I have a couple thoughts...
1) We teach people how to treat us. This comes down to our boundaries. When someone treats you poorly, and there's no consequence or interruption to clarify, then that's you teaching them it's okay.
If you don't like something she's saying or doing first confirm she means what she says. It's super easy to misinterpret a woman's comments when it's about something we're sensitive too. I mean, I can't count how many times I've said something stupid to my girlfriend that hurt her feelings and I didn't even realize it.
But once it's clear she's being abusive it's your job to let her know that it's not cool and that it won't continue. And I'm not talking about being physical or violent or abusive in retaliation, because that's immature and hurtful, I'm talking about being willing to walk away temporarily or permanently.
2) We never let someone treat us worse than we're willing to treat ourselves. So the core issue here is that somewhere deep inside you're accepting this poor behaviour because you think it's okay or that you deserve it.
This sounds crazy but think about it. If you're willing to accept the poor behaviour it's because you see yourself as worth of that behaviour. So find your inner child innocent self that doesn't deserve to be hurt and start defending him... defend him against your inner negative talk, and any outside negative talk from others.
3) When ever someone uses the words "crushes me" in makes me think they enjoy being dramatic. There are plenty of emotionally satisfying reasons to act the victim in order to FEEL like the centre of attention. Make sure this isn't what you're doing, or that your ego is pretending to be constantly hurt in order to feel comforted by others as a way of feeling loved and accepted?
Best of luck dude! Take care of yourself,
~ Robby
(My Blog https://www.fullofhateandreadytodate.com/ )
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She needs to understand that your there to give your support & assistance if there's anything thats bothering her... and she needs to exercise this option when its needed... but she needs to also know that if she doesn't desire help but rather an abuse dumpster that can use at her covinience to unload emotional stress... then she needs to find someone that agrees to fill that position because she creating more adverse results unto herself because one day she's gonna wake up to find her personal whipping post gone... then what will she do? if she's so fucked up that she cannot communicate her problems too you in a mutual & civil fashion... then she either needs to be alone... or seek many many fucking years of therapy... YOU NEED TO GO TO DR. PHIL. COM... or somthing... because it sounds like you tried everything in your power to absorbe her bullshit... and if you dont leave... the police will get a domestic disturbance call.
She emotionally insecure, she doesn't want to hurt you but she doesn't want you to get to close to her. If she uses the things that are you feel embarrassed about against you , that likely a source of insecurity. Find out what she embarrassed about without asking her, then tell her you love her for it, and she'll stop laughing at you. And remember when ever she cruel she not doing it to hurt you she reflecting her feeling on how other view her. And other trick would be to throw off guard, when she starts acting mean or laughs just say "what's the matter" real considered it will immediately take that action off you and back to her, it will be so unexpected she might open on what this all really about.
it's because she is dealing with emotional issues, it has nothing to do with you. When we love someone their words can easily hurt us even tho we know it wasn't meant like this it just really hurts. It sounds like it already brought down your selfconfidence cause I'm pretty sure you're not like that normally. She should get help, otherwise I don't see how you guys can make it work since you're really hurt already. Be careful and protect your heart! good luck
This is bad for your emotional health if she is inconsiderate to your feelings then you deserve better and will not get it from her if you tell her how you feel and she still treats you this way.
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Listen if she is purposely hurting you its time to move on. No one deserves to be emotionally abused like that. It may be hard to walk away but you have to remember that you deserve better than that.
Couple counselling, really... It's way too late already, so go now and see if it can be fixed...
What exactly does she do or say to you?
Leave her bro :(
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