Why are white men so weak?

[Anonymous]

I was seeing this ''white'' guy and he was pretty cute and sexy in my eyes, but one thing that bothered me a whole lot was that he was passive, submissive, Always wanted to talk things out, very needy and i just wanted him to man up and show me who was the man and stick with it. He would never say what he wanted and i like a guy who speaks his mind, he was in my eyes too timid, al tho he was nice, he was also very mean sometimes, like only when he is pissed he would say the truth... rarely and he would be very mean. Black men... are NOT like that, they tell women what to do and man handle them.. why is that?

[Anonymous]

Can we stop with the silly racist statistics already? It just opens doors for racial bashing. Majority of it is pure BS because it's more on a basis of that individual person. Are there weak white men? Sure, but there's also weak black, Asian, Latino and other men who are weak so this question is both biased and ridiculous. Men aren't made of stone. Having feelings, crying and being passive isn't something that's exclusively for females. Sometimes it depends a lot on the persons personality. I have noticed that introverts tend to be more passive. There could also be so many factors, maybe he had a rough childhood, maybe he has social anxiety disorder, it's a plethora of things that one can experience that will make them appear "passive and submissive". I would also like to add that being passive and talking things out isn't necessarily weak.

[LambertiFamily]

Shame on you. Very racist. Even your title ticked me off a bit. Sad that ignorance runs so rampid in this world. You are young and dumb; so I will ease up on you a little. Color has NO part in how aggressive or not a person is. Perhaps it's his upbringing, perhaps a past relationship has left him walking on eggshells around you... Perhaps it's YOU who knows... whatever the case, this is apparently a part of his personality: timidity, submissiveness. I honestly hope he finds someone better than someone as apathetic and close-minded as you.

Written by a black girl married to an awesome, strong white guy :)

[harakiri]

It was just that one guy lol. I had a white dude who was just wearing jeans and a long sleeved shirt (no gloves) shovel my frozen SUV out from the ice without me even asking. he just came over with a shovel and got it done. Ironically, there was a black dude who stood there watching the whole thing.

[ComDom]

That's a very odd generalization and a false one as far as I can tell. Looking back in history white men have been extremely aggressive maybe too much in many ways. Even now they still tend to be that way. I think what you found seems to be an anomaly.

But in either case to answer your question as best I can I will say this: the premise of your claim is false because white men on the whole are by definition not weak because of the power afforded to them politically, economically, and physically. At best the stereotype of the modern white male has (seemingly) become more passive because of cultural influence. This might be because of feministic guilt for men being as they are. It seems to me that he specifically might not be your type.

[KillerTaco]

I agree. Although MOST black males do indeed tend to be more aggressive than white males. Not all of then though.

[ComDom]

@KillerTaco I'm honestly not sure. I have friends that are black males and I have friends that are white males and they seem somewhat similar. I've also not seen any data that would indicate that to me either.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Because they are socialized to be passive from teachers, parents, and popular culture. If they act up, they're put on medication to "calm them down".

[KHaskins]

Sadly, this. Ritalin is prescribed for symptoms of behaving like a human male.

[TheWiseOwl]

Let's generalise an entire race of men based on an interaction with one person. The level of intelligence in this thread is astounding.

[Dєѕιвσу]

Lmao

[CHARismatic110]

Well you can't really generalize all white guys based off that one. I know a few guys like that. All mixed races. And I know some aggressive ass white guys. That's just how some guys are. Skin color doesn't really matter too much.

[Anonymous]

Are you serious? This is so stupid. Who wants to be told what to do or manhandled? Also, race has nothing to do with being an asshole. They're in all races. And I hope you find them all and they leave me alone. Because if my boyfriend manhandled me or told me what to do... he'd be single faster than a blink.

[XNicholeMariex3]

I have met different men of different ethnicity who can be just like this.

[mei0313]

But But... he doesn't represent the whole population of white men though lol I have several white guy friends, they aren't even close to what you described. :)

[Eugene]

Depends on a country, I guess.

If we're talking about the West, well, I think it has something to do with the forced feminization process of male population. Not sure why those at the top have such traitorous objective in mind, but in general I support it as long as such treason stays out of my country :)

[Vesuvius87]

Maybe he doesn't want to be someone he isn't and is not in his personality. If you want an aggressive man that manhandles you and is very dominant, you might want to dump him and find what you're seeking instead of trying to convert the poor guy.

My father has always been the like the type of guy you're seeking and let me tell you I hated every bit of it; I have no desires for a man like my father. So here I am looking for a more docile, mild-tempered guy.

