I've been in a casual relationship for the past 3 months now and I'm trying to gauge where we are. For the first 2 months we did a lot of hooking up and a lot of talking. I felt like we got to know each other. For the past month these haven't been going very well for him as far as his career and I've tried to be there to comfort him. He's said to me one time that at the VERY LEAST I an his friend. Since then we've started calling each other pet names like babe (for him) and darling (for me).
I know that this does not mean that we're in a real relationship now. I'm trying to figure out if this is a good time to start at least hinting at starting a real one.
I know that this does not mean that we're in a real relationship now. I'm trying to figure out if this is a good time to start at least hinting at starting a real one.
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As I said down below...
I tried to do it on Friday just by asking "do you only see us as a casual relationship " and it did not go so well. I picked the WRONG time to bring it up and got shot down. I ended up saying sorry about bringing it up at the wrong time. I have every intentions on doing it again at a better time. While i was saying sorry about bringing it up at the wrong time he was STILL calling me darling. "It's fine darling. such is life", he said.
He's even call me "dear"...
I tried to do it on Friday just by asking "do you only see us as a casual relationship " and it did not go so well. I picked the WRONG time to bring it up and got shot down. I ended up saying sorry about bringing it up at the wrong time. I have every intentions on doing it again at a better time. While i was saying sorry about bringing it up at the wrong time he was STILL calling me darling. "It's fine darling. such is life", he said.
He's even call me "dear"...
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Just sit down and talk to him.
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I tried to do it on Friday just by asking "do you only see us as a casual relationship " and it did not go so well. I picked the WRONG time to bring it up and got shot down. I ended up saying sorry about bringing it up at the wrong time. I have every intentions on doing it again at a better time.
Also, while i was saying sorry about bringing it up at the wrong time he was STILL calling me darling.
"It's fine darling. such is life", he said.
I wouldn't do it again since I think he'll only shoot it down again. Even if he was having a bad day if he wanted a serious relationship he would have said yes. It sounds like he's not interested in something more. If after three months he doesn't want to make it official then you have to decide whether or not you can stand it just being a casual thing. If you want something more it's best to look elsewhere. Pet names don't really count for much since some guys will use them even if you aren't dating them. In my experience very flirty men use them all the time.
Maybe I shouldn't say that he shot me down. I asked him "do you think of us is just a casual Relationship" and he said "I guess I do feel that way". It wasn't very definite. He told me that he liked me he was just extremely busy right now now because of his schoolwork. When I say it was the wrong time to ask him, What I mean is he was in the middle of working on late homework at the time and I was nagging him. Now he says he wants to talk again after finals.
Now is a great time.