So I had been crushing on this guy for a few months when he made a move on me on night out...for weeks after we texted daily and spoke on the phone couple of times a week.
I wasn't sure if it was going anywhere but he eventually asked me out.. to cut a long story short it was a pretty disastrous first date..I got pretty drunk. He wasn't impressed and said he needed time to think about whether he wanted to continue things...
I gave him space and didn't contact him. After about a week he text me..nothing about us or the date just general chit chat and he has text me everyday since..
So I'm really not sure if he's just stringing me along or is actually considering meeting again...to be honest this daily texting is meaning he is constantly in my thoughts.
If he is only keeping me as an option I need to distance myself from him...any advice on how to handle it and/or find out where I stand? I dont want to be rude and not reply to his texts as he normally asks a question. Also I do like him and dont want to ruin any chance we have of working.
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I'm disappointed in the people who suggested cutting him off to see if he's interested. This isn't about stringing girls along, playing hard to get etc, it's a matter of human decency.
Let's flip this situation and say that this guy on the first date got drunk and came off as an ass. You weren't impressed but your gut wants believe that he isn't really like that, but you're afraid to find out if that's really his true nature. So you keep in touch with him in hopes that he'll show his better, truer self - the one that attracted you to him in the first place.
Now imagine this guy suddenly cut you off. You'll be left hurt, but thanking yourself later because you realize this person is too immature for you and it wouldn't work out anyway.
Let's flip back to your situation. I hope you realize that this isn't all about whether he's keeping you as an option, but more urgently, whether he RESPECTS you enough to continue seeing you. The good news is that the ball is in your court to make things right.1