Hello all, first post here. :) I recently came out of a relationship of 2 1/2 years back in May, and started seeing this girl who's in a similar situation. We're both 21, final years at different universities. I have a huge crush on her, and we kissed on dates 2 and 3 (okay date 3 was a snog!) and spoke to each other through the night afterwards. We haven't had sex yet.
To cut it short, everything was going so well - we both made it clear that we really liked each other and couldn't wait to see each other again. When she smiled at me her face would light up in this beautiful way I'd never seen it do before. We'd made plans to meet up on the weekend.
Throughout the week we were texting every day but then the day after our third date she fell silent. I asked her what was wrong over the phone and she said she was feeling ill and had to cancel our next meeting. I offered to bring her something to make her feel better through the recovery but she refused. A whole day passed without any communication. The next morning my friend convinced me to text her checking in if she was okay, and she replied a very short but quick text saying she was still ill. I wished her well again and joked (stupidly I guess) that I hoped she hadn't forgotten about me. Since she hasn't said anything back, and it's been a couple days.
Am I being paranoid? Is she really too ill all of a sudden to drop me a line, or has she lost interest? I find it hard to believe, as we really had something special the last time we saw each other. Or maybe heaven forbid she's scared to tell me it won't work out. I'm not by any means the perfect guy.
Either way, I wish she'd say something. It's made a huge lump in my stomach the last few days and I've been getting really sidetracked from my work! She's really all I can think about. Lame, I know, for a 21 year old. I've seen it all before, yet for some reason keep getting caught in the love trap!
Thanks in advance for any advice. :)
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It sounds as though with "Date 3 being a snog," that something isn't koshore Or Sure in Denmark. I sense that she is uptight about something, is making some lame excuse to put this off, avoid talking to you about it and even Has----Put you on her pay no mind list.
You have every right to be concerned. And even if she is 'Too ill' as she claims, anyone who isn't on their deathbed, if they care enough, they can still send Their very best.
I don't feel "She lost interest' but perhaps also Hasn't 'Lost track" herself of something here that she May be afraid to tell you or Be with you now because of the way she is feeling. It may have Something to do with sex and the Third time "Time's out" deal.
You both need to sit down and have a long talk. If everything was Great before the third date, and now there is trouble in paradise, open lines of convo are one of the most important factors in any new or old relationship and you Need to face her down with it.
If you don't hear anything in a few more days, buy some flowers and go over to her house. I am not going to believe that this would go dead over nite with her Suddenly having "I don't like you anymore Itis" and bringing her something as special as 'Something" from your own heart, Might just be what the doctor ordered.
End your madness, save the day... Go get the girl that very well may be the girl of your dreams. This may be just a misunderstanding so don't get caught in a web of your own mind's deceit.
Good luck. xx1