. It requires me to stop eBay I'm doing voluntarily. Sometimes I don't feel like voluntarily stopping. Calling I'll answer. And it's faster communication that way. Texting you can get pissed bc you interpreted something wrong. Always checking to see if they texted back. Same with Facebook. Always know what you're up to. It's a recipe for disaster.
I think it makes everybody too available people can see when you was last online on Facebook and whats app or when you was active on Twitter or instagram or what you doing in your day like snapchat,
it causes trouble when there's no need you could text/msg someone your dating ( we all sometimes read it and decide to reply later on sometimes) and then you see the person active on other social sites app, and it makes you wonder why they haven't replied? which causes the tension.
sometimes you talk so much by text/phone when you do meet there is nothing to say about your day or week when you meet,
i must admit i myself do get addicted to textin and wonder why girls lose interest but i do realize the problem.
I agree with you. I'm 20, but from watching movies from the 90's, dating sounded pretty fun and worry-less. Right now, I can see if my boyfriend was texting other people, if he read my text, if he ignored my text, if he went out, at what time he came back, if he is playing, what's he thinking, etc, etc, all without he even saying a word! Everything is connected.
Hell yeah dating now sucks, esp with the start of online dating
In the 80s they didn't have to go through piles of fake profiles and flirts that went nowhere to find Rapunzel, she just whistled from the window and let down her golden hair and BAM instant matrimony
Texting is the best thing ever! No longer do you have to try and get hold of someone and hope they're home, or leave awkward answering machine messages.
You can send a quick text and let them know what's up, or to grab something on the way home, or to meet me at the bar at 5pm.
Lol I wish you would have elaborated more, but yeah I agree. However it's much easier to meet people and get people you truly connect with. But also, that person is available to so many other people. Dating nowadays has it's pros and cons
I dropped my phone in the toilet and now exclusively use this:
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why couldn't I be born into this era instead
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My boyfriend and I live almost an hour away from each other and texting is a great way to communicate. I prefer talking on the phone or hanging out in person but it's nice to ask them what they're up to or make plans as to when we can meet up again. I don't know why you're so bitter about texting. Does it really affect your life that much if couples are texting each other?
There are pros and cons to technology. not only in the dating world, but in every day life. Just something we all have to deal with. It is here and it is not going away any time soon.
the cell phone in my relationship because of the ability to have a private conversation with whoever you want at any time. Has been a catalyst in the destruction of my marriage in that she has been able to maintain my private life involving many men and many experiences right under my nose. I do not look at her phone because I just don't want to know and it's also some respect for her privacy. So I think this texting bit is really detrimental.
AMEN!
what ever happened to calling people?
it seems like everyone knows everyone's business! sometimes people need space and now thats really hard to find
lol how would you know what dating was like 20 years ago?
Holy FUCKING balls I wish I could just call my crush every time instead of texting. Or, just simply see her in person.
The last online status on whatsapp... girls who don't reply but saw your message... mhmmm!
Thing is I think it's polite to reply to texts if you're free and at least at some point. Plain ignoring isn't on.
According to your profile 20 years ago you would have been 4 or -2. So unless you started reaaally young how do you know it was so great lol?
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