[Vesuvius87]

If you want to find that type of man... go seek for what @pr3ttybrown is suggestion or go for some latinos that would have no problems saying ''Shut up'' and getting in your face if you try contradicting them.

[bubble_tea]

oh the stereotypes again.. I bet you're the 'Asian' anon girl who keeps asking why people like Asian girls.

[kangy]

Lmaooooooo

[Sparks32]

White men were portrayed as the gold star of strength, looks and success once. Now our societies had to portray us as foolish and weak to help make minorities feel better about themselves. We are expected to lower the bar so POCs from the 3rd world can get university degrees and to meet diversity hires quoter's while worshipping POC successes. Feminism help create the sensitive new age guy anyway so this might just be a lesson in being careful what you wish for.

[Hannah591]

You like a man who controls and dominates you, not a genuinely sweet caring man, that's all. It's nothing to do with race and you can't say all white men are weak, you've not met them all.

[Anonymous]

weakness has nothing to do with skin color, sister...

[KillerTaco]

Actually its scientifically proven that black men have more testosterone than white/Caucasian men.

[TheWiseOwl]

@KillerTaco - you do realise that Science can be manipulated to paint all kinds of pictures.

Have a read of this - www.telegraph.co.uk/.../...-in-Channel-4-show.html

[KillerTaco]

Those are claims there hasn't been any real research into that "theory". Actual research has been done on a genetic level to come to that decision. That's why black men tend to be more aggressive than white men. Ever hear the saying "Angry black man" or "Angry black woman" we're more predisposed to behave more aggressively because of that.

[KillerTaco]

That isn't to say every black man or woman bhaves in that manner. Not gunna lie when I was younger I had quite the temper and would lash out. Since then however I've learned to control my temper and do more productive things to pacify those emotions.

[ComDom]

@KillerTaco I'm not sure where you get your information but I'd strongly suggest you check your facts. Aside from a few small scale studies most research, that's been brought to my attention, indicates your claim is false.

Kubricht and the others (189 blacks 264 whites) showed blacks after age 40 have the same testosterone level

RJ Richards, F Svec, W Bao, SR Srinivasan and GS Berenson (519 blacks 519 whites) showed no difference in testosterone levels between blacks and whites

Jane A. Cauley and others (273 white women and 86 black women aged 65) - showed that androstenedione is lower in black women

Susan M. Gapstur1, Peter H. Gann, Peter Kopp, Laura Colangelo, Christopher Longcope and Kiang Liu (483 blacks 695 whites) - showed there is no difference between blacks and whites

The Boston Area Community Health (538 black, 651 Hispanic, 710 white) - showed blacks have the same testosterone level as whites

[KillerTaco]

These findings are all based on men and women at or around the age of 40 around the time male and female hormones production start to steadily decline. I still don't see how that proves anything.

Here is an article stating that black makes do indeed produce more... from a medical standpoint.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/3455741

And: www.academia.edu/.../Black_Males_and_Testosterone_Evolution_and_Perspectives

[OHGEE]

I'm a scientist. Nothing in science is PROVEN. The only think you are trying to prove is your own prejudice.

[OHGEE]

@killertaco

[kangy]

i dont think it has to do with race but a person's personality.

[kangy]

Both of you compatible

[kangy]

Not compatible*

[Anonymous]

You can't find a white man to "tell you what to do"? LMAO!

You sound like butt hurt black girl who is bitter at white guys because they don't like her.

Is this you? www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1290470-black-women-controversy

[Opinion Owner]

Or maybe this is you... www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1290709-is-it-bad-that-i-wish-i-was-a-white-woman

[LambertiFamily]

Amen. I'm AA. I hope Al Sharpton gets her pregnant and denies the child.

[Opinion Owner]

@LambertiFamily - that one made me laugh hard! :) Yep, that's just what she deserves. And probably exactly what she'll get too, but with some dumbass nobody on place of Al Sharpton.

[dudeman]

Because our modern day female oriented society took their balls. Thanks feminism.

[Jersey1]

I wonder how all those weak white guys took over and run the world?

[dudeman]

Disease and living in the cross section from asia and africa to get all the technologies. Thats the main reasons.

[KillerTaco]

Umm... Are you really asking this. Europeans stole and killed at every corner. There's a difference between aggression and barbarians. Because that's what they were barbarians. Got educated from other races then turned on them. That's not something to be proud of.

[KillerTaco]

And what @dudeman said. They were diseased infested and stole technologies and ideas from the very nations that educated and accepted them.

