Guys, why could you never fall in love with a fuckbuddy/friends with benefits?

[Anonymous18]

Hey guys, just wondering: how is it you could not fall in love with a girl you're having a sexual relationship with? I mean... Some chemistry must be there right?

[Hexxus]

I'm guessing you are getting feelings for one of your friends with benefits . What a lot of people describe as falling in love is a result of one of two things, the first being a sacristy mindset. If we believe it will be difficult for us to find someone else we are more likely to cling to whatever option we may have at hand.

The second would be people who have some sort of void in their life and they look to someone else to fill that void, in short placing the responsibility of their happiness on someone else.

If your dealing with a guy who has options and knows what he wants in a relationship and you do not fit that criteria for whatever reason you are out of luck.

You need to find out how he feels about the situation and if he does not feel the same you need to cut ties so you can move on.

[Mikebr25]

It's the friend zone that everyone wants to be in...

All the fun and zero commitments... Why would we encourage a crossover plan?

Yeah attraction is there but it's purely physical... Once emotions are voluntarily removed from the equation, it's a long winding road back to feeling anything.

I believe disclosing the crossover strategy may violate the bro code.

There isn't really a way to introduce more than sex after a while... Just have fun and date and stop once you are serious about someone.

[Anonymous]

No, I would never fall in love with a fuckbuddy because I figure out up front whether I have relationship interest in a girl. I won't start an friends with benefits arrangement before I know this for sure. Usually my fwbs are girls who are physically hot with whom I don't really get along, so there's no chance of me developing those feelings. I fucked a girl for six months who I actually couldn't stand, but in a way it made the sex hotter. Most guys just don't develop feelings from sex the way girls do.

[Xelebrum]

I don't do that friends with benefit bullshit, but if I ever DID, she would have to be the last person on the whole planet that I would ever date.

Before anyone says "How can that be, Xelebrum? How could you have sex with a girl that you would never date?", keep this in mind: Just like you don't have to hate someone to kill them, you don't have to like someone to have sex with them. Even though it would help and make more sense.

[Dandeus]

I don't do friends with benefits . But if I did, I would know pretty early whether she was serious relationship material and if she was I wouldn't waste my time on a friends with benefits situation and pursue a relationship from the start. It's not hard to figure out if a girl meets some basic criteria for being relationship material.

[DaddyRollingStone]

You dont love them, you love what they give you. You think that maybe you do like them and you could be something more but once its over and you're not turned on anymore, you realize you dont really like them and just wanted sex. You dont really know them if all you do is have sex, you dont go on dates or anything. Hell, you dont even really talk to them.

Besides sex, there is a very small emotional connection. at least for me.

[thesweetness]

i've done that before. frankly, i don't see how it's possble not to. i know at first it's supposed to be no feelings involved. after getting to know someone that intimately and sexually it's very hard to not care about them. i've fallen in love with an friends with benefits before and she actually felt the same so we decided to it would be better if we just called the whole thing off.

[Flat4]

I've had a couple, never led to being a girlfriend.

I could date other girls and have regular sex with a hot girl, but just didn't didn't quite gel with them enough to 'want them to be mine and mine only'

[Remonster]

But I did. It hurt me a lot. There is always some chemistry as sex releases Oxytocin, a chemical which bonds you to another person.

[Consultant]

I don't know I really don't, it's a very good question. WhyDon't I get more serious with my fwb? Probably too flirty with other girls.

[The_Lone_Ranger]

Not really. There is a difference between somebody you love and somebody you want to have sex with.

[Anonymous]

Cause porn. Guys are kinda used to getting off to girls without attachment