[Jersey1]

Dudeman's comment makes no sense to me. The comment was tongue in cheek but also there is truth there. You computer, the software language, the telecommunications were all developed and pushed out into the world by white guys. Your car, the airplanes etc etc etc. one thong white guys do well that isn't discussed, is that they work well with each other for common goals.

[dudeman]

Now u are changing the subject.

[Jersey1]

You did. You talked about technologies. Seriously, if she questions if white guys can be aggressive she is an idiot. if you support that, so are you.

[ComDom]

@KillerTaco @dudeman Every race takes information from each-other. There are plenty of white male (and females) geniuses that have very consistently revolutionized the world, time and time again. This is not an argument for their supremacy... this is a fact. I wouldn't even know where to start.

Every race has taken land from other races or at least attempted to. It's unfortunately hard for me to break apart your claim because you weren't specific. I'm going to assume you mean the arabs and Chinese, primarily. At best 'whites' took rudimentary math, science, gun powder, medicine, crossbows and then expanded upon them greatly. That's really about it. Which nations educated and accepted them? Who did they turn on? I'm not sure what you're talking about.

Also disease affects everyone... bubonic plague? I can't really respond to "barbarian" because that's just an opinion. Typically though the so-called 'white' communities often had better infrastructure than their neighbors though.

[ComDom]

@KillerTaco Also as far as I know many of the large scale epidemics originated in Africa or Asia so I'm not sure what you're talking about with respect to that either.

[dudeman]

See first u said why did whites take over the world now u are changing to why have whites made most advances in recent history. I think the two are tied but the advances came after taking over the world. Basically whites destroyed others infrastructure and political and social systems effectively crippling the world for the last eight hundred years. So my answer to your secondary argument is they were the only large population with the I tact infrustructure to do so.

[dudeman]

Its the same reason why rhe u ited states has made most advancements last century. We won world war one and two and fought on foreign land. Simple really.

[PrettyBama]

Lol what? I like those traits you mentioned. They're not only in white men. They're in people who are taught how to communicate properly at a young age.

I don't like being told what I do but I love to argue lol

[Anonymous]

There a difference between agressive and assertive. Most people don't know how to be assertive because they think speaking their mind means being an asshole so instead they lie or say nothing. That is the weakness I see. those who are not assertive first become passive, then aggressive then passive again. Assertive people can state their minds and positions firmly without being influenced by another's reaction. Weak men base their decisions on their woman's anger or sadness and sacrifices his own values, beliefs, and opinions to keep her calm. Assertive men know that she will whine and fuss and yell but stands firm in himself.

[Anonymous]

Society, school etc. I remember taking shit at school for ages, when I lashed out (because the teachers were useless wastes of skin and organs and wouldn't do anything) it was me who got in trouble. I agree with you that white people seem to have lost a lot of backbone, but some of the qualities you've describe sound a bit twattish to me!

[Anonymous]

I've met plenty of white men who aren't passive or submissive. What you describe though "they tell women what to do and man handle them"... yuck, you can keep those types of guys (and I know for a fact all black men are not like that).

[TheWiseOwl]

You've met every black man in the World have you? You've covered plenty of air miles, I'm rather envious, what was Chad like when you went to visit?

[Opinion Owner]

Um, reading comprehension much? I said "I know for a fact all black men ARE NOT like that".

[TheWiseOwl]

Yes so you've met all Black men in this World. How was Chad? I was rather hoping you'd knew as I fancy doing some voluntary work over there when I have finished my studies.

[Opinion Owner]

I think we're having a communication problem. The reason I can say I know for a fact that all black men are not the way she describes, is because I've dated a black guy who wasn't chauvinistic in the least, and I've met many black men who were not controlling assholes. So clearly, not all black men tell women what to do and all that nonsense. Also, no idea about Chad, but Kenya was amazing.

[harakiri]

@TheWiseOwl she's saying that ALL black men are NOT like that- meaning, some black men MAY BE like that lol.

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly. Looking back at it, maybe I worded it too ambiguously, but jeez lol.

[ComDom]

@Anonymous It's a bit of a stretch to call aggressive/strong males "chauvinistic". This is of course assuming you mean the definition that is as follows: "a person who believes one gender is superior to the other, as a male chauvinist or a female chauvinist." Males that are (reasonably) aggressive are demonstrating that they have a sufficient level of testosterone which is probably indicative of healthy biological function. Not to mention that they are probably more able to use their physical attributes for selfdefense.

[Phoenix98]

Weakness is not related to skin color if anything it's due to education or his way of life. To generalize a entire race based off the actions of one man is about one of the most ignorant choices I've seen yet.